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The speedof the leader

is the speedof the pack!


The 5 hidden dangers to the family

1. Time pressures

2. Time management

3. Lack of communication

4. Inappropriate content

5. Lack of self-discipline can lead to addiction


The result of these dangers…

• Responsible parenting has become more challenging than ever before

• However…

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There are solutions for families…


Strategies that you can use to help families keep safe from these dangers

1. Educate about protection

2. Encourage accountability

3. Teach the importance of open communication lines

4. Set the example by using technology to your advantage

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Strategy #1

Educate about protection

Imagine if this happened to you . . .

• You find your daughter posing semi-nude on www.stickam.com


http://www.stickam.com/

Imagine if this happened to you . . .

• Even though you have a filter, she got there by going to a secure anonymizer, https://fluteswimmer.com


https://fluteswimmer.com/


Almost all filters miss these…

• There are thousands of sites called secure (https) anonymizers or proxy sites that allow users to circumvent most filtering systems

• These anonymizers are the most common way users bypass Internet blocking software

• 69% of parents are not even aware that these sites exist

The landscape is changing – fast

• Worst of all, a growing number of young people think that what she’s doing is OK !!


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Strategy #2

Encourage

accountability


• “Research on social behavior indicates accountability to another person is the most effective means of ensuring appropriate social conduct.”

-- LCMS resolution

Accountability leads to appropriate conduct


There is a growing need for protection and accountability

• Men’s, women’s, or youth groups

• Organizational staffs

• Liability protection

• Members use the monitoring reports to have open and honest conversations with others about where they go and what they see online


And now we live in a mobile generation

• iPhone

• iTouch

• iPad

• Android

• Household router


Encourage accountabilityEncourage them to:

• Maintain access to their family members’ online accounts and randomly check their children’s E-mail and social networking activity

• Be up front with their family about their access and reasons why they are monitoring them

• Be aware of all of the family’s Internet use

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Strategy #3

Teach the importance of open communication lines

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Parents have more influence than they might think

• Parents are the biggest influence on their children’s behavior -- more than friends, the media, educators, siblings, or church

Source: Medicine.net, Where Do Kids Learn About Sex?, 1/30/05


What should you talk about?

Teach them to:

• Spend time with their children online. Have them learn about their children’s favorite online destinations

• Talk to their family about sexual victimization and the potential online dangers of pornography, gaming, and social networking

• Train their family the responsible use of online resources such as search engines, YouTube, etc.


Stay informed

• Know what your families are

being exposed to and what they are viewing

• Keep up with current and emerging threats by reading informative blogs and articles

• Have discussions with your own family about what you have learned - get their input as well

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Strategy #4:

Set the example by using technology to

your advantage


Customization should be age-based

• Use software that can be:

– Adapted to your family’s needs

– Customized based on age appropriateness

– Changed year to year to match the growing maturity level of your children

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Meet Bob and Laura

Laura’s Report Settings


Laura’s Filter Settings


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Laura’s report


Three Possibilities

• Report Looks Good

• Review Suggested

• Close Review Recommended

Blocked Sites


Search reporting


High Ratings per Site


Bob starts a conversation with Laura



Filtering should not over block

• Some filters might block all pages on a site based on a root URL or key word regardless of the context, like craigslist

• The option with many filters is to block the entire site, or allow the entire site, such as google.com

• Choose a software that is context-based, customizable, and offers age-based ratings, not just for each site, but for each page visited


My commitment to you…

1. To provide you with the tools you need to make this easy

2. To help you lead your congregations to recognize the dangers

3. To connect you with one point of contact Internet Safety Consultant


My commitment to you…

If you ever have a question, you may call my personal assistant, Donald Lindsey:

989-720-8042


So what are your action items?

You might be thinking “I don’t have time or knowledge to lead others the way I would like.”

Please… take advantage of me! That is why I’m here!


How do I educate about protection?

Talk about it from the pulpit and in counseling sessions:

1. Encourage accountability, with software as a tool

2. Find out what computer safeguards are utilized by your schools, public library, homes of children's friends, etc.)

3. Be aware of the changing online landscape


The Internet is vast, yet parents can control it

4. Point them toward the freely available resources on the Covenant Eyes website, such as

• “Pure Minds Online” e-magazine

• “Parenting the Internet Generation”

• “Protecting Kids on YouTube”

• “Breaking Free” blog & podcasts

• “Porn in the Pews” and much more


Our goal is to empower people with tools that provide protection and encourage accountability and trust in the fight against Internet temptation.

We bridge the gap between technology and relationships.

Our Goal…


• We focus on education significantly and have an ongoing stream of excellent educational material that is regularly updated and is utilized by hundreds of thousands of visitors

• Our commitment to forging a battle against Internet abuse drives us to provide the best, most genuine accountability software possible – even to provide it for free to those with a hardship

• We provide superior member service and regularly receive testimonials on how caring and helpful our team is

What sets us apart


• “I'm living my life in the fresh air of integrity in a way that I don't think would be possible without you”

• “It is the most valuable piece of software I have”

What people are saying…


What I’m saying…

Thank you to the Michigan District of LCMS for being the first denominational group to take such an aggressive, proactive, and courageous stand for the future!


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