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DON SPARHAWKLDS Life editor

Serving a mission in St. Anthony might be the last place in the world where a native Idahoan would want to

serve, but to two fulltime missionar-ies from New York and Alabama, it’s the best place in the world. Just ask Elders Zachery Miller and Thomas Fischetti, who say they even like the cold winter weather.

“On the day my call came, I was nervous,” said Elder Fischetti, a 19-year-old missionary from South Salem, N.Y. “At first, I thought, ‘What kind of work is out there?’ – but I just love Idaho. It’s awesome living there and there are a lot of amazing people.”

“I love it too,” Elder Miller of Heflin, Ala., said. “I even love the cold. It’s a dry cold and a dry heat.”

Elder Fischetti hasn’t known any-where else but St. Anthony. He has served the first five months of his two-year mission here, and expects to be here at least until February before he’s possibly transferred to another part of the Idaho Pocatello Mission.

Elder Miller has been serving for nearly a year, with the first nine months in Chubbuck and the last two months in St. Anthony.

While they sometimes go door to door to meet people, their greatest success is when they receive refer-rals from fellow Latter-day Saints. The missionaries believe it’s impor-tant to first gain the trust of church members, who will then trust them to speak to their own friends and family members about the gospel.

“It’s a gold mine,” Elder Miller said of this area. “There is a lot work here. It’s good for it to be hard, for when you have successes, it’s all worth it.”

Coming from a small town in Alabama, Elder Miller said it’s not too much of an adjustment living here.

“Except there are a lot more mem-bers here,” he said. “I was the only member in my school. The church was about 30 miles away and the stake center was about 75 miles away.”

Instead of starting his mission at the typical age of 19, Elder Miller was almost 21 years old before he left.

While he always planned to serve a mission as a boy, from about age 16 to 19 he began to back away from missionary service. “I didn’t want to go,”

he said. “I didn’t feel adequate.”His father’s death a year and half

ago has helped explain his reluc-tance to serve when he turned 19.

“I would have been gone (on my mission),” he said of his father’s death. “I could stay home and help with the kids. I knew it was divine intervention.”

As he looks back, he believes this is the time of his life for him to be serving as a missionary.

“The Lord’s picture is perfect and ours is just little pictures we have to put together,” he said.

Elder Fischetti is the son of a Latter-day Saint mother who grew up in Lava Hot Springs and then worked as a nanny in New York. While there, she met a nice Catholic man from Brooklyn, and the two were married.

As a boy, he remembers attending the Mormon Church with his mother and the Catholic Church with his father. He was baptized at age 8, with his father being baptized imme-diately afterward.

“I was the first Fischetti ever to be baptized,” he said.

Growing up in New York as a lone Mormon wasn’t always easy, but “I was always active and always knew I would serve a mission.”

The two missionaries have served together for two months and say they make a good companionship.

“We are both very opposite and it works out perfect,” Elder Fischetti said.

“We’re really unified too,” Elder Miller added. “When teaching, we’re just thinking the same things most of the time.”

The missionaries, who live in a house in Twin Groves, serve in Wilford and Twin Groves, as well as in the St. Anthony 1st and 2nd wards. Because they live 3 miles out of town, they often drive to St. Anthony where they park their car and walk or bike from there.

“There have been days when it’s really, really hard,” Elder Miller said. “Personally, I came out to be more converted to my Savior, and by doing so I would help others.”

Serving in St. Anthony Fulltime missionaries find ‘gold mine’ in Idaho

Elder Thomas Fischetti

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Rich Boivie of Rexburg was very touched when he opened a gift from his children on his 70th birthday on Nov. 14.

Entitled “70 Lessons You Taught Us,” the self-published book was a compilation of memories from his children and grandchildren about the example he has set over his lifetime.

The book joined a companion vol-ume entitled “70 Reasons” that pre-viously had been given to his wife, Carol, on her 70th birthday.

“I was blown away,” Carol said of her book. “It was interesting to see what they had to say.”

Married 46 years ago in the Cardston Alberta Temple, the Boivies raised six sons and a daughter, and today have 15 grandchildren.

Carol grew up on a cattle ranch outside Cardston and Rich was raised in California and Carson City, Nev. They met at Brigham Young University in Provo, Utah, where Carol had cooked the food for a din-ner party.

“The food was out of this world,”

Rich recalls. “I still remember the beef stroganoff.”

