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Missed anyof theprevious editions?Read them all at LightworkerMag.com
Light and dark. Yin and yang. Hello and goodbye.
Foreverycointherearetwosides,andthismonth’seditionofLightworker explores how,why andwhen to say goodbye tosituationsandmindsetsthatno longerserveyousothatevenmoreofyourtrueessencecanemergeintothelight.
Not surprisingly, eachmonth’s theme creates a focus formylifeandraisestopicsonapersonal level tomirrorthecontentofthemagazine.July’swasnoexceptionasIshedtearsandbidfarewelltoatoxicrelationship,negotiatedfrustratingbusinessobstacleswithasmuchgracefulreleaseasIcouldmuster,andembracedheart‐warmingrelationshipswithnewfriends.
I learnedalot, laughedmorethanI imaginedIwould,andamnowblessedwithadeeperunderstandingofmyrolewithintheworld.What’smore,thepainprovedcatharticandIimpressedmyselfwiththeinnercourageandself‐beliefthatlaydormantwithinjustwaitingforachallengetocallitforth.
MyhopeisthatthewordsofwisdomwithinTheGoodbyeIssuewillalsoempoweryouwiththestrength,gratitudeandcompas‐sion(bothforyourselfandothers)tomakethosechangesthatyour intuition is urging you address, and to continue on yoursoul’spathwithgreaterlight,loveandjoyinyourheart.
Loveandlight
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page 9CuttingTheCords:HowToIdentifyAndEndAToxicFriendship
page 11LetGoAndFlow‐GracefulRelease
page 13GoodbyeToOldPatternsAndHelloToNurturingTheSelf
page 15ThePersonalEvolutionTrilogyPartII‐MovingFromFearToCourage
page 18UnderTheSpotlight
page 19HonouringYourSensitivities
page 21SayingGoodbye...
page 25GlowwithHealth&Wellbeing
page 27LightworkerinTraining
page 29LightworkerChallenge
page 33TheBusinessman
page 35StudyingattheUniversityofLife
page 37TheAuthenticityDiary
page 41OnceUponaTime...
page 43WordsofWisdom
page 44LightworkerLoves...
page 45PauloCoelho
page 47TheList
page 48FeaturedLightworker:Amma
Contents:-Features Know Regulars
Thanksforthetweets‐loveandlighttoyouall:‐)@FloetryCatnap
Many thanks toyouall for listingme. Iammosthonoured!@soulpathway
MostRT’dDailyWisdomofthemonth:Areyouarabbitintheheadlights?
Mostpopularpostofthemonth:
Howdoyouhugpeople?Doyougenu‐inely create aheart connection, or is itaperfunctoryembracewithyourtorsosinches apart? Hugs are a way to sharetheloveandlightwithinyourheartandsoul,sonexttimeyouembraceanother,besuretomeanit.
“IfoundyourbrilliantmagazineonlyrecentlythroughFacebook.Ihavejustbeenreadingthepieceonhope.Iwassoamazedtobeinspiredwiththissimpletruth:Whenwearefullofhopewestopbeinghopeless.”Wendy Anne Flanagan
“Greatissue!”DrJudithOrloff
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READER RESPONSES We love hearing from you!
Nikki WyattNikkiisendlesslyintriguedbyuniversalkarmic laws and ancestral dynamics;particularly in how they are reflectedthrough the energies of flowers, crys‐talsandanimals,andsheenjoysprat‐tling in various European languageswhich have happy hedonistic memo‐riesattachedtothem,usuallyinvolvingdance,songandfruitsofthevine.
Contributors
Sandy NewbiggingSandy is known as the creator of theMind Detox Method, which has beenshown on TV around the world on ashow called “Spa of Embarrassing Ill‐nesses”,butwhat fewpeopleknow ishe’s also a modern day monk whosespiritual Sanskrit name is Sutratman,whichmeans‘thethreadofsouls’,andherecentlyreturnedfromamotorbiketour of Spain with six othermotorcy‐clingmonks.
Erin PavlinaErinisadie‐hardtrekkieandgeekwhoprefers action movies to chick flicks,loves poker but no one will play withherbecauseshe’spsychic,andlikestokidnapherfriendsjustforfun.
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Focus the Light
WhatisJoy?
Joyisafeeling,theinitialjoltofgoodenergythatisthenfollowedbythestateofhappi‐ness.Joyispurerthanhappiness.We’reremindedofcartoons,songandlaughter!
Joyisexuberantsmiles,aninnerglowandfeelingofpeace;beingenergeticallyonfirewithsomekindofinnerknowingthatalliswell.Joyseemstobetriggeredbyanunusualandunexpectedoccurrencethatbringsan immediateandunsurpassedrelieffromallcurrentissues.
Joyislove,andadirectlinktoSourcethatcomestoliftus(evenifbriefly)toahigherdimension.
WhatdoyouthinkofwhenyouthinkofJoy?
Joyisawhitebubble‐itfloatsalongandburstswhenittouchesyou,blessingyouinthatmomentwithunexpectedgoodness.
“I’m reminded of being a child, times where things are simple, when I don’t overcomplicated things.”
Childrenareoftenfilledwithjoyduetotheirunmarredperspectiveoflife,lackofanystressandfreedomfrom‘innercritic’behaviour.
“I think of Dolphins; they are anchors for Joy on Earth. They seem so ready to love unconditionally.”
WhatgivesyouJoy?
People:familyandfriends.Animals.Momentsoflaughter.Livingmypassions.Unex‐pectedblessings.HonouringwhereIamandenjoyingmomentswithoutworry.
Beingaroundchildren,theiruntaintedJoycannotfailtoliftthespirits.
Joyisourrelationshipwithourtrueselves,withSource.Anythingthatwearetrulynot(anxiety,depression,stressetc)isablocktoourexperiencingJoy.
Joyandloveareintrinsicallyconnected.BehindJoythereisgreatlove.LoveopensyouuptoJoy.
Focus the Light
Nextmonth’stopic:Truth
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Joy
True inner joy is self - created.
It does not depend on outer circumstances.
A river is flowing in and through you carrying the message of joy.
This divine joy is the sole purpose of life.
What is joy?
It is a bird that we all want
To catch.
It is the same bird that we all love
To see flying.
From Wings of Joy - Sri Chinmoy
features
features
Cutting The Cords: How To Identify And EndA Toxic FriendshipErinPavlina
Let Go And Flow - Graceful ReleaseNikkiWyatt,TheKarmaCoach
Goodbye To Old Patterns And Hello To Nurturing The SelfNicolaPhoenix,TheSpiritualPsychologist
The Personal Evolution TrilogyPart II - Moving From Fear To CouragePaulVaughanWilby
Under The SpotlightSandyNewbigging
Honouring Your SensitivitiesShelaSkarp
Saying Goodbye...SimonWelch
Todiscover if youhavea toxic friend‐shipthatnolongerservesyou,makealistofallyourfriendsandaskyourselfthe followingquestionsabouteachofthem. If you answer “yes” to any ofthese questions, your relationship islikelytoxic.
Doyouhavetobesomeoneelse?
Can you be yourself when you’rearound this friend, or do you have totoneitdown,playitsafe,notrocktheboat?Areyoufreetodiscussanything,ordoyouhavetowatchwhatyousayto avoid triggering hot button issues?When you’re in a healthy non‐toxicfriendship you should feel free to beyourself.Truefriendswillacceptyouasyouareandnotrequireyoutobesome‐thingyou’renot.Yourfriendsmaynot
always agree with your opinions butyou should always feel safe and com‐fortableexpressingthem.
Doyoutwocompete?
When you two get together do youshareandcomparetoseewhoisdoingbetter?Truefriendswillfeelexcitementwhengood thingshappen toyou,notjealousy.Agoodfriendwillwantyouto
succeedandwillshareinyourvictories.Likewise, do you feel you can’t sharegoodnewsaboutyourownlifebecauseyouknowitwillbringyourfrienddownormake themuncomfortable? That’sa sign that your friend isn’t comfort‐ablewiththeircurrentplaceinlifeanddoesn’twantanyoneto“getahead”ofthem. Friends should cooperate, notcompete.
Isyourfriendneedyoralwaysplayingthevictim?
Doyoufeeldrainedafteryourinterac‐tionswiththisfriend?Aretheyalwaysneeding your help or your support,especially for the same old problemsyou’ve discussed a hundred times?Do they really want your help or justyour shoulder to cryon? Are they re‐ally interested in improving their lifesituation or are they just addicted tothedrama? It’sokaytobesupportivetowards people who really need yourhelp‐that’spartofbeingagoodfriend‐ but when no progress is ever madeandyourfriendisstillwhiningoverthesame fixable problems, that’s toxic toyou.
Doesthisfriendliketoteardownyourselfesteem?
Whenyouinteractwithyourfrienddoyou feel empoweredand loved, or doyoufeelsteppedonandcrushed?Doesyourfriendtellyouwhattheydon’tlikeaboutyouorotherwisetrytostripyourpower by telling you how to run yourlife? This is nothealthybehaviour. Atruefriendwillnottrytorunyourlifeor
Erin PavlinaCutting The Cords: How To Identify And End A Toxic Friendship
Goodfriendsareworththeirweightingold,andthensome! Strongfriendshipsprovidelove, support, growth, and someonewho’sgotyourbackinacrisis.Butwhathappenswhenyoufindyourselfinafriendshipthat’sgonesour? Doyouendure it,fix it,orendit?Doyouhaveanobligationtobewithyourfriendthroughthickandthin? Staying inatoxic relationship can lower your vibration
whichwillaffectyourabilitytofulfillyourlifepurpose,soifyoucan’tsavetherelationship,you’llhavetodisengagefromit.
Erin is an intuitive counselor who uses her psychic gifts to help people redis-cover the path to their life purpose. She has written hundreds of articles on spiritual, personal, and psychic develop-ment which you can find on her website. She also conducts private sessions for clients.
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Strong friendships provide love. support, growth, and someone who’s got your back in a crisis
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makeyoufeellikeyoucan’tmanagelifeonyourown;insteadagoodfriendwilllisten,reflectwithyouonyouroptions,and letyoumakeyourowndecisions.Theywill support and encourage you,butalsobehonestiftheytrulyfeelyouareheadedfordisaster.
Isyourfrienddisrespectful?
Doesyourfriendflakeonyouorshowup late for youroutingswithnoapol‐ogy?Dotheytalkaboutyounegativelybehindyourbacktoyourotherfriends?Do they lie to you? Friends shouldbe respectful of your time and yourrelationship. Time spent with friendsshouldfeelsafe,loving,andnurturing,notstressful,annoying,orrude.
CuttingtheCords
Sohowdoyouremoveyourselffromatoxicfriendship,especiallyonethathasbeenaroundforalongtime?Youhavetoextricateyourselfgentlybutfirmly.Youdon’t have tobemean, accusing,or give ultimatums. You could simplysay,“I’m not enjoying our friendship the way I used to. I no longer feel like we’re a vibrational match for each other, and I
don’t like how I feel when I’m with you. I need to pull my energy back and disconnect from our friendship, but I wish you well in life and all your endeavours.”
Getting too specific or detailed aboutwhatyoudon’tlikeabouttherelation‐ship can just drag it out. They’ll firebackwithpromisestofixthingsorcom‐plaintsoftheirown.Iftherelationshipcanactuallybesalvaged,goaheadandgive itatry,but ifacoupleofmonthspasswithnoprogressthenyoushoulddisentanglefromthefriendship.Losingyou as a friend could be thewake‐upcallyourfriendsneedtomakechangesinhowtheyconductthemselvesintheirotherrelationships.
