LOVE: A Many Splintered Thing

What is love?How can I love my enemy?Love is used in many ways.

Which are correct or incorrect?What does the word “love” mean

in the New Testament?

Wrong Views of Love

LOVE IS NOT A HOLE YOU “FALL INTO.”

Wrong Views of Love

LOVE IS NOT A WINDOW YOU “FALL OUT OF.”

Wrong Views of Love

LOVE IS NOT “PUPPY LOVE.”

Define “puppy love.”

How is real love different?

Wrong Views of Love

LOVE IS NOT “BECAUSE OF -.”What another did for me

How they helped me

Why do we love Jesus?

1 John 4:19 We love Him because He first loved us.

If you love because of – What happens when they stop doing for you?

Wrong Views of Love

LOVE IS NOT “IN ORDER TO GET.”

They have something I want so I will “love” them to get what I want.

When they no longer able to give what I want from them, love ends.

Wrong Views of Love

LOVE IS NOT “CUTE OR HANDSOME”.

Some are in love with the face, body, hair, muscles, figure, athletic ability.

We love the cheerleader or quarterback.

Wrong Views of Love

LOVE IS NOT “CUTE OR HANDSOME”.

What happens when those things change?

Gain weight, muscle becomes flab, lose hair, lose that school girl figure

Wrong Views of Love

LOVE IS NOT

“WHAT I LIKE OR ENJOY”.We are in love with music, movies, cars,

houses, dresses, shoes, THINGS.

We must know the difference in “LIKE” and “LOVE”.

1 year later – we don't “love” those shoes.

Is that what happens to love in a marriage?

Wrong Views of Love

LOVE IS NOT SOMETHING

“YOU MAKE”.Teens in the back seat of a car are not

“making love”

When you hear this phrase – translate it – FORNICATION.

Love can not be built, manufactured, made out of other materials

Correct Views of Love

1 English word – 4 Greek words

1 – Eros – sexual, animals, procreation; This word does not occur on the Bible.

2 – Storge – family love – grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins, siblings, parents

Correct Views of Love

1 English word – 4 Greek words3 – Philao – Emotion, friendship, like,

attraction,hang out, be together, date, love.

This word describes our relationship with friends, co-workers, people we enjoy being with, eat with, go shopping together, spend time together.

Correct Views of Love

1 English word – 4 Greek words4 – Agape – Decision about how to treat

another person, to seek what is best for another, above our own desires.

This word describes how God loves us.

John 3:16; Romans 5:8

This word describes how Jesus loves us.

Galatians 2:20

Correct Views of Love

1 English word – 4 Greek wordsMatthew 5:44 But I say to you, love your

enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you

How do you love your enemy? Decide to seek what is best for them. Are they trapped in a house on fire? Call 911.

Philos and Agape

John 21:15

So when they had eaten breakfast, Jesus said to Simon Peter, "Simon, son of Jonah, do you love Me more than these?" He said to Him, "Yes, Lord; You know that I love You." He said to him, "Feed My lambs."

Love = Agape – Do you seek what is best for another?

Love = Philao – We have beentogether for 3 years. We have shared much together. We are good friends.

Philos and Agape

John 21:16

He said to him again a second time, "Simon, son of Jonah, do you love Me?" He said to Him, "Yes, Lord; You know that I love You." He said to him, "Tend My sheep."

Love = Agape – Do you seek what is best for another?

Love = Philao – We have beentogether for 3 years. We have shared much together. We are good friends.

Philos and Agape

John 21:17

He said to him the third time, "Simon, son of Jonah, do you love Me?" Peter was grieved because He said to him the third time, "Do you love Me?" And he said to Him, "Lord, You know all things; You know that I love You." Jesus said to him, "Feed My sheep.

Love = Philao – Jesus changedwords. Peter, are we best offriends?

Love = Philao – We have beentogether for 3 years. We have shared much together. We are good friends.

Correct Views of Love

AGAPE LOVE IS A DECISION1 – Decide how you will treat someone

2 – Just make up your mind.

3 – Nothing to do with emotions (Philao is the emotional part of love.)

4 – God's Love, Jesus Loves Me, Marital love, Parental love – ALL are AGAPE.