Having lived in 25 different places

from Florida to Alberta during their marriage, they decided to settle in Rexburg six years ago when Rich

retired.“We wanted to be some place close

to a temple, in a smaller community and close to some of our children,” Rich said. Having had four of their sons attend Ricks College, “We knew Rexburg and we remembered our experiences living in Pocatello and really liked Idaho people.”

And their son, Doug Boivie, lived in nearby Sugar City.

They quickly became part of the community, volunteering at the Rexburg Temple and serving local church missions at the Humanitarian Service Room and the Family History Center at BYU-Idaho.

If you are an early riser, you may find them walking the indoor track at BYU-Idaho or later in the day work-ing on their family history.

Family always came first for the Boivies.

“We made it a point to always sup-port our kids,” Rich said. “We wanted them to know we would always be there supporting them.”

On these two pages, we have included many of the lessons that were mentioned in the Boivies’ two books.

70 lessons Looking back on life through eyes of your children

Carol and Rich Boivie of Rexburg.

Why we love you Mom . . .• I loved how you would fill buckets with cookies, but labeled them liver.

• I love you because you can slaughter and butcher a cow. How many moms come home with a car filled with warm beef and having spent the day arms deep in a carcass?

• I love how you made and served a special dinner for me, my friends, and our dates for Junior Prom.

• We love it because you always bring treats in your purse.

• We absolutely loved the hot break-fasts every morning.

• We love how you can make a meal out of anything, even without a recipe.

• We love that you have many talents – you sing, play piano, paint and more.

• We loved your performance in “Steel Magnolias.” You definitely moved everyone who saw it.

• I love that you made us special Christmas stockings.

• We love the hats and scarves you and Grandpa made for us.

• I love that you finally wrote a book after all the years you wanted to.

• We love that you still set goals and challenge yourself.

• We love you because of your strong testimony of the gospel.

• We love that you set a good example by serving a mission.

• We love that you always come to our baptisms and temple sealings.

• We love the sacrifice you make to work at the temple.

• I love you because you are one of the only ladies I know who could walk across the plains pulling a handcart. You are as tough as any pioneer woman.

• We love how you always stand up for what’s right and will speak out when you see something that’s not right.

• I love how you relate the scriptures to everyday life.

• We love how you honor the priest-hood.

• We love your trust in the power of prayer and family.

• We love how you willingly give your time to the Lord.

• We love that you have a great sense of humor. You can crack jokes with all of us and you love to laugh.

• We love that you are an excellent teacher.

• We love that you are willing to try new things.

• We love that you are easy to talk to.

• We love your courage.

• We love that you always have time for us.

• I love that you are an optimist and are always in a good mood.

• I love how you try to remember those who have gone before you and your heritage.


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70 lessons Looking back on life through eyes of your children

Lessons from Dad . . .• Always give your best effort – any-thing worth doing is worth doing well.

• It is important to keep the house and the yard looking good, and your kids are a valuable source of labor to assist in these projects.

• It is never too early in the morn-ing to shovel the snow in the widow’s driveway.

• It is good to know a little bit about everything in your house. You should know the basics of plumbing, electri-cal, carpentry, etc. to keep your house running smoothly.

• Your employer deserves a full day’s work. Make sure you do your best at work.

• Sit where you can see the exits. You don’t want someone to be able to sneak up on you from behind.

• If you teach your kids to work, it will pay off eventually. They might really dislike it when they are clean-ing up the yard, or helping out in one of the family’s small businesses, but later they will know how to work.

• Support your family and children by attending their sporting events or special occasions.

• The best ice cream is Reed’s Dairy ice cream and can be purchased from G’s Dairy in Rexburg.

• There is truth behind the statement early to bed, early to rise.

• It doesn’t take a lot of money to have a happy and close family.

• It’s a valuable skill to be able to fall asleep instantly and to wake up just as instantly. It makes your lunch break much more efficient if you can fit in a little nap.

• BYU and the 49ers are the only football teams worth rooting for.

• Know where your kids are at all times, especially when you are behind the wheel.

• Always be on the lookout for a good bakery and a good hotdog.

• Donuts taste better when you have to finish them in the car before you get home. Also, make sure you throw your garbage away in the garage

before you go into the house.

• You should warn your friends who are going to sleep over that your dad’s snoring is so loud you can hear it in the basement on the other side of the house otherwise they might get really scared.