Energeticallyspeaking,youwanttoletgowith love, forgiving past hurts andfeelingsandmovingonwithyour life.When you clean house and removetherelationshipsthatdon’tserveyourhighest good, youmakeway for newrelationships that will empower andexciteyou.Makeroominyourlifeforhealthy friendships, and watch yourenergyandpowersoar!
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Energetically speaking, you want to let go with love, forgiving past hurts and feelings and moving on with your life
“ “Raising Your Vibration (audio program): 10 ways to raise your vibration in under 10 minutes. Includes 25 minutes of instruction plus two guided medita-tions designed to raise your vibration in less than 10 minutes. Mp3 or CD. www.erinpavlina.com/products
Myown lifehasbeenoneofconstantchange; of feeling ‘different’; at timesstruggling to fit in. From my currentperspective I now realise that it wasthe perfect preparation. My karmicpurpose,as I’vesincediscovered, istobring information from other dimen‐sionsintocurrentawareness.Tobridgethoseworldsmosteffectively Ihad tomake that journey myself, living veryconventionally until I was proddedpainfullyandreluctantlyawaketootherlevels of consciousness.You can readsomeofthehighlights(andlowlights!)ofthatjourneyhere–Ihopeitprovidessomeinspirationandinsightsintoyourownpath:TurningPointArticle
Theenergyoftiming
Experiencing so much change myselfmeansthatInoticemuchmorequicklywhenit’stimetosaygoodbye‐whetherit’s to a job, relationship or favouriteshirt. Like death and taxes, changeis one thing we can sure of in life.
Mastering the art of the timely good‐byeallowsustoflowonandembracethenewwithaslittleresistanceaspos‐sible.
Theabilitytostepbackandseethingsfromahigherperspectivecanbeveryhelpful in lessening any pain or dis‐comfort involved in major change. Inaddition, it’s useful to know what toexpect,sothatwedon’tdecidethatallthedifficulties that ariseare signs theuniverse is saying no to our desire tochange.Often,whenwesetan inten‐tiontoletgoandcreateanewreality,thefirstthingthathappensisthattheaspectsofourlifethatdon’tservethenewrealitybegintodisappearortrans‐form. Forexample,onesummer I settheintentiontostepupwithmycoach‐ing practice and was getting a newwebsite designed.Apart from wavingfarewell tomyoldwebsite, inaseriesofunexpectedbreakdowns,additionalgoodbyes suddenly includedmy com‐puter, accountant, a large number ofcar parts, hoover, printer, hairdryer,boiler and virtually every machine Idepended upon. I toremy hair out atthe time, but looking back, replacingandupgradingthemputmeinamuchbetterpositiontofulfilmyintentionofsteppingup,whichiswhattheuniversehadbeenrespondingto.
SomeofthemosteffectiveresourcesIfindforsupportingchangeandreleasefrom inherited ancestral patterns areflowerandcrystalessences.We’reprod‐uctsofNatureandthere’snoresistancewecanfeelthatNaturecannothelpusrelease.Painistheresultofresistancetoflowandoneof thefirst thingsmyguides told me was that flowers areflow‐ers; theyaredesigned tohelpusflow. Here are some examples of myfavouriteflowersandcrystalstohelpussaygoodbyegracefully.You’llfindmanyin the Transformation Essence Rangewhich includes ‘Graceful Release’ and‘LetGoandFlow’.
Youcanalsoclaimyourfreesoulflowerreading by signing up to the Spirit ofTransformation newsletter, which of‐fersyouadiscountedpersonalessenceattunement.
Flower and Crystal Essences forGracefulRelease
BleedingHeart:
This soothes heartbreak and harmo‐nises relationships where there hasbeen neediness or co‐dependence.Bleeding Heart helps you integratethe grief of bereavement or loss of arelationship. Itencouragesthereleaseofpainfulcurrentandpast lifeexperi‐ences.Wonderfully comforting if your
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Nikki Wyatt, The Karma CoachLet Go And Flow - Graceful Release
G is for Goodbye. It’s also for Grace; theenergyneededtohelpusletgo.Ourattach‐ment to relationships, lifestyles, thoughtpatternsandbeliefsaboutwhat’srightandpossibleforuscanbeentrenchedovermanygenerationsandpastlives.Often,wewon’tletgountilthepainofstayingwhereweareisgreaterthanthefearofchange.
As the Karma Coach I’m a Gaia healer and writer trained in vibrational medi-cine, specialising in releasing ancestral patterns using crystal and flower es-sences, channelled information and remote energy attunements. I also write for Soul and Spirit magazine. Visit www.spiritoftransformation.com
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When many things release it’s often a sign of major ener-getic and vibrational change
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heartisbreaking,thisessencesupportscompassion for yourself. It helps youshiftfromfeelinghelpless,trappedandwanting to change another person orsituationtorealisingthatyoucanonlychange yourself and your reactions.BleedingHearthelpsyoustepoutsidethe situation, releasing the heartachesothatyourheart isopenandabletoloveagain.Italsoopensyoutotheheal‐ingpowerofmusic.UsefulAffirmation: ‘I honour my grief. When the time is right for me I release it and move on.’
RiverOats:
Thisessencehelpsusletgoandmovewhere theflowof life is trying to leadus. It can be so easy to think that ifwe pursue something long enough,somehow itwill come to fruition. It’shard to let go of a cherished dream,yetwemayhaveactuallyout‐grownitandachievingitwouldn’tbringushap‐piness. Instead,there issomethingfarbetter that awaits us oncewe releasethosegoalsanddreamsthatnolongerserveus.RiverOatshelpsustodothiswithgreatereaseandjoy.UsefulAffir‐mation:“I allow the river of life to carry me along to my greatest good and joy”
RedBottlebrush:
Thisessencecalmsanxiety.Ithelpsusbreak unhelpful habits, and move onwhen we’re resisting change. It sup‐ports uswhenwe’re overwhelmed bysignificantchangesuchasanewhome,countryor lifephasesuchas leavingajoborretirement.Ithelpsanyphysicalcycle that’s beginning or ending e.g.pregnancy,parenthood,menopauseoroldage.Ifyoucan’tletgoofarelation‐ship and keep pining for that personand your times together, Red Bottle‐brushhelpsyoumoveonasitbrushesaway the past. UsefulAffirmation: “I lovingly release the past, creating space for a joyful new phase”
MorningGlory:
This essence balances the subtle en‐ergybodyassociatedwiththenervoussystem, helping us get up andmain‐tain energy levels through the day. Itsupportsusinreleasingnervoushabitsandunhealthyorunhelpfulbehaviour,throughspiritualawakenings.Itcalmsirritability, including teeth grinding,restlessness at night or nervous chat‐ter. Thisessenceincreasesouraware‐ness of inherited ancestral behaviourpatterns. It’shelpfulwhenwe’re livingin the rose‐tinted past because wedon’t want to change a current un‐pleasantsituation.Itencouragesustolookforwardwithfaithandenthusiasmusing happy memories as inspirationtocreate the futurewewant. Itpro‐motes spiritual vision, guidance andclarity. It fills our heart with love andcompassion. It stimulates vitality andrejuvenation, helping usmake a freshstart.UsefulAffirmation:“I engage with the present, integrating past lessons to create an exciting future”
Danburite:
Thisessencecleansescellularmemoryafter emotional clearing, speeding upcellreprogramming.Itcarriesaparticu‐larlypurevibrationwhichworksonourheart chakra. It facilitatesconnectionwithangelsandangelicdimensions.Itsmoothsourpath,bringinginnerpeaceand an easier connection to our innerguidance. It facilitates deep change,allowingustoletgoofthepast.Itcanactasakarmiccleanser,releasingstub‐born inherited ancestral beliefs andpatterns, enabling our soul to guideusontoanewpath. Danburiteworksin the third eye and crown chakras,promotingluciddreaming.UsefulAf‐firmation: “I release ancestral patterns and beliefs, allowing higher wisdom to guide me in a new direction.”
With acknowledgement for informa‐tion from: Morningstar Essences,Crystal Herbs, Desert Alchemy, Aus‐tralianBushFlowerEssences,AnanadaApothecary, Judy Hall’s The Crystal Bible, Flower Essences and Vibrational HealingbyGurudas
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Ifirmlybelievethatnopartofourdeci‐siontochangeneedsinvolvecriticisingorpunishingourself.Delvedeeper,thislearningthatweareundertaking isallpartof the journey,wearenotwrongforlearningwhatisbestforus.Infact,youaregivingyourselvesagift.Thisisespeciallyimportantwhenwearetalk‐ingaboutchangingourwaysofbeing.Eventhefactthatyouarereadingthismagazine,orquestioningyourthoughtsandbehaviours,showsawillingnesstochange. Nurture that willingness, notthe idea that you may have caused
yourselvesa fewchallengesalong theway.Thatisthepast.Howdowelearnwhatweneedtochange,ifwearenotrubbedupagainstourownegoorsitua‐tionsthatcauseusfeelingsofunease?
Self‐nourishment
Let us address this idea of nourish‐ing our self. If we do not feel thatwe are worthy of loving or nurturingrelationships, will we allow ourselvestoembrace suchunions?Willweholdourselves in relationships that rein‐forcethatwearenotgoodenough?Ifwedonot think thatweare skilledorintelligent enough to do the job thatwedreamof,willwetakethestepstomoveintoanewworksituation?Mostimportantly, ifwedonot feel thatwearedeservingofsomethingbetter,willwebewillingtoletgoofwhatwehavenow?
Amindsetthat“something bad is better than nothing at all” isnotgoing tohelpyoutomoveforward.Something
betteriswaiting.Eachday,allowideasthatyouareworthy,youaredeservingand‐mostofall‐thatyouareallowedtoenjoythebestinlife.Youcanrepeattheseassentenceswithemotionbehindthewords:“I allow myself to experience the best”.Or,allowyourselftotapintothefeelingsofacceptance,joyandnur‐turingofyourselfbyvisualizingyourselfasthewonderfulbeingthatyouareandenjoyingthefeelingsthatarise.Youcanaskyourselfeachmorning,“What am I going to do today that will make me feel and think better about myself?’Leteachday includeonepositive step towardslearningtoloveandcareforyourself.
Ourhighestgood
Aswebegintoembracemorepositivefeelingstowardsourself,thequestionturns towhat relationships, situationsandhabitswehave inour life thatdonotresonatewiththisnewideaofselfnurturing, respect and love. Whetherwe call it our intuition, our innerknowingorgut feelings,weare really
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I firmly believe that no part of our decision to change needs involve criticis-ing or punish-ing our self
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“Nicola is The Spiritual Psychologist. She runs her busy clinic in the heart of Cov-ent Garden within Neals Yard Remedies Therapy Rooms. She is a Yoga teacher, psychologist, meridian energies practi-tioner, motivational speaker and writer. Through her work, Nicola promotes a complete system that guides, sup-ports and empowers all aspects of per-sonal change, growth and development. Nicola’s new book will be published by Findhorn Press in 2011.
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Nicola PhoenixThe Spiritual PsychologistGoodbye To Old Patterns And Hello To Nurturing The Self
Whenaddressing limitingbeliefsandmind‐sets thatdonotserveus,wearealsoques‐tioning themindsets that are not nurturingandlovingourself.Oneaspectofthisisdem‐onstrated in the people and situations thatwechoosetoincludeinourlifepath,forifwe
hadourownhighestgoodattheforefront,wemaynotsubjectourselvestoremaininginsituationsandrelationshipsthatrein‐forceourowninnerunease,discomfortand,sometimes,pain.Learningtoletgoofthesesituations,peopleandmindsetsen‐ablesyoutotapintoanunlimitedpotentialforfulfillment,andultimately,peaceandhappiness.