• I could feel safe with Dad as he drove us through blizzards after events in Lethbridge.

• Show your wife you love her by making her breakfast in bed – espe-cially on Mother’s Day.

• Express your feelings and love of the Savior through songs and poetry.

•Respect women and always put them on a pedestal.

• It is okay to show your emotions – even to cry.

• Controlling your temper and con-trolling yourself is better than snap judgments and anger.

• You need to be scrupulously honest, even if that means keeping track of any office supplies used for personal reasons and then paying your employ-er back for them.

• A good reputation is one of the most valuable things a person has.

• There is never a reason to treat someone unkindly.

• Money has nothing to do with some-one’s worth.

• Leave every place you go better than how you found it.

• There is no shame in being wrong, only in staying wrong.

• Always be prepared to use your Priesthood.

• Always say yes to a calling – you don’t know what lesson the Lord is trying to teach you through your call-ing.

• When you are unsure of the deci-sions you should make, turn to the Lord – he will answer your prayers.

• Family Home Evening is so impor-tant that you shouldn’t allow anything to interrupt that time with your fam-ily – even the telephone.

Why we love you Mom . . .• We love that you have a great sense of humor. You can crack jokes with all of us and you love to laugh.

• We love that you are an excellent teacher.

• We love that you are willing to try new things.

• We love that you are easy to talk to.

• We love your courage.

• We love that you always have time for us.

• I love that you are an optimist and are always in a good mood.

• I love how you try to remember those who have gone before you and your heritage.

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Our family has always been strong on traditions. Every year we celebrate holidays just about

the same way. We’ve always felt it’s important to establish fam-ily traditions – it helps to bind a family together. In fact, back in 2001 my wife, Marsha, wrote a short story for the Ensign magazine about the impor-tance of family traditions (see story on next page).

For the past 34 years that we have

been married, we have always spent Christmas at home here in Idaho. There was never any question about it. There was never a mention of doing anything differently. There was deliv-ering gifts to our neighbors, driving around town to see the Christmas lights, a dinner and program on Christmas Eve, going to the movies together as a family, and playing lots of games during the week between Christmas and New Year’s.

But a phone call in October from our daughter, Sara, in California changed all that. “Why don’t you come to California for Christmas?” she asked. “It’s warm down here and we could even go to the Rose Bowl Parade like you’ve always wanted to do.”

She said the children had all dis-cussed it and everyone agreed.

In a weak moment, we consented to their scheme. Christmas in a warm

climate was very tempting. And the Tournament of Roses Parade was something we had talked about doing once again ever since Marsha and I “slept” on the sidewalk of Pasadena’s Colorado Boulevard exactly 30 years ago.

And so the decision was made. But instead of sleeping on the street, we went ahead and bought tickets for some bleacher seats for the parade. We were committed. No turning back.

Since we weren’t going to be at home for Christmas, we decided that we also wouldn’t put up any Christmas decorations either. There would be no need for decorating the house or even putting up a Christmas tree since no one was coming home!

I felt like I was reliving the wonder-fully funny book “Skipping Christmas” by John Grisham (also made into the movie “Christmas with the Kranks”) when an older couple like ourselves decided to go on a cruise for Christmas.

Shortly after buying the tick-ets for the parade, our son Andrew called from Ohio. He announced that although his wife was in favor of going to California, he was opposed. He wanted to come home to Rexburg for Christmas.

“We can’t change now. We already bought the tickets,” Marsha replied.

“Well then, we will come home for a few days before Christmas and then go to California with you,” he said.

So much for not putting up the Christmas decorations! For our senti-mental son who is steeped in family tradition, we would have to decorate the house just like we have every year since he was born. But we were still going to California as planned.

And so we set out on our adventure a few days before Christmas – and we took a little of home with us. We took a bowl full of Marsha’s caramels – some with nuts and some without. We took Falls Brand ham, sausage and bacon in the cooler. We brought a box of Idaho potatoes. We also packed our favorite card games, including Rook, Fruit Basket and Ripple.

Upon arrival, we made other family recipes that tasted just like home.

At the insistence of our grown chil-dren who have never grown up, we brought their stockings. And under the Christmas tree, everyone received a half-pound of their very specific orders of favorite Florence’s chocolates.

Marsha tried once again to drop the tradition of new pajamas for Christmas Eve. She thought our kids would understand that this was just too much to take these packages in the car. Well they got wind of her decision the night before we were to leave and anarchy occurred. They were having none of that so our daughter, Katie, went pajama shopping during her lunch hour before we left.

By the time we got to St. George, Utah, some family members had decided to exchange some of the sizes and add some T-shirts. Then when we got to California, they exchanged them again! That is exactly why Marsha wants to drop this tradition! So young parents take notice: be careful what traditions you start because they will never die – no matter how old your children get.

We went for our traditional drive to see Christmas lights, but this year it was to the Oakland Temple grounds where they decorate palm trees in blue and orange lights.

Marsha even brought the printed programs for our family Christmas Eve program, although we forgot the hymn books and could only sing the first verses to the Christmas carols.

And so we took our Christmas tradi-tions with us, and added a few more like going to the beach, eating the best tacos at a gas station in Pescadero, walking through the redwood forest, seeing flowers in full bloom and leaves on trees, site-seeing along the Pacific Coast Highway, and watching the greatest parade in the world.

Yes, it was all wonderful. The perfect trip. Warm weather. And best of all, no snow and no freezing temperatures!

But as for next year, Marsha and I have already decided to stay home. We’re not skipping Christmas in Idaho next year. And we may not take our tree down for a while either. There’s just no place like home for the holi-days – and we missed it!

Skipping Christmas Spending the holidays in warm California

Fun with family traditionsEditor’s note. The following article by Marsha

Sparhawk was published in the Dec. 2001 issue of the Ensign magazine.

MARSHA SPARHAWKGuest writer

When I was young, my parents started a number of family traditions that my broth-ers and sisters and I now carry over into our own families. Some of our favorites

include the following fun activities:New Year’s Eve. Our New Year’s Eve celebrations

were family affairs. Each child invited a few friends to join our family party. To accommodate the crowd, we set up card tables in the living room, dining room and family room. The evening began with a get-acquainted game; then everyone found a place at a card table and played games. At midnight we served a buffet dinner, sang “Auld Lang Syne” and threw confetti.

Birthdays. Birthdays were always special days. We were treated to breakfast in bed and then allowed to open our presents before getting up. We were not required to do any chores for the day, and Mother always asked us what we wanted for a special birth-day dinner.

My parents went to great lengths to be home for

those special dinners. One night my father even excused himself from a meeting with a business client, saying he could not be late for a special dinner. Later that evening the client came to the house and was surprised to see linen, crystal, china and fresh flowers on the table – and hamburgers on the plates!

Dinner time. Our family tended to be very vocal, and dinner times were usually fun occasions. Sometimes we discussed current events, talked about church doctrine or just laughed at funny things that had happened during the day. Just being together each evening brought us closer together.

Spring cleanup day. Each year our family gath-ered at 9 o’clock sharp on a Saturday morning to prepare the yard and garden for summer. By five that evening Mother had meat cooking on the grill for an outdoor picnic, and the yard was ready for summer-time activities.

Fourth of July. We usually began this summer hol-iday with a game of baseball in the park, then games with the children. Later we went swimming and had a barbecue. Mother’s homemade ice cream bars were always a special treat. The evening ended with a patriotic program and fireworks.

Family fun times have now moved to a new genera-tion, and many of these traditions continue to enrich our lives.

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Editor’s note: This month’s column about families is written by Scott Gardner, chairman of the Department of Home and Family at Brigham Young University-Idaho.

SCOTT GARDNERGuest writer

With the holidays behind us, a

new year ahead of us and new year’s resolutions waiting to be made (or broken), this is a good opportunity to look at the rollercoaster of life

with its many ups and downs. I’ve had the opportunity over the holidays to spend a lot of time with older folks, some family, some in-laws and some outlaws.

I’ve learned some great life lessons in the process as I’ve been a witness to the good, the bad and the ugly of the aging process and the family dynamics that inevitably come from it. Perhaps we can all glean some-thing from this list of life lessons for the elderly and those family members caring for them.

1. As you age, gracefully accept change without throwing a fit. Aging comes with its ups and downs, but due to gravity, most of them seem to be downs. We must accept our new reality and make the best of it. So don’t get upset if your husband

keeps repeating something he told you five minutes ago, or your mother can’t remember how to log in to her Facebook account again, or you can’t get through the night without mul-tiple trips to the restroom. Griping about it really won’t help. This is your new reality; just accept it rather than beating your head against the wall trying to change it.