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addressing those inner most feelingsthattelluswhatisrightforourhighestgood.Manypeopletellmethattheyarefirmlyintouchwiththesefeelings,buttheydonotlistentothem.Othersfindtheloudnessoftheirhabitualnegativethoughts overpower their intuition.Someevenfeelthattheirintuitioncan‐notbetrusted,as ithadpreviously letthemdown.
Wearemovingawayfromdistrustnow,solet’sfindmoreappreciationforwhatwecan learn fromourselves, asmuchaswherewecangoforward.Ifyoufindthatyouarenotabletohearyourintui‐tionthentrytakingafewdeepbreaths,relaxing and calming the busy mind.Then,simplyaskyourself, “What is right for me now?” Youcanstartlisteningtoyourintuitionbymakingsmallchoicesand decisions to allow your feelingswithintoriseupandbeheard.Promptyourselfwithquestionssuchas,“What do I feel like doing today?” “What do I feel like eating right now?” Learntotapintowhatfeelsrightforyou.Allowyourselfto trust this inner knowing, for it isputtingyourwellbeingattheforefrontandthatisyournewwayofbeing.
Nowwecanturntothedeeperques‐tions:
Does this situation in my life feel right for me?
Does this job nurture my inner desires for happiness?
Does this relationship allow me to feel good about myself?
Is this relationship right for me?
If I did not fear moving forward, is there something else in my life I would rather be doing?
Allow yourself this time to discoverwhatitisthatwouldfulfilyou.Beopentolookingattheworldwiththepoten‐tialforsomethingnew.
Sayinggoodbyewithlove
Wedonotneedtomoveawayfromtheoldwithresentmentorfrustration,foritisthissituationorpersonthathasal‐lowedustoseeourselvesinanewway.Gratitude for the learning can bringimmense understanding, whereasanger and resentment can keep thisdiscomfortwithinusaswemoveontosomethingnew.Peopleoftenfeelthattheiractionswillhurtanother,butifyouaremovingawayfromanotherpersontonourishyourself,rememberthatyouarealsocreatingthespacefortheotherpersontolearnandgrow.Justbecause
youdecidetolookafteryourselvesandchange does notmean that everyonearound you will do the same. Theirresistanceispartoftheirjourney.Ifyouare ready tomove forward to reclaimyourhappiness,healthand fulfilment,thengoforit.Itisyourbirthrightafterall.Theuniversewillsupportyoufullyinthisdecisiontomoveontosomethingthatisbetterforyouineveryway.
Be open to looking at the world with the potential for something new“ “
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We stand at a very particular pointin time ‐ uniquewithin a lifetime andmillennia, in fact, unique to approxi‐mately26,000years.Theearthisflyingthroughspace,andwhenIsayflying,Imean reallyflying, folks.Weare reallystepping outwith pedal to themetal.The Earth’s rotational speed is about1,000 miles per hour and while we’respinning like a huge top, we’re alsoracingnon‐stoparoundthesun.Earthtravelsalongitsorbitalplaneataround66,600 miles per hour (18.5miles persecond).Iknowitallseemscasualandpeaceful while you sit on the surfacereadingthisarticle,butweareactuallyonthemove.Andfast.
TheEarth’saxisisofcoursetiltedtotheperpendicular at about 23.5 degrees,which gives us our four seasons, butwhile we’re spinning at this angle wearealsowobblingslightlyonthisaxis.The slight discrepancy to the verticalobliquityof theelliptic isanexcursion
of about 2.4 degrees in either direc‐tion from our true axis.The full cycleof one wobble from 24.5 degrees to22.1degreestakesaround13,000yearsto complete, in each direction, givingus a round total of 26,000 years frompointAandbacktopointAagain.Thisprovides uswith the 26,000‐year pro‐cessionofthezodiac.Soinsummary,itseemssolidonthesurfacebutit’snotawhollystablerotation.
TheDawningAge
Weareenteringwhatisknowninastro‐logicalparlanceastheAgeofAquarius.WewerepreviouslyintheAgeofPisces(the fish), which started around thetime of Jesus (hence the many fishsymbolsintheBible’sNewTestament).Throughout known and more secrethistories,thesehandsoftheclockoftheuniverse reachcertainalignmentsandatthosetimes‐likeagreatcosmicbellringingthehour‐everythingchanges.Thesetimesofchangecanbetrackedto periods of great social change andoften‐hugeparadigmshiftsinthewaytheworldworks.
Inrecentyears,therehasbeenaverita‐ble storm, almost reaching saturationpoint,ofwriterswarningofdiretimesto come; Global War, massive Earthchanges, Armageddon, the fulfilmentofdarkpropheciesandadoomthatwas
long foretold will soon descend uponour world. Let’s face it, it has alwaysbeeneasytosellDoomsday;ithasbeendoneeversincemanlivedwithinorgan‐ized communities and there is alwaysbesomeonewhoiswillingtolisten.Butisthereanytangibleevidencefortheseclaims,andinwhatformdoesittake?
There are certain, and quite numer‐ous,telltalesignsonourplanetandinoursolarsystemat largethatsuggesta very different course of events thantheorthodoxtenet,andtherearealsoother more esoteric signs that canbe found around the world. Evidencethat was left by our ancestors clearlysuggests that they possessed a veryextensive and extraordinarily detailedknowledgeoftheseevents,andofthebehaviour andworkings of our planetandsolarsystem.Thereisalsoevidencethattheybasedentireculturesonthesecelestial events and believed them tobemomentsof incredible significanceformankindandtheEarth.
So, we stand at a portentous timewhere great change is unfolding, andthe same applies to ourselves. Westandatauniquepoint inhistorywitha unique opportunity to change bothourselves and how we live. The chal‐lengeisindecidingwhatwewouldliketosaygoodbyeto.
Paul Vaughan Wilby BSc (Hons), SI, FDN
The Personal Evolution TrilogyPart II - Moving From Fear To Courage
Sayinggoodbyecanbecomparedtoletting
goofsomething;itisaclosuredrawinganold
habit,relationshiporpatterntoanendand
allowingourselvestochange,grow,evolve,
lightenorincreaseourvibration.
Paul knows you can CHANGE; your pos-ture, your mental/emotional patterns, your body shape, your ailments - your life. His experience ov Hons), a Struc-tural Integration (Rolfing®) Practitioner and practises Functional Diagnostic Nu-trition®, Metabolic Typing™, endocrine (hormone) balancing, emotional release, and applied biophysics (or scientific en-ergy work).
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HowdoIknowwhattosaygoodbyeto?
That’s a good question to beginwith.Whatisgoodforme,andwhatisnot?Opinionsonthistopicarewide,variedand mostly based on hot air and im‐plantedmarketingvalues.Buttherearewaysofgettingauthentic“yes”or“no”answers.Dowsingisoneofmyfavour‐ite,butitrequiresalittlepracticeandapendulumorrods.Ifyouhaveneither,another good option is muscle test‐ing.Muscletestingworksbymakingastatementandthentestingforpositiveornegative (strongorweak)muscularresponses.
Hold the thumb and forefingerofyournon‐dominanthand(left,inmy case) in a circle.While at‐tempting to hold these two fin‐gers together, try to pull themapartwith the forefingerofyourdominanthand.Ifyournon‐dom‐inanthandfingersstaytogether,thentheanswerispositive.Iftheysplit,theanswerisnegative.
Whenpreparingtotest,youwanttomakesureyouarefocusedontheprocessandthatyouconnectwith your Higher Self and un‐conscious mind. This may seemredundant or unnecessary, butitworksbestthisway. IalsotestthatIamcleartotest,aslearnedfromamuscletestingspecialist.
Tomakesureyou’reconnected.“I’m connected to my Higher Self. I’m connected to my unconscious mind. My Higher Self is connected to my unconscious mind.”
Tomakesureyou’recleartotest.“Clear to test. Clear to test. Clear to test.” (thepowerof3)
Getthathealthyhappybuzz
The frequency of vibration of cellscorrelatestothehealthof thosecells.Simplyput,thefasteryouarevibratingatacellularlevelthelesslikelyyouaretobeunwell.Inhisbook‘TheEssentialBeginnings’, Dr Young developed anelectronicinstrumentthatcouldmeas‐uretheelectrical frequencyof individ‐ual cells. He measured the frequencyofthecellsinthebodiesofpatientsathismedicalpracticeandcorrelatedthemeasurementswithwhateverailmentstheydisplayed.Fromthis,hewasabletodeterminethatthehealthyrangeofthehumanbodyis62‐68Hertz.Atthislevelandabove,nobodyexhibitedanyailmentsatall.
Everyone with a common cold had acellularfrequencyof58Hzorless;forfluitwas57Hzorless;candidasymptomsbegan toappearat 55Hz; forEpsteinBarr virus it was 52 Hz. Everyone hemeasured with some form of cancerhad a cellular frequency of 42 Hz orless.Clearly,highfrequencycellscorre‐spondwithbetterhealth,sostriveforafrequencyofatleast62Hz.Ifyouhaveaccess to hismachine, that’s great. Ifnot, justmuscletestwhereyouareatonthescaleofphysicalhealth.
Hawkins’scaleofenlightenment
PhDpsychotherapistHawkinscameupwithascaleofenlightenmentonwhichonecouldassesstherelativevibrationofanything‐self, ideals,business,na‐tions,Earth.Yougettheidea.
TheScale
Level LogEnlightenment 700‐1000Peace 600Joy 540Love 500Reason 400Acceptance 350Willingness 310Neutrality 250Courage 200Pride 175Anger 150Desire 125Fear 100Grief 75Apathy 50Guilt 30
Testyourselftoascaleofnumbers
There’sabitofatricktotestingscalesofnumbers.Thebasicmethodistostartatthebottom(orwhereyouthinkyouare)andthenkeepmovingupasfarasyoutestpositive.Onceyoutestnega‐tive,you’vegonetoofar.Whentesting,I always introduce the concept tomyHigher Self and unconscious mind byannouncingoutloudwhatIamdoing:
“On the Hawkins scale of zero to 1000, where 1000 is enlightenment and 600 is peace, I am currently vibrating at…”
After the first test, I cut the test lan‐guagedownabit:
“On the Hawkins scale of zero to 1000, I am currently vibrating at…”
Once Iknowwhere Iamonthescale,I start using EFT (Emotional FreedomTechnique)tomoveup.
Manifestwithgreaterpower
Finding forgiveness, learning grati‐tude, healing phobias and addictionsareallcharacteristicsofahi‐vibeliving.
Having a higher vibration in-creases the man-ifesting power on all levels
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Spiritualgrowthisalsoenhanced,withclients experiencing a deeper con‐nection with the source, leading to agreater senseofpeaceandwellbeing.Healing and psychic abilities are en‐hanced,includingcommunicationwithspiritualhelpersorguides,recognitionof synchronicity opportunities, andmanifesting. It is therefore possibletorealisebenefitsonall levels, includ‐ing the proverbial health, wealth andhappiness.Metaphysiciansunderstandthatwecreateourownrealityasevery‐thingisconnectedandhumanthoughtcreateson theethericplanewhat canbemanifestedintothephysicalworld,simply by holding the right intention.Withtherightattitude,wecanco‐cre‐ateourideallife.
Havingahighervibrationincreasesthemanifestingpoweronalllevels.