2. Retire when you can. I’ve seen too many couples who put off retirement or put off going on a mis-sion and then when they want to go, they can’t because their health has suddenly deteriorated. One couple I knew did it right. They retired as soon as they were able and submit-ted their mission papers right away. They had a wonderful 6-month mis-sion which was cut short by a cancer diagnosis. If they had waited, they would have never been able to have that sweet mission experience that they still treasure today. Old age can sneak up on us fast, don’t think you can work until you stop feeling good and then think you can close things down and clean things out and get your finances in order and then go on a mission when your health goes downhill.

3. Develop a patient and flex-ible personality now. Work on the rough spots in your personality now, don’t wait and think you’ll mellow in your old age. Most of our negative attributes will just be magnified as we get older. If you are picky about the stovetop being clean now, that pickiness can turn to a relentless obsession when you are in the throes of old age.

4. Learn to laugh in the face of frustration. When life knocks us down, we can get mad, cry or laugh. Sometimes we can’t help but get upset, or cry, but life tends to be bet-ter when we learn to laugh in those tough times. My in-laws are a won-derful example of laughing in tense situations. If either gets a little snip-py with the other, they end their com-ment with a little chuckle acknowl-edging that they recognize they took their snotty comment a little too far.

Soon they are both laughing rather than getting increasingly irritated with each other. A little chuckle will go a long way.

5. Learn to look for the posi-tives in every situation now. I recently saw one elderly couple who had to move from their home of 50 years in Arizona to live with their family in Idaho Falls…in December. I’m sure there were many negatives they could have focused on in such a move (it’s cold, it’s snowing, it’s even colder now, etc.). Instead, I observed them finding joy in simple beau-ties such as snow on the rooftops glistening in the morning sun, birds coming to search for seeds in the snow, and grandchildren creating masterpieces of art with paper and crayon. Developing such a habit now will be a prized possession in our old age.

6. Mend damaged relation-ships now and throw out old grudges with the trash. This Christmas season I also witnessed a young couple whose wedding was somewhat boycotted by many fam-ily members. Rather than cutting themselves off from the boycotting family members, this young couple purposely chose to visit them for Christmas. This courageous action healed hearts and repaired relation-ships that could have been severed for life to the detriment of all.

7. Make connections with grandchildren. Know what’s impor-tant to them, what’s going on in their lives. When they come to visit, even when they drive you nuts, try to find the beauty in every smudged wall and broken or misplaced trinket in your previously immaculate house.

As a child I was blessed with an amazing grandmother who exempli-fied this point. She knew our lives, our desires, our hopes and our challenges. She knew I was enamored with kara-te. For my 8th birthday she gave me a certificate to take karate lessons. I never took advantage of the lessons, but I knew that my grandmother

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Family connections: Learning Family Tree

Editor’s note: Each month this col-umn is written by a different family history consultant from the upper valley. This month’s writer is Holly Kauer, a volunteer at the Rexburg Family Search Center.

HOLLY KAUERGuest writer

Why do family history? Have you ever asked yourself that question? I have. I have often felt

overwhelmed even thinking about doing family history when there

are so many directions life seems to pull me into.

Let me share with you how I even got into family history. Several years ago I was going through some difficulties. We’ve all heard the expression, “When it rains, it pours!” Well,

I finally hit a road block! I honestly didn’t know what to do about anything.

I turned to the Lord and asked Him what I should do? The answer I received was far from what I was expecting. The Lord told me, “Get into family history work and your ancestors will save you.” Now, why on earth would He tell me that!

But I listened, and after a short time I began to understand why I was led into this world of family history. In short, it took me away from focusing on myself and my problems. And now as I look back over the past six years, family history has opened up a most fascinating adventure beyond my wildest dreams!

It was a slow process because I was still raising my children, but I was trying, and I felt the Lord blessing me for it. I gradually started feeling someone, or something, carry me, assisting me and giving me strength. And I might add, my personal problems unfolded into happy days.

But what is now really exciting for those of you who venture into family history is that there is a whole new program that targets beginners to make your experiences much easier.

For several years, through The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, we have worked in a program known as New Family Search. But now there are bigger and better things happening as Family Tree replaces New Family Search. Family Tree is a family history website that is cleaner, more accurate and it is user friendly.