Raiseyourvibration
Thefirststeptoraisingyourvibrationistoremovefromyourlifethethingsthatmightbekeepingitlowerthanitcouldbe. Obvious things include dietarychoices,suchassugar,artificialsweet‐eners and coffee.Coffee can instantlyreduce cellular frequency by around10Hz. The ‘universal test’ for appliedkinesiology (muscletesting) issaccha‐rine.InanexperimentbytheUniversityof Applied Kinesiology in Minnesota,USA,peoplefromallwalksoflife,eth‐nicities and geographies tested weakwith saccharine. Similarly, processedor ‘dead’ foodsgenerally testweak. Ifitcomesinapacketorcan,itprobablywon’tdomuchforyou.
Exposure to negative energy lowersyour vibration too, such as toxins infoodandhouseholditems,microwavedfoods, and electromagnetic energies,including those emitted by cellularphonesandelectricalappliances.Gary
Youngdeterminedthatelectricalappli‐anceshaveafrequencyrangeofaround60Hz,lowerthanishealthyforhumans,and that theiralternatingcurrentsaredetrimental.Clearly, itwill be difficultto live in themodernworldandavoidallof these,but strategies for limitingexposurecanbehighlybeneficial.
Lifestyle choices can have an impact,and stress can create a particularlystrong effect on your vibration. En‐trappedemotionswill alsoholdvibra‐tiondown,particularlyanxiety,depres‐sion, phobias and addictions. Peoplewho are hard‐hearted ‐ that is, holdconsistent negative thoughts towardsothers‐tendtohavealowervibration,as do those who avoid or resent hu‐mancontact.Tryingtoavoidretreatinginto a solitary, uncaring existence isimportanttomakingprogressonyourvibometer.
Saygoodbyewithreleasing
So, now you can test where you arephysically, emotionally or even in lifeingeneral.Youcandiscoverwhatraisesyour vibrations and, conversely, whatlowersit.Suddenly,youcanstarttoen‐gineeranenvironmentandhealththatliterally buzz. If you refer back tomyarticle in the lastedition,youwillfinda technique called releasing that youcanuseonanythingyouwould liketochange.Thisoneisparticularlyeffectiveonchangingstuckemotionalpatterns,butcanalsobeuseddirectlyonphysi‐cal ailments.Or, you can just directlyrelease our position on the HawkinsscaleorYoung’scellularfrequency.
Either way, we stand at a landmarkin history and everything is due forunfathomable change. Physicists andShaman alike tell us that the worldand everything in it are spun out ofconsciousness. If we are sidestepping
allthedoomandgloommerchantswehad better startmaking sure that ourconsciousness issendingcalm,nurtur‐ingmessagestotheplanetweliveon.Ifwewantabetterworldandsociety,wemustbeginchangingwhatisinourminds.Wherebettertostartthanwithourowngoodbyestooldrubbish?
Asaclosingthought,Ihavebeentest‐ing the ‘collective consciousness ofmankind’fornearlyadecadeanditwasalways found to be below 200 on theHawkins scale ‐ resonating with fear‐ful emotions and reflecting a culturalfight‐or‐flightstate.However,recentlythishaschangedandwearenow inaresonance of courage.Wow. That’s achangetobecelebrated,let’sfanthoseflames and say goodbye to the oldworldorder!
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Sandy NewbiggingUnder the Spotlight
Sandyistheauthorof4books includ‐ing ‘NewBeginnings’, ‘LifeDetox’and‘Life‐Changing Weight Loss’, and hisMindDetoxmethodhasbeenfeaturedontelevisioninover30countries.Hehasclinics in Edinburgh and London, runslife‐changing workshops and retreatsthroughout Europe, and trains peopletobecomeMindDetoxPractitionersathisMindDetoxMasterclass.
TheMindDetoxmethodhelpspeople‘change theirmind’ and ‘change theirrelationshipwiththeirmind’inordertoaid the healing of physical conditionsand reconnect with their inner peaceandhappinessinapermanentway.
Therefore,EditorRachelWillisdecidedtospeakwithSandyaboutsayinggood‐byetothosenegativethoughtpatternsand their relatedphysicalailments,aswellasputtinghimunderthespotlightabouthislifesofar.
TocelebratethelaunchofRadioLight‐worker on August 8th, this month’sinterviewispublishedinaudioformat.
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Everyonehasafewtoxicpeopleintheirlife. Theycanbeobviously toxicas inthe case of abusers, bullies, violentpeople, or thosewho always criticize.Toxic people can also be less obvioussuchasthosewhoconstantlycomplainabout life in general, the passive‐ag‐gressiveguilt‐trippers,orrelationshipsthatareone‐sidedwithyoubeing theonlypersondoingthegiving.
Relationshiplinks
Whenweformarelationshiptosome‐one, anenergetic cord is created thatconnectsustothatotherperson. Thestrongertherelationship,thestrongerthecord.Empathicandintuitiveener‐giesflowbackandforthalongthiscord.Thisiswhyyouandyourbestfriendorspousecanfinisheachother’ssentenc‐es.Itexplainshowyoucanalwaystell
whatthatotherpersonisfeeling.Oneofthemostdifficultthingstocometoterms with regarding toxic people inyour life is that they are often thoseclosest to you: your parent(s), yoursignificant other, ormaybe even yourownchild.Thesepeoplehavetheabil‐ity to hurt you themost because youare extra sensitive to their negativity.It isalsomucheasierforthoseclosesttoyoutodrainyourenergybecauseofthestrong,openspiritualcordbetweenyou.
There are 3 ways you can lessen oreliminatetheeffectsoftoxicpeopleinyourlife.
1)Limityourtimewithenergydrain‐ingpeople
Whenyoumakethechoicetoonlybearound people who are positive andenergeticallybalanced,youwon’thavetoworryaboutbeingdraggedthroughnegative, toxicmuck. You knowwhothe toxic people are in your life. Youowe it to yourself to not be aroundthesepeoplewheneveryoucanhelpit.Sometimes,wemayfeelwedon’thavea choice in the matter ‐ for instance,
if it’s a boss or co‐worker where theonlyotheroptionistoleavethejob.Inthesecases,limityourinteractionswiththemasmuchaspossible,shieldyour‐selffromtheirnegativity,andconsideralternativeoptionsformakingmoney,havingfunorwhateverareaoflifetheyfeaturein.
2)Shieldyourself
When you are around negativepeople, visualize yourself surroundedby a bubble of pure white light. Nonegativity isallowed topenetrate thisbubble. If Ifindmyself inasuddenorparticularly strong negative situation,I createmy shield out ofmirrors thatfaceoutward.Thatway,anynegativitydirectedtowardmeisreflectedbacktothesender.
3)Completelycuttheenergeticcordwiththetoxicperson
Therearetimeswhentheonlywaytostopatoxicpersonfromaffectingyouistocutthespiritualcordandremoveyourself fromthesituation. Thereareacoupleofwaysthatthiscanbedone.Youcanvisualizeyourself‘unplugging’
Shela SkarpHonouring Your Sensitivities
As Lightworkers, you are very sensitive tothe energies of the people who surroundyou.Youpickuponnegativethoughtsandemotionsmuchmoreeasilythanothers,andare also affected more deeply than otherpeople. Therefore, it is vitally importanttoyourwellbeingtomakesureyouhaveanetwork of positive people around you, as
muchaspossible. Thisappliestoallareasofyour life–work,friends,family,romance,spiritualityetc.Thisoftenmeansthatyouneed toweedout the toxicpeople tomake room for thepositiveones.
Shela helps Lightworkers and holistic practitioners maintain a steady balance of energy by teaching them how to take care of themselves on a daily basis. She is an intuitive and empath who has helped many people create positive changes in their lives and shift their mindset from gloom and doom to peace and clarity.
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the cord from the other person andsee it re‐absorb back into your ownenergeticbody.AnotherwayistoaskArchangelMichael to cut the cord foryou with his sword. Personally, I askArchangelMichaelonaweeklybasistocutallcordstopeoplewhodonotservemyhighestgood.
Mystory
I didn’t grow up in a very nurturinghousehold.Myfatherwasverycriticalof everything I did, perhaps becauseIwas theeldestof threechildren. If Ibrought home a report cardwith fiveA’sandoneB,hewouldignoretheA’sandcritcizemefor theB. Mymotherwas a passive‐aggressive person whoseldom had anything positive to say.She was also good at handing downguilttripsandplayingthevictimroletogetherchildrentodowhatshewantedthemto.
When I was 33 years old, my fatherdidn’tlikemychoiceinboyfriendsandtoldmethatIdisgustedhim.Thewordscut right through my heart and toreintomy soul. Imade the choice thatverydaythat,forthesakeofmysanity,
I had to completely cut the cordwithhim. I didn’t speak to him for nearlytwoyears,andwhenIdidbeginspeak‐ing to him again, it was very distantanddetached. To thisday, Ihavenotallowed any sort of strong energeticcordtoexistbetweenus.
At the same time, I also made thechoicetolimitmytimewithmymoth‐er.Idon’tthinksheevenrealizedhowsheactedortheimpactherwordshadonothers. As I limitedmy timemoreandmorewithherandshelearnedthatthe passive‐aggressive behavior andguilt‐tripsnolongerworkedonme,herattitudebegantochange.Shestartedto respectmemoreasaperson. Shewould ask me for favors rather thansimply expect me to be at her beckandcallwhenevershewouldcomplainaboutsomething.Ihaveslowlystartedtoallowmyself tobuilda relationshipwithher.
These were things I chose to do inorder forme to gain the courage andfaithinmyselftoreachformypersonaldreams. Ididfeelsomeguiltoverthefact that I was cutting cords withmyownparents.However,whenIfeltthe
change in my energy, vibration andspirit, IknewImadetherightchoices.Whenever I am around my parents, ImakesureIamshielded. NowIknowthat their negativity canno longer af‐fect me or keep me from writing myownstory.
Onlyyouknowwhatmethodwillworkbest for you in any given situation. Iknowhowdifficultitcanbetoremoveyourselffromthoseclosesttoyouwhentheyaretoxictoyourphysical,mental,emotional and spiritual well‐being.Youmayevenfeelguiltyaboutcuttingthese people off, even though you’reonlydoingitoutofloveandrespectforyourself. The important thing is thatyoustandupforyourselfanddowhatyou need to do in order to heal yoursoul.Letyourheartandintuitionguideyou, andyouwill knowyouaredoingtherightthing.
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EarlierthisyearIhadtosaygoodbyetomymumasshesadlypassedawayduetocancer.Ialsorecentlysaidgoodbyetomanyoldbehaviouralpatternsthatit isveryclearcannotcontinue if Iamto evolve further as a spiritual being.ItmayseemalittleoddthatIcasuallymentionsuchdifferinglifeexperienceswithin the same paragraph. However,vastlydifferentastheymaybe,sayinggoodbye has been a painful processacross the board and I have, in fact,foundmyselfalsogrieving for thepo‐tentiallossofoldwaysofbeing.
Iamconvincedthisisnotanuncommonexperience. Letting go of old habitscan indeedbepainfulas theybecomedeeply imbedded in our lives, and inmanyways,oftenbroughtmuchcom‐fortfromwhateveritwasthatwewerestriving to achieve or avoid.Once weare serious about moving on though,and eventually do take responsibilityfortheseoldwaysofbeing,itlogicallyfollows that there will be a period ofdiscomfortandgriefasweattempttoleave thembehind.Lettinggoof thatwhich we currently hold dear in thephysicalcanbesuchanimportantpart
ofourspiritualdevelopment. Ibelievethethingsweseeaschallengesorob‐staclesarereallyjustopportunitiesforus to grow and evolve; this being theinherentnatureoftheUniverse.