So come with me and enjoy a world of adventure in this new year through Family Tree. You will love it. The learning will be intriguing, your accomplishments will be fulfilling, and your ancestors will be forever endeared into your heart and soul.

Simply go to www.familysearch.org.If you already have an account just

sign in as normal. If you need to set up an account, click on “Sign In,” and then “Create New Account.” From there it will walk you through what to do. Once your account is created, you can access Family Tree at any time by going to www.familysearch.org, using the user name and password that you created.

After signing in you will see the “Family Tree” tab at the top left of the page, but I suggest you start by going to the “help” tab at the top right side of the page. It will open a new screen that will have a section all about family tree.

To watch the videos, simply click on the first video link and it will bring up a screen and start playing automatically. It is so beneficial to do the practice exercises as you go. Don’t be in a hurry. Just take your time and enjoy.

Do be aware that Family Tree is still in beta testing, which means they are still working out some of the little bugs. Within about six months, Family Tree will be running at its full capacity.

But there is no reason to not get started now! This is a wonderful opportunity to start the new year of 2013 with a goal to “fall in love” with your family relatives through family history! Happy trails to you!

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Book review: ‘A Sick Day for Amos McGee’ELAINE HAWKERChildren’s book review

Do you ever go through your day wondering who would miss you if you didn’t show up? On the other hand, who

are those people you would miss if they weren’t there? In “A Sick Day for Amos McGee,” a picture book written by Philip C. Stead and illustrated by his wife Erin E. Stead, we find out the power of thoughtful, constant friend-ship.

The title character, Amos McGee, lives a simple life. “Amos McGee was an early riser. Every morning when the alarm clock clanged, he swung his legs out of bed and swapped his paja-mas for a fresh-pressed uniform.”

He talks politely to his sugar bowl, asking for sugar for his teacup and his oatmeal. He walks to the number eight bus, which is right on time and goes to his job at the City Zoo. “Amos had a lot

to do at the zoo, but he always made time to visit his good friends.”

“He would play chess with the elephant (who thought and thought before making a move), run races with the tortoise (who never ever lost), sat quietly with the penguin (who was very shy), lend a handkerchief to the rhinoceros (who always had a runny nose), and, at sunset, read stories to the owl (who was afraid of the dark).”

But one day, when Amos swung his legs out of bed, he realized he didn’t feel well and decided not to go to work that day. His friends at the zoo, who prepared for his arrival – the elephant polished the chess set, the tortoise lim-bered up for his daily race, and the owl picked out storybooks – worried when he didn’t show. So the friends from the zoo went to find the missing Amos.

I really like the fact that the book becomes wordless here for about six pages. We see the animals exiting the zoo, and calmly waiting for and rid-

ing the city bus that will take them to Amos. When the animals make it to Amos’s house, he greets them almost as if he expected them to show up, “Hooray! My good friends are here!”

Activities are altered, but each friend shows Amos how much he means to them. The elephant doesn’t mind that Amos is the one taking a long time between moves, hide and seek replaces races with the tortoise, the penguin warms Amos’s feet dur-ing his nap, and the rhinoceros is the one ready with a handkerchief. They share tea, say goodnight to each other, and then the owl, who knows Amos is afraid of the dark, reads a story before turning out the light. The final picture shows all of the animals and Amos, peacefully sleeping together.

One of my favorite things about this book is the whimsical nature of the book. I like the fact that Amos talks to his sugar bowl, that the animals are assigned human characteristics (and

that Amos knows the animals well enough to humor them), and I also like the fact that nobody looks really sur-prised as a wide assortment of animals leave the zoo and travel on a bus. It makes me laugh when Amos doesn’t even act surprised to see his friends show up to visit him.

But perhaps the thing I appreciate most about the book is its quiet focus on friendship. The actions of both Amos and his friends highlight friend-ship and its reciprocal nature. This is a book that makes me want to be a better friend, although I’m not sure I’m ready for an elephant and a rhi-noceros to come knocking at my door.

“A Sick Day for Amos McGee,” by Philip C. Stead, illustrated by Erin E. Stead, Roaring Brook Press, 2010.

Elaine Hawker teaches English at BYU-Idaho and specializes in chil-dren’s literature.