Playingourpart
Taking responsibility is key. I spent somuch time saying, “Oh, I’ll stop/startdoing that tomorrow”, but tomorrownever comesunlesswe take responsi‐bilityandaction.Thatmay sound tre‐mendouslyobviousandsimple.Yes, itis.Andyetsooften,no,itisn’t.Ifound,therefore,thatwithsomethingsinlife,we just need some support, and thatcan be the first step in taking owner‐shipforwhatyoureallywishtochangebutforsomereasonhavenotyetbeenableto.Whetheritisfindingagroupoflike‐minded people or some other in‐tervention‐sayacounsellororacoach,for example – in my personal experi‐ence,somethingsreallydon’tgoawayby themselves, no matter how manymonthsoryearsyoufoolyourselfthattheywill.Thisinitselfcanleadtofeel‐ingsoffailureandhelplessness,whichcandevelopintootherpainful
matters that compound the originalproblem.Anddependingonwhat it isyou’resayinggoodbyeto, ifyoudon’tleave it behind eventually then theremayneverbethattomorrowofchangethatyousodesire.
Thepast
ButIdon’tbelieveweshouldseetheseoldways‐neithernownorinretrospect‐as‘bad’experiences,perse.Theyare,afterall,anintegralpartofourgrowthandevolutionandthereforeareallop‐portunities.Essentially,allexperiencesplayavital role ineachofus realisingourowntruth.Asmuchastheexperi‐encesof others canbe important andpoignant catalysts for realisation andchange inour lives, ultimately theex‐periencemustbeourown.Afterall,amapisonlysogood‐youhavetoexpe‐rience the journeyanddestination foryourself. And when it comes to whatwedeemasourproblemsandassoci‐atedsufferingsinlife,mostofushavebeen there more than once so knowthe terrainverywell, it’s the solutionswe’renotsoclearon.
Simon WelchSaying Goodbye...
Sayinggoodbye,lettinggo,givingup,leavingbehind;whether it be to feelings,memories,emotions, people, or old habits and addic‐tions, it canbedifficult, butwithout adoubtit’sallan importantandpoignantpartofourexperience.
Simon leads Lightworker Magazine’s ‘Focus The Light’ group in London, is an accredited coach, a keen meditator and astral traveller, and is also enjoying his recent discovery of writing as a means of expression and enabling further realisa-tions along the spiritual journey.
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Letting go of that which we currently hold dear in the physical can be such an important part of our spiritual development
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Reframingtheprocess
There will always be old ways as wecontinue togrowandevolve, ifwe sochoose to. Perhaps,weshould there‐foreembraceourwaysandmoveonaswe see fit, certainly not spending toomuchtimebeatingourselvesup,chas‐tising or judging ourselves. Ironically,this self‐beratingwill likely only servetoholdusbackfromtheveryplacewewishtobe,bytheverynatureofimpos‐ingnegativethoughtsuponourselves.Instead, learn to treat each undesiredhabitasanopportunity,ahurdleifyoulike, to jump over and make yourselfstrongerwhilemovingforwardinyourdevelopment.
Throughthisprocess,youarerealisingsomething you are not,whether it beonce,twice,orathousandtimes.Eachtime,you realiseagainandagain thatit’snotyou,andnotwhatyoudesiretobe.Thisisprogressinitself,nomatterhowmanytimeswemayslipbackintoanoldwayofbeing,asnaturallysomeareinherentlyeasiertoovercomethan
others. So, wewill remember, forget,remember again, forget again, andremember again, for as long and asmanylifetimesasittakes.Itisthisveryexperience, this reflection of who wearenot,alongwiththehopeofpositivechange,whichistheverydrivingforceenabling us to evolve and realise ourtruenatureandpotential.
Withperseverance,wecanandwillbe‐gintoclosethosechaptersinourlivesthatdon’tserveussowell.Wecanbeginwriting new chapters, perhaps sprungforthand inspired fromthose thatwereadbutthatnowbecomeself‐realisedand directly experienced. From here,wecanstarttodevelop,experience
freedomandhealthewoundscreatedby the old ways. Say goodbye… andsayhello,toawholenewyou…
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Glow with Health and Wellbeing Goodbye To Unhealthy Habits
StuGatherumisapassionateandfocusedStrengthandConditioningspecialistwhoiscommittedtodeliveringoutstandingresultsinfitness,nutrition
andtotalhealthandwellness.
Hi all, and welcome to this month’sinstalment of Lightworker HealthandWellbeing.Over themonths wetouched on dietary advice, exercisetips, hearing and listening to yourbody and drawing energy from yourroutine. All of these things weredesigned to help you gain themosthealthy and positive life through
making small changes thataddup tomassivedifferences.Hopefully,weachievedagoodstarttothisandJuly’seditionfinds you feelingmore positive, in control and healthy, aswellaslookingandperformingatyourbest!
AsfortheGoodbyeissue,I’mnotgonnalie,I’vestruggled.I’m not fond of goodbyes at the best of times (sniff!) buttherearesomethingsIammorethanhappytosaygoodbyeto.With June,we entered theheight of summer, and thismonthweusetheseasonalchangetoouradvantageforalittlecleansing,take‐controlaction.
Firstthingsfirst:
Summer brings lighter mornings. Say goodbye to your snooze button.
Getoutandenjoythem!Nothingwakesyouupmorethananearlymorningworkoutona crisp summer’sdaybeforethesunreachesitshottest.You’llhearbirdssingingandtheunmistakeable ring of alarm clocks and toasters popping.Nothingmakesyoufeelmoreproductivethanbeingupandreadyforactionwhileothersarestillstirring.
Now,workoutcanmeananythingyouwant it tomean,aslongas it’s activity.Goout for anearlymorningbike ride,ajog,run,walkthedog.Or,mypersonalfavourite,getthekettlebellsoutanddoa30‐mincircuitbarefootonyourlawn.Fantastic!
*A side note for summer mornings – They are usually light and warm enough to sit outside while eating your breakfast. Nothing like it!
Nextorderofsummer:
Say goodbye to winter warmers.
Comfortfoodcanbehealthy.Chilliandstewareoftengreat,nutrient‐denseoptions.Oftenbeingtheappropriateword.Oftenleavesafairamountofroomforerror!Fartoomanyofthesemealsarepreparedwithsub‐paringredientsthataresapped of all their healthy vitamins andminerals throughprocessing, additives andpreservatives.Anddon’t getmestartedonchillifromacan!
With summer comes endless possibilities with regard tofood.BBQisoneofmyfavourites.NowI’mnotsuggestingforoneminutetherearen’tpotentialbananaskinsinvolvedin barbequing, there most definitely are. Not least of all,charring foodon theoutsideonly to leaveuncooked foodontheinside.Mmmmm!Themainproblemwithbarbequelies in the stereotypical feast that ensues. Hotdogs andburgersruletheroostunfortunately,slatheredinprocessedcheese and housed in white bread. Avoid this by buyingwhole‐wheat buns (welcome to the 21st century), grillingfish, making your own burger patties, skewering haloumicheese,meatandvegetablesforkebabsandservingthelotwithplentyofsalad.Fantastic!Youcan’tgowrongwithanyoftheseoptions.
Youshouldbeembracingthefoodoptionsthatcomewiththeseasonalchanges.Rememberthatwhenyounextopenacanof‘fire‐chipotlechilli’madewith3%beef!Putitdownandheadtotheleanminceaisleofyourlocalsupermarketimmediately.
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Nothing wakes you up more than an early morning workout
Summeralsobringsanewwardrobe:
Bag up those sweats!
You have been on the exercise and healthy eating band‐wagonforsixmonthsnow.Embraceyournewfoundhealthybody!Enjoyanewwardrobe.Youshouldbestruttingyourstuff in bright new clothes thatmake you feel happy andsummery.Allthateffortrequiresa littlebitofflattery(justbecauseyouareaLightworkerandfocusedonfeelingspro‐videdfromyourownsenseofwellbeing,itdoesn’tmeanyoucan’tindulgeinafewkindwordsfromothers!)
NowifIcanjustfindawaytosaygoodbyetothehayfeverthatsummerbringsI’llbeabletofocusonthatbarbequetofuelmyearlymorningkettlebells!Haveagreatmonth!
You should be strutting your stuff in bright new
clothes that make you feel happy and summery
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Lightworker in TrainingGoodbye
HettaRogers’backgroundisinArtHistoryandLiterature.Shespentthepast7yearstrainingandworkingasalawyerbeforequittingherjobtofindgreaterfulfilment,andnowherdaysarefilledwithridinghorsesandtryingnottogetthrownoff...
Farewell;aufwiedersehen;arriveder‐ci; au revoir: whatever languagewespeak, saying goodbye is often atrickythingtodo.Thismonth,Iwanttofocusonnegativehabitsandhowwemightgoaboutriddingourselvesofthemwithagreaterdegreeofcon‐fidenceandsuccess.
Let’sbehonest:wehaveallbeentheretosomedegreeorother.Someofusmighthaveflashesofregretandshamewhenwedrinktoomuch,orsmoke,ormakelatenighttripstothefridgeinsearchofchocolate,orovereatingeneral,orspendtoomuchmoneyonthingswedon’twantorneed,orallowourselvestothinknegativethoughtsthatexacerbateapoorself‐image,or…Icouldgoonandon,astheseexamplesaremerelythemoreobviousones.
Whateveryournegativehabits(orhabit, ifyouareblessedwithonlyone)mightbe,theyoftentakeshapeasapatternofbehaviourorawayofthinkingthatdoesusnorealgoodand,ifleftunchecked,potentiallyquiteabitofharm.Goodhabitsfeelfamiliarandcomfortable–forexample,gettingagoodnight’ssleeporeatingbreakfasteverymorning.Nega‐tive habitsmight bringmomentary feelings of comfort orpleasure,butoncethatisgone,theyleaveusfeelingguilt‐ridden.
Breakingupishardtodo
Ifbreakingnegativehabitswaseasy,wemightallbeclean‐living,carefreemodelsofvirtue.Butitisn’teasy…andwearen’t. Breaking any habit can take a good deal of timeandeffort,a largepinchofpositive thinking,patienceandpersistenceand‐mostofall‐determination.Wealsoneedtopinpoint and control the stateof near‐mindlessnesswecanfindourselvesinwhenhabitstakehold–inotherwords,wedothesethingswithoutthinkingaboutthemandwith‐outnecessarilynoticingwhatfeelingsoreventstriggerournegativehabits.
Butthatallcomesfromwithin,sowhataboutgettinghelp
fromthosearoundus?
Rallyingsupport
ThefirstpieceofadviceIwouldgive–andthiscomesfrompersonalexperience–isnottoshutoutthosepeoplearoundyou.Donotbeafraidtorallysupportfromthoseyoutrusttokeepyourconfidence,andmakesureyoutellyoursupport‐ersinnouncertaintermswhattheycandotohelpyou.
Dietersareoftenadvisedto involvetheirpartnersorfami‐liesintheirquesttoeatmorehealthily,aswellastoinvolvethem in theirexercise routines. This isbecausewegarnerinspirationandmotivation fromsharedexperiences, and ‐althoughsomemightcall itguilt‐adesirenottoletotherpeopledown.Incentives,inwhatevershapeorform,canbehugelypowerful.
Thewake‐upcall
Of course,many peoplewillmake the decision to changeentirelyontheirown,butoftentheinitialshoveintherightdirectioncomesfromsomeoneelse.Ifrequentlyrelyonthehonestyandintuitionofmyfriendsandfamilyforallsortsofguidanceandsupport,andhavedonesomanytimesinthepast. That ispartandparcelofthattypeofcloserelation‐ship. Ifsomeone iskindenoughtoraiseadifficultsubjectwithyou,showthemthecourtesyoflistening.Butremem‐berthatnoamountofwordsfromanybodyelseisgoingtochangeyou;youhave tobeopen to thenotionof changeandwillingtotakethenecessarystepsyourself inordertomakeithappen.
I will give you an example (frommany years ago) of howsomeoneelse’swordscanhaveahugeimpact:
WhenIwas10yearsold,Ihadanastyhabitofchewingmynails.GiventhatIspenteveryounceofsparetimeatastableyardwheremyfriendsandIkeptourponies,runningaroundmuddyfieldsinequallygrubbyjodhpursandt‐shirts,Iprob‐ably consumedmy fair share of immune‐boosting germs.Mynegativehabitdidn’tentirelythrillmymother,though.
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And, tryas shemight, Iwouldn’t stop. Ievengotused tothefoul‐tastingvarnishshewouldputonmyfingerstotryanddeterme.Allthischangedwhenafamilyfriend,uponseeingmychewednails,askedmewhatIthoughtitwouldlookliketoonedaygetmarriedandwearabeautifuldress,buttohavehandsthatweremadeunsightlybecauseIhadchewedmynails.Forwhateverreason,thatwasthetriggerIneededtomakemestopchewingmynails.And,fromthatdayonwards,Ineverlookedback.
Bekindtoyourself
Therearemanyself‐helpguidesonthemarketandblogsonthe internet that advocate all sorts ofmethods for sayinggoodbye to one’s demons and riddingoneself of all thoseniggling habits. One thing I spotted a lot of these guidessharingisadvicethatweshouldbekindtoourselvestohaveany chance of succeeding. As I said, tomake changes toone’slifewithanydegreeofconfidence,therehastobewill‐ingnessandadeterminationtosucceed.Buttheremustalsoberoomforgiveandtake;roomfor‘off’daysorslippages.Thosewhosucceedwillalmostinevitablyfailalongtheway,buttheywillpickthemselvesupandtryagain. Often,thebestwaytostartistoavoidprocrastinating:justtakeadeepbreathandgetonwithit.Noamountofdiscussionorplan‐ningwillgetthetaskdone.
Inspiration
Whenwalking through London a few days ago, I thoughtofhowtoconcludethismonth’sarticlewithafinalwordofwisdom. Seconds later, Ispottedthefollowingwordsem‐blazonedonalargebanneroutsideanofficebuildingintheheartoftheCity:“Youmustbethechangeyouwanttoseeintheworld”(MahatmaGhandi).Forme,thissaysitall.Towantbetterthingsfortheworldwelivein,weneedtobetterourselves.
Those who succeed will almost inevitably fail
along the way, but they will pick themselves up
and try again
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Lightworker ChallengeThe Rings Of Relating
RachelWillisisaconduitfortheAscendedMastersandguidedtohelpothersfine‐tunetheirlifepathbyfullysteppingintotheirpowerandshiningtheirlight.ShechallengesanythingthatisoutofalignmentwithyourhighestgoodandsharesmessagesfromTheMastersaboutyour
Earthlypurpose.SheisalsoaninspirationalwriterandEditorofLightworkerMagazine.
We interactwith different people allthetime,butdoweknowhowtore‐latetothem?
Relating to others is an area of lifeweexperienceonadailybasisanditcanmassively impact – positively ornegatively – our mental, emotional,physical and spiritual well‐being.Al‐
thoughwe’re taughthowto read,writeandaddup, therearenoschoollessonsaboutrelationshipsandhowtorelate;thatseemstobeasubjectentrustedtotheSchoolofLife.
Butwhataboutifyou’regettingA+foreffort,yetstrugglingtounderstandwhy it’sonlyD‐ forattainment?Could itbetimetoappraiseyourrelatingstyleandsaygoodbyetothosepatternsthatnolongerserveyou?
Most people are unconscious of their behaviour towardsothersthemajorityofthetime.Weslipintostandard,prac‐tisedpatternsof relating thatwe learnedasachildwithinourfamilyunit.Forinstance,onepersonmaylearntoalwaysbe friendlyandstrikeupsmall talkwiththepersononthecheckout in thesupermarket,yetanothermay learn tobedistant,reservedandmaintainfirmboundarieswiththeverysamepersonbecausetheyareconsideredastranger.
Thesepatternsshapeour livesandmostofusrarelyques‐tionwhetherthere isanotherway,sincethereseems littleneed to. However, we could unwittingly be experiencingrelationship difficulties that can be resolved, by becomingmoreaware.
12Types‐TheRingsofRelating
12.Everyoneelse11.Peopleinthepubliceye10.Seelocally,butdon’tknow9.Knowof,butnotmet8.Metonceortwice7.Acquaintances6.Colleagues/groupmembers5.Friends4.Families3.Children2.Lovers1.Ourselves
Wetendtofallintoacertaintypeofbehaviour:theinwardsandtheoutwards.
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areclosertothemthantheytrulyare.Thiscanleadtothehostofproblemsassociatedwithboundaryviolation.
Outwardsareoverlydistantandtreatothersasthoughtheyare further from them than they truly are.This canmeantheymissoutonintimacyandtrueconnectionwithanyone.
Problems occur when we don’t adapt our behaviour totake intoaccountanydifference inRelatingRingbetweenourselvesandtheotherpersonweareinteractingwith.Forexample,werelatetoanacquaintanceaswewouldalover,oracelebrityaswewouldafriend.Theboundariesbecomeconfused‐thereisamismatch‐andweeithergoa)inwardtoomuchorb)outward toomuch.Thoseon the receivingendofinwardsandoutwardsarealsoaffected.
ThenumberofRelatingRingsthatpeopleskipisthedegreetowhich theyencounter suchproblems. It is alsopossibletobehaveinwardlywithsomeRelatingRings,butoutwardlywithothers.
RelatingCombinations
Inward+Inward=‘Chemistry’
Get on brilliantly with much love, expression and intimacy.
Outward+Outward=‘Arm’sLength’
Communicate with civil conversation, small talk and stiff
pleasantries.
Whereanoutwardrelateswithan inwardthere isanaddi‐tionalnuancebasedontheindividuals’relationshipstyles‐whethertheyself‐blameorproject.Self‐blamerstakethingspersonallyand–onthewhole‐believetheyareinthewronginconflictsortroublingsituations.Projectorsaretheoppo‐site;theyblameeveryoneelseforbeingwrong.
Self‐blame Inward + Self‐blame Outward = ‘Chase andFlee’
Inward tries to peopleplease because interprets Outward’s aloofness as their fault; becomes even more charming, chatty and familiar to overcompensate. As a result, Outward becomes more alarmed and blames self for being too friendly; becomes more aloof.
ProjectionInward+ProjectionOutward=‘Repulsion’
Inward blames Outward for being miserable, cold and unfriendly so wants to move away from them. Outward blames Inward for being too clingy, energetic and dramatic so also wants to move away from them.
Andwhat about if one self‐blamermeets another projec‐tor?
Self‐blameInward+ProjectorOutward=‘Abuser/VictimDynamic’
Inward blames self, again becoming even more charming, chatty and familiar to overcompensate. Outward blames In
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ward and wants to move away, leading to animosity and an even more insecure Inward.ProjectorInward+Self‐blameOutward=‘TheBigFreeze’
Outward blames themselves for being too friendly, and distances even more from the Inward. Inward projects that Outwardisanicy,coldpersonincapableofloveoraffectionand
also wants to move away.
Actionstepstosaygoodbyetodiscrepantrelationships
1.Awareness
BehonestaboutwhetheryouareliabletoskipRelatingRingsand are a self‐blamer or projector. Using this knowledge,monitor your relationships in a varietyof contexts ‐work,social,familialetc‐tobecomeawareofwhenyouaremostlikelytoactunconsciously.Personalinsightisoftenenoughtochangebehaviours.
2.Understanding
Lookatyourchildhoodandrelationshiphistorytoshedlightonthereasonsbehindyourrelatingstyle.Thisallowsyoutofeelcompassionforyourselfandunderstandthatthebehav‐iourwaslearned,soyoucanre‐learnandconditionyourselftomoreappropriate,peacefulandfulfillingrelations.
3.Newhabits
PractiseactingdifferentlyinyourrelationshipswithpeopleoneachoftheRelatingRings.Takelittlestepsandbekindtoyourselfifconflictsordisappointmentsdostilloccurbe‐cause,asweknow,practisemakesperfect!
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Personal insight is often enough to change behaviours
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There have beenmany times in mylife where I said goodbye. And forme, saying goodbye is one of themostdifficultthingstodo.Butmoreoftenthannot,everygoodbyeinmylifeleadstoahello.
One of the most difficult goodbyesthatIsaidiswhenIleftCapeTownat
theageof21 tostartanew life inLondon. Itwasn’tonlydifficultforme,butverydifficultformymombeingasingleparentofanonlychild.Ithinkwebothfeltalotoffearatthetime;notknowingiftheotherpersonwasgoingtobesafe;notknowingifsomeonewasgoingtobethereinthesame
waythatwewerethereforeachother‐tocomfort,tolaugh,tolove.LikeIsaidearlier,moreoftenthannoteverygood‐byeinmylifeleadstoahello.Andthehellothatgreetedmefromthisgoodbyewasindependence.Ilearnedtofendformyselfandgrowup.SomethingIfeelIcouldnothavelearntinanyotherway.
Familygoodbyes
AnotherverydifficultgoodbyeformewaswhenIsaidgood‐byetomyfatherattheageof13becausemyparentsweregettingadivorce.Iwasveryconfusedandwonderedifwhatwashappeningwasmyfault.Iguessitisquitecommonforchildrentosomehowthinkthattheyareresponsiblefortheirparents’divorce.FromthisgoodbyeIlearnttoloveandsup‐portmymombybecomingthemaninthehouse. I learntresponsibility through doing odd jobs around the house,whichgavemeasenseofpurpose.
More recently,mygrandmotherpassedaway,and I foundsayinggoodbyetohertremendouslydifficult.Ispentalotoftimegrowingupwithmom’sparents,butIreallyconnectedwith my gran. My gran made sure that I always did myhomework.Mygranwouldhelpmewithmytimestableinsummer,lyingbythepool.MygranwouldrelentlesslyquizmeonmyspellinguntilIcouldspellallthewordsright.ShewouldeventhrowcricketballstomesothatIcouldpractisemybatting.IgivemostofthecreditforwhoIamtodaytomygran. SayinggoodbyetoheratherfuneralwasoneofthemostdifficultgoodbyesIhavehadtosaysofar.ButthehellothatIreceivedfromthisgoodbyewasquiteastound‐ing. Shortlyafter the funeral, I realized that in the last10yearsof living inEngland, I hadonly seenmy family for atotalof8weeks.SayinggoodbytomygranopenedanewhelloformewhereIfoundamuchdeeperloveanddesireforfamily.Thisledmetochangingthestructureofmybusiness,allowingmorefreedomtobewithmyfamilyinCapeTown,andtostartcreatingafamilyofmyown.
Although goodbyes are very difficult, they are really op‐portunities forus togrow; togrow in strength; togrow inappreciationforwhatwearesayinggoodbyeto.Astheoldsayinggoes,absencemakestheheartgrowfonder.
Businessgoodbyes
Evenbusinessgoodbyescanverydifficult,althoughexperi‐enceprovestheycanbealotsimplerbecausebusinessre‐lationshipsareordinarilyoutlinedinblackandwhite.Whenonepartydoesnotfulfill itspartofthedealthen it’s likelythatit’stimestosaygoodbye.Businessgoodbyesveryoftenleadquicklytonewandmorefulfillinghellos.
The BusinessmanWhy Goodbye Is The Hardest Word
RyanPinnickisapassionate,inspirationalandwisespeakerandwriterinthefieldsofpersonaldevelopmentandwealthcreation.BorninCapeTown,Ryanisnowbasedin
Londonandaleadinglightinthesocialmediascene.