The Gardener: Raising English roses in IdahoDAN PEARCELDS Life gardening columnist

If you haven’t noticed, it has been cold lately. These subzero temperatures every night are not fun. As a matter a fact, when I

came to work yesterday (I work at BYU-Idaho) the toilets were frozen over! My office is on the third floor of a converted men’s dorm – old Rigby Hall – and I lived in one of the dorms when I was a student here back in the mid 1970s. A lot of wacky things happened in the dorms – but toilets freezing over? That never happened.

I have been thinking a lot about roses the past couple of weeks as I have been browsing the gardening catalogs. I want to add a few roses this year. We already grow a lot of roses, and my wife, Kathy, is kind of against more roses. But I’m sure I’ll be able to talk her into just a “couple more.”

Any new roses we purchase will be shrub roses because they are hardier and easier to care for than hybrid tea types. Perhaps my favorite type of shrub rose is known as the English rose popularized by the famous English rose breeder David Austin. Throughout his career, Austin has sought to com-bine the color possibilities and repeat blooming qualities of modern roses with the toughness and fragrance of

old-fashioned roses. The result has been beautiful shrub roses of informal form, exquisite fragrance, a wide range of colors, and frequently (though not always) superior hardiness.

English roses are also wonderful in flower arrangements. Though some Austin roses are only a little hardier than hybrid teas, most are much har-dier, and some are quite hardy enough to handle our toughest winters. We have a bed of English roses growing right below our bed-room window that have been bringing Kathy and me joy for over a decade.

Some of my favorites include Mary Rose, with pink, cupped blooms, very fragrant; Winchester Cathedral, exactly like Mary Rose but with white blooms; Golden Celebration, with fragrant gold-en blooms fading to cream; Fisherman’s Friend, a very thorny shrub with fra-grant, bright red, cupped blooms; The Dark Lady, which shows off deep red blooms; and Abraham Darby, which puts out large-cupped, strongly per-fumed blooms of apricot and pink.

All of the preceding roses grow about 3 feet in height. These are just some of the English roses we have loved for years. Several other Austins are also very hardy and worthy of consider-ation, but these have so far proven to be the hardiest in our garden.

To grow almost any kind of rose in our area, there are five keys. First,

plant the rose in full sun. Many roses will grow in some

shade, but to maxi-mize the number of

blooms full sun is best.

Second, improve the bed, not just the hole. In order to grow

large rose bushes, improve the soil

of the whole bed the bush is to be planted in,

not just its planting hole. To grow large, a rose bush needs to

develop an extensive root system with lots of fine feeder roots from which to take in nourishment. If the hole the bush is planted in is surrounded by poor soil, its roots are likely to be somewhat bound by that planting hole, which will keep the rose from achieving its full potential.

Third, keep the head sunny but the feet cool. While roses like to have their

heads in the sun, they prefer their feet (roots) to be cool and moist. A 2-inch layer of some organic mulch like bark, soil pep or pine straw helps to keep the soil cool and damp while suppressing weedy competition.

Fourth, learn the pruning require-ments for different kinds of roses. Do not prune hardy shrub roses as if they were hybrid teas! English roses need careful thinning, but nothing as aggres-sive as the pruning required for hybrid teas.

Fifth, and most important of all, don’t stop watering prematurely! This is the number one mistake gardeners in our area make. Desiccation or “drying out” kills more roses around here than any-thing.

So if you are planning to add some roses to your landscape this spring, consider giving English roses a try. Most of the full-service nurseries in our area carry a few David Austin roses.

My favorite catalog and online sources for English roses: David Austin Roses, www.davidaustinroses.com; Edmunds’ Roses, www.edmundsroses.com; Jackson and Perkins, www.jack-son-perkins.com; and Jung Seed Co., www.jungseed.com.

Dan Pearce lives in Lyman and

teaches English at BYU-Idaho. In his spare time, he is a passionate gardener.


that Amos knows the animals well enough to humor them), and I also like the fact that nobody looks really sur-prised as a wide assortment of animals leave the zoo and travel on a bus. It makes me laugh when Amos doesn’t even act surprised to see his friends show up to visit him.

But perhaps the thing I appreciate most about the book is its quiet focus on friendship. The actions of both Amos and his friends highlight friend-ship and its reciprocal nature. This is a book that makes me want to be a better friend, although I’m not sure I’m ready for an elephant and a rhi-noceros to come knocking at my door.

“A Sick Day for Amos McGee,” by Philip C. Stead, illustrated by Erin E. Stead, Roaring Brook Press, 2010.

Elaine Hawker teaches English at BYU-Idaho and specializes in chil-dren’s literature.

Missionary announcements are published each Thursday in the Standard Journal newspaper. The deadline for submitting announce-ments to the newspaper is Tuesday at 5 p.m. Email to [email protected] or drop it off at our office.

Departing missionariesAndrew Alexander Millward to

Brazil Recife Mission, son of Kurk and Brenda Millward of Sugar City.

Jakeb Coltyn Bochenek to Florida Tallahassee Mission, son of Shane and Becky Boyle and the late Martin Bochenek.

Anna Lenhart to Poland Warsaw Mission.

Kaden Michael Rubert to New Mexico Albuquerque Mission, son of Russ and Shauna Rubert of St. Anthony.

Ron and Sandi Hammond of Rexburg to Middle East, Jordan Mission.

Kurt Munns to Chile Osorno Mission, son of Russ and Linda Munns of Archer.

Kenny Dalling to Arizona Tucson Mission, son of Rod and Denise Dalling of Wilford.

Kevin and Janice of Rexburg to Canada Halifax Mission.

Brendon J. Stoddard to Indiana Indianapolis Mission, son of Bryan and Suzanne Stoddard of St. Anthony.

Returning missionariesJacob Henry Avenius from

Missouri Independence Mission, son of David and Joan Avenius.

Jordan Wilcox from New York Rochester Mission, son of Lynn and Julie Wilcox of Rexburg.

Justin Merrill of Sugar City from Mississippi Jackson Mission, son of Anthony and Marie Merrill.

Eythan Graham Barney from Romania Bucharest Mission, son of Linden and Suanne Barney of Hibbard.

Tausha Marie Powell from California Santa Rosa Mission, daughter of Kevin and LeAnn Powell of Rexburg.

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heads in the sun, they prefer their feet (roots) to be cool and moist. A 2-inch layer of some organic mulch like bark, soil pep or pine straw helps to keep the soil cool and damp while suppressing weedy competition.

Fourth, learn the pruning require-ments for different kinds of roses. Do not prune hardy shrub roses as if they were hybrid teas! English roses need careful thinning, but nothing as aggres-sive as the pruning required for hybrid teas.

Fifth, and most important of all, don’t stop watering prematurely! This is the number one mistake gardeners in our area make. Desiccation or “drying out” kills more roses around here than any-thing.

So if you are planning to add some roses to your landscape this spring, consider giving English roses a try. Most of the full-service nurseries in our area carry a few David Austin roses.

My favorite catalog and online sources for English roses: David Austin Roses, www.davidaustinroses.com; Edmunds’ Roses, www.edmundsroses.com; Jackson and Perkins, www.jack-son-perkins.com; and Jung Seed Co., www.jungseed.com.

Dan Pearce lives in Lyman and

teaches English at BYU-Idaho. In his spare time, he is a passionate gardener.

Strengthening . . . Continued from page 8

knew me and loved me. Before that moment, I was pretty sure she could walk on water. After that birthday present, I knew she really could.

8. Do things outside your increasingly narrow comfort zone. Many of us get more and more set in our ways as we age. We have our routine and heaven for-bid if anyone gets in the way of us watching “Jeopardy” or “Antiques Roadshow”! I loved the example of my parents as they recently stepped out of their comfort zone and went on a cruise to Alaska (an item on their bucket list). Getting out of your comfort zone doesn’t have to be something this extravagant, try new things, go new places and experi-ence more to life.

9. Take care of your physical, mental and emotional well-being as a habit your whole life. Problems cannot be avoided in our older years, but if we establish good patterns now of caring for our physical, mental and emotional

wellbeing, we will go into old age that much more ahead of the game. For example, it may be tough to lose weight now, but it’s a lot harder after you’re on chemotherapy, have a broken hip or had a stroke.

10. Lastly some advice for caregivers of elderly family members. Those who are in the “sandwich generation,” where you are caring for your parents and still caring for your children in the home, you have a challenging double duty. In all of your tireless service, don’t let important things slide: exercise, dates with your spouse and activi-ties with your children. It’s impor-tant that you maintain as many of your family rituals as possible to provide stability and a sense of pre-dictability for your own children.

As you work to enjoy the roller-coaster of life, remember that we waited in line a long time to get on this ride, so now that we are here in the middle of it, put your hands up in the air and enjoy the simple beauties of the ups and downs of the stages of life.


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