As the old saying goes,absence makes the heart
grow fonder
More often than not,every goodbye in my life
leads to a hello
Personalgoodbyes
Goodbyesarenotonlyreservedforpeopleorthings.Isaidmanygoodbyestomyselfoverthelast31years.Isaidgood‐byeseveral timesto the identityandthe imagethat Icre‐ated,thinkingtheywereimportant.Ryantheskateboarder.Ryan the cricketer. Ryan the international DJ. Ryan theemployee.
SayinggoodbyetoRyantheemployeewasanotheroneofthemostdifficultgoodbyes Ihaveever said. Iwas sayinggoodbyeto11yearsofcareer.Iwassayinggoodbyetothesecuritythatmypaychequewasgivingme. Butmoreim‐portantly, Iwassayinggoodbyetoajobthatdidn’t inspiremeandIwassayinghellotoanexcitingnewlifefilledwithpossibilitiesandfreedom,limitedonlybyimagination.
Soyousee,althoughwearealwayssayinggoodbyes.Moreoftenthannotagoodbyeleadstoahello.Sothenexttimeyoufindyourselfinthepositionwhereyouaresayingorre‐ceivingagoodbye,becourageousandknowthatjustaroundthecornertherewillalwaysbeahellowaitingforyou.
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The next time you find yourself in the position where you are saying or receiving a goodbye, be
courageous and know that just around the corner
there will always be a hello waiting for you
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Unchaining My Heart From Self-DoubtSylvieRoyisafree‐spiritwhogaveupherjobtofollowherintuitionand
discoverherlife’struepurpose.SheresidesinToronto,Canadawhereshenurturesherbuddingcareerasanintuitivereaderandhealerandwritesablogtosharethetrials,
triumphsandlaughsalongtheway.
Ididit.Again.Iknow–I’vedoneitabazilliontimesbefore,butthistime,it’s forgood. I swear. Ihope. DearGod – PLEASE let this be the lasttime!!! But it seems like nomatterhowmanytimesIdecidetokickhimoutofmylife,hekeepscrawlingbackwithexcusesabouthowhelovesmeandwantstolookoutforme;tosave
mefrommakinghugemistakes;torescuemefromruiningmylife.Ruinmylife?RUINMYLIFE?!!!Ipanic.Thatthoughthadn’tevencrossedmyminduntilhecamebacktowarnme.Whatifhe’sright?OhdearGod,heISright! I’mRUININGMYLIFE!!!Thethoughtsshoot throughmybrain likeboltsoflightning.Rapidbreathing?Check!Sweatypalms?Ditto!
Butthis time, it’sdifferent. “Waitaminute!” I tell thedirtbag,“Thisisthesameoldcrapyou’realwaysfeedingme!Idon’twanttohearitanymore!GETOUT!!!”
Yes,Self‐Doubt and I havehadquite the tumultuous rela‐tionshipovertheyears.Hisstrongvoiceusedtocomfortme–heknewhowtokeepmefromdisappointmentandhurt,soitseemed.Iwasn’tgoodenoughtodothis.Andmyideaforthatcertainlywasn’tgoldeneither.Oh,howthankfulIwastohavehimlookingoutformelikethat.Self‐Doubtkeptmehumble,andbeinghumbleisgood.Itisgood,isn’tit?
Well,yes–beinghumblecanbeagoodquality,dependingon how you like to interpret it. Being unpretentious andleavingarrogancebehindaregreat,butwhenwestrivetobe
humblebybelievingweareordinary,averageandnotveryspecial,thenitstartstobecomeaproblem.AndSelf‐Doubt?Thelastthinghewantsustodoisfeellikewe’reworthwhileanddeservingofgoodstuffinourlives.Whytheheckwouldwewanttohangoutwithaloserlikehimifwethinkwe’reawesome,super‐coolpeople?Oh,heknowsit.Self‐Doubtsucks; Iwanttoexposehimforthejerkthatheisandkickhimoutofmylifeforgood.
BreakingupwithSelf‐Doubt
Iamalittlenervousaboutthisthough.Mypastbreak‐upswithhim,althoughconstructive,haven’treallystuck.LikeIsaid–he’ssneaky.Afterall,he’sbeenaround,heknowshowtogetintomymindandnextthingIknow,he’satmyplacefordinneragain,nitpickingateverythingfrommycookingtothedécor.
His timing and technique are just right. And he’s ever sopatient.Heleavesmealoneforawhile,letsmebuildupmyself‐confidenceforabit. Itgoessofar that Ievenstart tothink that I’msomething special inmyownquirkykindofway.Ontopofthat,IrealizeIhavealottoshare–there’ssomethinggreatinsideofmethatcanonlybebetterbylet‐tingitout.Andthen…thenmypalInspirationcomesalong!Oooooh,howIloveInspiration!Fullofhopeandexcitement,wedanceandwelaugh–ohyes, life isgrandandsoamI!Butwaitaminute…what’sthatIhear?Whatisthatbeautifulmelodyplayingoutsidemywindow…
Ohdear! Oh, I’mblushing – it’sSelf‐Doubt! He’s outsidemy window. He’s got his Casio keyboard playing in thebackgroundandhe’ssinging... Ohmy–it’stheUnchainedMelodiestune.Howcorny!Howsweet!Forme?!!!Ohwow,it’ssoromantic!Oh,Iforgivehim–howcanagirlstaymadatsuchasweetie?I’masucker,Iknow.Andeachtimehe’spulledthisstunt,I’velethimbackin.Sigh.
It’scalledabreakupbecauseit’sbroken
ButI’mthroughwithSelf‐Doubtnow.I’vethoughtaboutit
Self-Doubt sucks; I want to expose him for the jerk that he is and kick him out of my life for good
a lot,and Idon’tneedorwanthim inmy life. Besides, I’dratherhangoutwithInspiration.She’sfunandcreative,andtogetherwecomeupwiththegreatestideas!Shereallyhasmybest interestsatheart,andthat’swhyshegetssodis‐couragedwheneverIreboundbacktogoodol’Self‐Doubt.She’s always there backingme upwhen I try to resist hischarms,butsadly,eachtimehewinsmeoverIendupshut‐tingherout.Afterall,two’scompanyandthreeisacrowd–Self‐Doubtshushesourgigglesandshootsdownourhappythoughts.Ican’tsayIblameInspirationforkeepingherdis‐tancewhenheandIareanitem.
Thesedaysthough,it’sMs.InspirationandI,andwe’rerock‐in’thistown! We’reworkingonsomanynewprojectsandbuzzing fullofnew ideas. She’sagreat friend,and Iwantasolidfriendshipwithherformanyyearstocome.WhenIbearmysoul,showherwhat’sinmyheartandwhatIholddearly,shehelpsmefindwaystobringmorejoyandgood‐nesstomylife.
Waitaminute!Let’sbequietforasec…Ihearsomething!Letme justpeekoutthewindow…OhNO! It’sHIM!!! Al‐right,hehasn’tseenme. Deepbreath,deepbreath. He’ssingingnow…Funnyhowalltheseothertimes,IranbacktohimsoquicklyInevergotachancetohearthelyrics….
Ohhhhhhhh, my loveMy darling
You suuuuuuuuuck, you suck, Soooooo muchYoooooooooou’re lame, all the time
Lovely.Justlovely.Well,Self‐Doubt,thefeelingismutual.Goodbye.
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Change Is The Only ConstantMelDiamondisapassionateadvocatoroftheIndigocause.ShewantstospeakouttohelpandinspireotherIndigoadultstobecomeawareofwhotheyare.MelisaReiki
healerandteacher,soundhealer,writer,singer,neo‐paganandastudentoftheshamanicarts.
“Someday change will be accepted as life itself.”ShirleyMacLaine
We Lightworkers are faced withchangeconstantly.As inhabitantsofthiswonderful schoolwe call PlanetEarth, we notice on a daily basishowourglobalhomeisevolvingand
changing as the light of theUniverse shines on us in newways.Wearechangeagents;holdersofthenewlightener‐giesandtheoneswhofeelthechangesfirstandfullest.Wearemirrorsforwhatishappeningontheplanet.Wechangeonadailybasisasourlife‐lessonscometousoneaftertheotherwithbarelytimeforaplateauorbreathofstillnessinbetween.
Wearenowapproachingatimeofgreatastrologicalshifting,theCardinalGrandCrossConfigurationinoursolarsystemwhereMercury,Uranus,Jupiter,SaturnandPlutowillsquareandopposeeachother,causingtensionandupheavalhereonEarth.Itisatimeofmajorchangesintherun‐upto2012.Truthandtransformationareafoot!This is reflected inmylifeandIseeitforwhatitis;allpartoflife’srichtapestryandavastgiftofpossibilityformyownlearning.
Changinghomes
AsIwritethis, Iampreparingforanotheroneoftheselifechanges‐movingtoanewtownandanewchapter inthestory ofmy life. It’s presentedmewith a real challenge; ImovedtobeautifulruralSuffolkafteraparticularlytestingperiodof lifethattaughtmealotaboutmyself,andbeingtherewaswonderfulasahealingexperienceandchancetotrulybreatheandreflectonlife’sevents.Myhousewassur‐roundedbyfieldsandtreesonapeninsulaoflandbetweentwogreatriversthathaveinspiredmanyanartistandpoet.IattainedasenseofpeaceandconnectiontoanenvironmentthatIcravedallmylife;Ifoundaheartland,wheremyspiritwastrulyfree,andIhadnointentionofleavingit.
ButleaveitIdid,forsomethingmuchmorevitalformybody
andsoul‐love!AyearagoImetalovelyman(anIndigolikeme)whohappenedtolive2.5hoursawayfromme.Forthelongertermgoodoneofushadtochangelocation,andforvariousreasonsitmadesensethatitwouldbeme.Thiswasnot a conclusion thatwas easy forme to reach, however.TherewasacertainamountofresistancefrommeasIwasreluctanttoleavemyheartlandbehind.Butoneday,Igavethe notion some attention and realised that, actually, thethoughtofmovingmademefeelveryhappy.AsmuchasIadoredwhereIwasliving,ifit’sachoicebetweenbeautifulskiesandlandscapesandbeingwiththemanIlove....it’sano‐brainerreally!
Theuniversallawofchange
ThisisaclassicexampleofthemachinationsoftheCosmos,andareminderthatalthoughwemayforgelinkstopeopleorplaces,wemustnotbecomesoattachedthatweresistourtrueflow.Lifemayappeartosettledownforawhile,thensomethingelsewillcomealongtogetyoumovinginadif‐ferentdirectionagain;physically,emotionallyorspiritually.Myheartlandservedahealingpurposeforme,butthetimehadcometomoveonandmakeroomfornewandexcitingthingsinmylife.Thecatalystwaslove.
Remember,wearetransformersofenergyandour lifeex‐periencescontributedirectlytotheenergyoftheplanetasawhole.Therefore, life for uswill notbe still for long. It’simportanttoappreciatethingsasmuchaspossiblewithoutbecomingcompletelyattachedtothem‐ letyour life’sex‐periencesflowthroughyourfingerslikewater,enjoyingthe
We are transformers of energy and our life
experiences contribute directly to the energy of the
planet as a whole
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sensationbutallowingittoflowonthroughyou.Thetrickisnottoresistchangeswhentheypresentthemselves,buttoinsteadrecognisethatyou’rebeingledonajourneytowardsgreater learning,personal strengthandspiritualgrowth. Ifyou resist toohard, you’ll createa spiritual andemotionalblockforyourself.Takeadeepbreath,stepintotheresist‐anceandseewhat is really there;beguidedbyyour intui‐tion.Itmaynotbeasscaryasyouperceive.Letgowithoutfearandwithultimatetrust intheUniverse;youarebeingguidedwithapurpose.
Rebirth
Wheneverweexperiencechangeweshedalayerofourselvesandanew,truerandstrongeroneshinesthrough.WelearnsomuchsofastthattheobsoletepartsofourselvesareleftbehindwiththeenergyreturnedtotheCosmosforanotherpurpose.Thissheddingandsayinggoodbyetotheobsoletecanbeapainfulexperience,bringingwithitanoutpouringofemotion.Donotfeartheseemotions;feariswhatholdsusbackfrombeingwhowetrulyare.Allowyourselftofeel
themfully,fortheywillpassbyintime.Feelthepeaksandtroughsasyouridethewavesoflife.Embracechangeandmakeafriendofitasacatalystforopportunity.Affirmthatalliswellinyourworld,andthatchangeisprogress.Youaresafeandprotected,evenduringtimesofupheaval.
Changemay sometimes seem like a period of sacrifice orcompromise, but if you scratch the surface you’ll see thegreatergood.Inorderfornewandwonderfulthingstocomeinto your life, youmustfirstmake room for them. I’mex‐changingthewoodsandfieldsofSuffolkforanewphaseofopportunityandgrowth,andtostrengthenmyconnectiontoapersonverydeartome.NowI’minanewlocationandforginganewlife,thingsmaybewobblyforawhile,butit’sOK. Iknowall iswellandas it shouldbe. Iam loved,sup‐portedandblessed.Iallowmyselftofeelitallasdeeplyaspossible,forinthedepthoffeelingistheessenceandpas‐sionoflife,whichisourgiftasspiritualbeingslivingahumanexperience.
“We change, whether we like it or not.”RalphWaldoEmerson
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Once Upon a Time....Sourcing Transformational Positivity WithinBy Sue Stone
Irememberonlytoowellthatdesperatefeelingthatsomething’sgottochange.I was living on the edge in just abouteveryareaofmylife.Mybusinesswason itsknees, IhadbeenrobbingPetertopayPaul,uptomyeyeballsindebt,nomoneycominginandthebankwasabouttorepossessmyhome.Asasin‐glemotherof3youngchildren,whosehusbandhaddisappearedand leftmetodealwitheverythingas itcrumbledaround me, the turning point camewhen I had just £10 left in my pursewithnoideawherethenextpennywascomingfrom.
How had my life come to this? Theuncertainty and fear I was facingwasoverwhelmingandeverythingwasoutofmycontrol…orsoIthought.
I desperately started reading and re‐searchingwaystoimprovemylifeasitsuddenlydawnedonmethatifIdidn’tdo something and take control ofmysituation,noonewasgoingtodoitforme.
WhatIlearntwasveryexciting.Ilearntthatthereisafarbiggerpicturetolifethantheeverydaychallengesweface.Ilearnthowourthoughts,feelingsandbeliefs (our consciousness), formingour picture of reality, are the energywe project out into the Universe andthatthissignal,thisinstructionattractssimilarenergiestous,because likeat‐tractslike.
The Universe and its principles takeoverandamplifythissignalbyaddingalltheenergyrequiredtorearrangeourpersonalrealityandmanifestanewlifeexperience.
One day I finally ‘got it’. I needed aparadigm shift inmy thinking. I liter‐allyhadtosaygoodbyetomyoldwayofliving.Ihadtochangemy‘thinkingsystem’fromoneofnegativityandfeartooneofpositivityandhope. IchoselessonstolearninthislifeandifIdidn’tchangemy thinking, Iwould continuewiththesamelifeexperience.
Iwasalsoveryawareof themagneticforce of our feelings, that if we werefeeling low or unhappy, wewould at‐tractmoreonthatlownegativevibra‐tion. To enable myself to feel betterI would focus on all that I had to begrateful for,whichat thetimedidnotseemverymuch,butmyhealth,familyandfriendshavealwaysbeenveryim‐portanttome,andIfelt luckytohavethem.Itriedveryhardtodosomethingthatwould cheerme up and helpmefocus on the positive things aroundme.
Every spare moment throughout thedayIconcentratedonmyaffirmations(powerful, positive present‐tensestatements), visualisations and goals,andIcontinuedtoreadpositive,uplift‐ingpersonaldevelopmentandspiritualbooks, which reaffirmed this way ofliving.
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I meditated daily which helped enor‐mously and I understood the impor‐tance of letting go of the past andany negative emotion and exercisingforgiveness of others and indeedmy‐self. I foundEFT,EmotionalFreedomTechnique,tobeincrediblypowerfulindissolvinganynegativity and thiswassomethingIlearnttodomyself.
One of the biggest breakthroughs forme was learning to live in the NOW,tomaketheverymostof thispresentmoment,asofcourse,thispresentmo‐mentisallwehave.
My innerworldwas becoming calmerandthiswasbeginningtobereflectedinmyouterworld.Verygradually,overa few weeks, things started to lookbrighter.Slowlybut surelynice thingsstarted happening to me, which I al‐ways acknowledged and thanked theuniversefor.
AstimehasgonebyIhavemanagedtodevelop a purely positive focused en‐ergy.Ittakestimeandittakespractice,but when you crack it, it is fantastic!Whatever I focus on manifests in mylife;itistrulyamazing.
AsIsithereinmybeautifulhomenowsohappyandfulfilled,Ioftenwonderifmylifehadnothitrockbottom,wouldIeverhavechangedmyphilosophyoflifeandtrulygetonmyspiritualpath.IamsogratefulIdid!
Mypassionistoshareandhelpothersget in the flow of Conscious Living.Here are some practical tips you canput to use immediately so thatYOUtoo can createa lifeofhappinessandabundance.
•Accept100%responsibilityforwhereyou are in your life. Choose to giveyour life direction and make positivechanges.
•Work on eliminating asmany nega‐tive self‐limiting thoughts aspossible.Trainyourmindsothatpositivethink‐ingbecomesawayofliving.
•Wakeupeachmorningandfocusonwhat you have to be grateful for anddon’tdwellonwhatisn’tright.
•Visualise and think about what youDOwantoutof life, rather thanwhatyouDON’Twant.
•Focusonthesolution,not theprob‐lem.
•Setgoalsthatinspireyou!
•Choosetoletgoofthepastandanyhurt,resentmentsandbitterness.Liveinthispresentmoment.
•Frequentlyusepositivepresenttensestatementsaboutyourself.Self‐accep‐tanceandloveareamust!
• Meditate and connect with your
HigherSelf
• Smile and be kind to others. Treatothersasyouwouldliketobetreated.
•Lovelifeandlivelife!
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Words of Wisdom
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“Theworldisroundandtheplacewhichmayseemliketheendmayalsobethebeginning.”IvyBakerPriest
“Greatistheartofbeginning,butgreateristheartofending.”LazurusLong
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The Second ChanceBy Paulo Coelho
TheSybilines,witchescapableoffore‐tellingthefuture,livedinancientRome.One fine day one of them appearedat EmperorTiberius’ palace with ninebooks; she said that therein lay thefutureoftheEmpire,andaskedfortentalents of gold for the texts. Tiberiusfoundthepricetoohighandrefusedtobuythem.
TheSybiline left, burned three of thebooksandreturnedwiththeremainingsix. “These cost ten talents of gold,”shesaid.Tiberiuslaughedandtoldhertoleave;howcouldshehavethenerveto sell sixbooks for thesamepriceasnine?
The Sybiline burned another threebooks andwent back toTiberiuswiththeonlythreeremainingbooks:“Theycostthesametentalentsofgold.” In‐trigued,Tiberius ended up buying thethree volumes and could only read asmallpartofthefuture.
I was telling this story toMonica,myagent and friend, while we drove toPortugal. When I finished, I realizedthatwewere passing throughCiudad
Rodrigo,ontheSpanishborder.There,fouryearsbefore,Iwasofferedabook,whichIdidnotbuy.
Duringmyfirstauthortourtopromotemybooks inEurope, I haddecided tohave lunch in that town. Afterwards,I went to visit the cathedral, where Imet a priest. “See how the afternoonsun makes everything more beautifulinhere,”hesaid.Ilikedthiscomment,we talked a little, and he showedmearoundthealtars,cloisters,andcourt‐yardsofthetemple.Intheend,heof‐feredmeabookhehadwrittenaboutthechurch;butIdidnotwishtobuyit.After I left, I felt guilty; I am awriter,and was in Europe trying to sell mywork–whynotbuy thepriest’sbook,outofsolidarity?ButthenIcompletelyforgottheepisode.Untilnow.
Istoppedthecar;itwasnotbychancethat I had remembered the story ofthe Sybiline books.Wewalked to thesquare in frontof thechurch,whereawomanwaslookingupatthesky.
“Good afternoon. I’ve come to see apriest who wrote a book about thischurch.”
“Thepriest,whosenamewasStanislau,diedayearago”sheanswered.
I felt deeply saddened.Whyhad I notgiven Father Stanislau the same joy IfeltwheneverIsawsomeonewithoneofmybooks?
“HewasoneofthekindestmenIhaveever met,” continued the woman.“He came from a humble family, butbecame a specialist in archeology; hehelpedmysonobtainacollegegrant.”
ItoldherwhatIwasdoingthere.
“There’snoneedtofeelguilty,myson,”she said. “Go and visit the cathedralagain.”
I thought thismustbea sign,anddidas she said.Therewas just one priestin the confession booth, awaiting thefaithful,althoughtherewerenonejustthen. I went over to him; the priestgestured forme to kneel down, but Iinterruptedhim.
“Idon’twanttomakeaconfession.Ijustcametobuyabookaboutthischurch,writtenbyamannamedStanislau.”
Thepriest’seyesglinted.Hecameoutof the confession booth and returnedafewminuteslaterwithacopyofthebook.
“Howmarvellousofyoutohavecomeespecially for that!”he said. “I amFa‐ther Stanislau’s brother, and this fillsmewithpride!Hemustbe inheaven,contentatseeinghisworkconsideredsoimportant!”
Amongalltheprieststhere,Ihappenedto have run into Stanislau’s brother. Ipaidforthebook,thankedhimandheembracedme. Just as I was leaving, Iheardhisvoice.
“See how the afternoon sun makeseverythingmorebeautiful inhere!”hesaid.
They were the same words FatherStanislauhadspokentomefouryearsearlier.Inlife,thereisalwaysasecondchance.
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Inspire
Ammaisatrulyamazing,generousandinspirationallady;overthecourseofthelast38yearsshehasphysicallyhuggedmorethan28millionpeoplearoundtheworld.Regionsinallcornersoftheglobe,amyriadofculturesandsocio‐economicstrataallbenefitfromsharingAmma’sloveanddevotion,whichsometimesex‐tendsto24‐hoursittingswhereshecanhugupto50,000peopleatatime.Thecausebehindherself‐sacrificing,charitableeffortsisthat“Love is the foundation of a happy life. Knowingly or unknowingly we are forgetting this truth.”HerIndianashramishometo3,000people,andthousandsmorevisiteveryday.TheyshareAmma’svastnetworkofcharitableprojectstobuildhomesforthehomeless,givepensionstothedestituteandprovidemedicalcareforthesick.
Challenge
Wheremanywouldmerelytalkaboutthelackofloveinmodernsociety,Ammachosetoactonthis,andintheprocessshechallengesotherstoawakentotheconsciousness that “love is our true nature. When we do not express love in our words and actions it is like honey hidden in a rock. It is of no use to anyone. This mutual sharing and expressing of love should begin at home between married couples and between parents and children. Only then will there be peace and harmony at home and in society.”
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