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©The Incredible Years® Dinosaur School Notes to Parents (Small Group Dinosaur Program) For the Small Group treatment dinosaur program, dinosaur group leaders will give parents a letter describing the content of each session and suggesting ways parents can help support their child’s learning at home. This section has 16 parent letters. By purchasing the Incredible Years® Dinosaur Curriculum, you are granted permis- sion to make copies of the documents in this manual for use when delivering this program. ® ©

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Dinosaur School Notes to Parents

(Small Group Dinosaur Program)

For the Small Group treatment dinosaur program, dinosaur group leaders will give parents a letter describing the content of each session and suggesting ways parents can help support their child’s learning at home. This section has 16 parent letters. By purchasing the Incredible Years® Dinosaur Curriculum, you are granted permis-sion to make copies of the documents in this manual for use when delivering this program.

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Dinosaur School Notes to Parents

Welcome to Dinosaur School,We are excited to be working with your child. This program has been extensively evaluated and has been shown to promote positive social interactions between children, to increase cooperation with parents and teachers, and to reduce children’s verbal and physical aggression. We will be using video examples, puppets, special activities, books, and games to teach your child the important skills needed to make friends and work well in the classroom. Two therapists/group leaders meet with the children in small groups (5–6 children per group) each week for two hours. The program lasts approximately 18–24 weeks.

Your therapists’/group leaders’ names are:

_______________________________ and _______________________________.

They can be reached at this number: _________________________ Parent Involvement: Collaborate With us in Making Dinosaur School Program Successful for Your Child�� $UULYH�ÀYH�PLQXWHV�HDUO\�DQG�WDNH�\RXU�FKLOG�WR�WKH�EDWKURRP��%ULQJ�D�VPDOO�VQDFN�

for your child to eat in the car if you are coming straight from school.�� $UULYH�WHQ�PLQXWHV�EHIRUH�WKH�HQG�RI�WKH�JURXS�VR�WKHUDSLVWV�FDQ�WHOO�\RX�DERXW�WKH�

session and review the home activities with you each week.�� +DYH�IXQ�GRLQJ�GLQRVDXU�GHWHFWLYH�KRPH�DFWLYLWLHV�ZLWK�\RXU�FKLOG��� /HW�WKHUDSLVWV�NQRZ�DERXW�LVVXHV�WKDW�PD\�KDYH�UHOHYDQFH�IRU�WDUJHWLQJ�\RXU�FKLOG·V�

learning in dinosaur school (e.g., loss of a family member, divorce, illness in the family, school problem etc.).

�� 5HDG�WKH�QRWHV�ZH�JLYH�\RX�RXWOLQLQJ�WKH�WRSLFV�ZH�DUH�FRYHULQJ�LQ�VHVVLRQV�DQG� follow the suggestions for teaching your child at home.

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Teacher InvolvementWe will be sending out periodic letters to teachers telling them about the social skills your child is learning in Dinosaur School and asking them to reinforce those behaviors when they observe them in the classroom (and share this information with you). We will also phone your child’s teachers to coordinate behavior plans so there is consistency in approaches from home to the classroom and to Dinosaur School.

Please let us know if you have any questions about the program. We are looking forward to getting to know you and your child!

Letter #1 — Sent in advance

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Dinosaur School Notes to Parents

Iguanodon Unit

Dina Teaches About Doing Your Best at School

Hi! In this unit of Dina Dinosaur’s curriculum, the children are learning about how to behave in school. For young children who are inattentive, hyperactive, and LPSXOVLYH��LW�FDQ�EH�HVSHFLDOO\�GLI¿FXOW�WR�SD\�DWWHQWLRQ�DQG�IROORZ�GLUHFWLRQV��and they need help understanding and practicing these behaviors.

WHAT CHILDREN ARE PRACTICING AND LEARNING:�� /LVWHQLQJ�WR�WKH�WHDFKHU���� )ROORZLQJ�WHDFKHU¶V�GLUHFWLRQV��� 5DLVLQJ�D�³TXLHW�KDQG´�WR�DVN�D�TXHVWLRQ��� 6KRZLQJ�WKH�WHDFKHU�³¿YH´��7KLV�PHDQV�WR�NHHS�\RXU�H\HV�RQ�WKH�WHDFKHU��\RXU�HDUV�RSHQ��\RXU�KDQGV�LQ�\RXU�ODS��\RXU�IHHW�RQ�WKH�ÀRRU��DQG�\RXU�mouth closed.

7KH�FKLOGUHQ�SUDFWLFH�DOO�WKHVH�WKLQJV�ZLWK�WKH�SXSSHWV�³:DOO\´�DQG�³0ROO\�´�DQG�RWKHU�SXSSHW�IULHQGV��:H�DOVR�ZDWFK�YLGHR�YLJQHWWHV�RI�FKLOGUHQ�OLVWHQLQJ��ZDLWLQJ�IRU�D�WXUQ��DQG�SD\LQJ�DWWHQWLRQ�WR�WKH�WHDFKHU���:H�SOD\�JDPHV�WKDW�KHOS�the children listen, follow directions, and wait for turns.

HOW PARENTS CAN HELP: �� 3UDLVH�\RXU�FKLOG�HYHU\�WLPH�\RX�QRWLFH�KLP�KHU�OLVWHQLQJ�DQG�IROORZLQJ�\RXU�

directions.�� 3UDLVH�\RXU�FKLOG�IRU�IROORZLQJ�IDPLO\�UXOHV��RU�\RX�FDQ�UHZDUG�ZLWK�D� VWLFNHU��

�� 'R�WKH�,JXDQRGRQ�'HWHFWLYH�+RPH�$FWLYLWLHV�ZLWK�\RXU�FKLOG��6LJQ�RII�WKH�DFWLYLWLHV�DV�³GRQH´�DQG�VHQG�LW�EDFN�ZLWK�WKH�VWLFNHU�FKDUW�WR�WKH�QH[W�VHVVLRQ��\RXU�FKLOG�ZLOO�JHW�D�ERQXV�SRLQW�IRU�GRLQJ�KRPHZRUN��

�� 6HH�LI�\RXU�FKLOG�FDQ�³6KRZ�<RX�)LYH�´

READ: Chapters 1 & 2, “How to Play With Your Child” and “Positive Attention, Encouragement and Praise” in Incredible Years Book.

6LQFHUHO\�Dina Dinosaur and her friends

Letter #2

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“You are working so hard on that puzzle and thinking carefully where that piece goes.”

“You are so patient and just keep trying to solve that problem. I think you will find a great solution.”

“You figured that out all by yourself. You were really thinking well.”

“You are really concentrating and taking your time with that project.”

“I see you are carefully organizing everything before you start working. That is a good thinking strategy and good planning.”

“Wow, that is difficult. You are staying so calm and just keep persisting. I’m sure you can figure that out.”

Ideas for Parents When Doing Home Activities

Dina’s Tips for Academic and Persistence Coaching

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Dinosaur School Notes to Parents

Iguanodon Unit

Dina Teaches About Doing Your Best in School

+L��Today we continued to work on school behaviors and had fun trying to ignore distractions and stay focused on an activity.

WHAT CHILDREN ARE PRACTICING AND LEARNING:�� )ROORZLQJ�'LUHFWLRQV��� :RUNLQJ�KDUG�DQG�LJQRULQJ�GLVWUDFWLRQV��� /HDUQLQJ�KRZ�WR�´6723�/22.�7+,1.�&+(&.µ�ZKLOH�ZRUNLQJ�

(concentrating).�� &RRSHUDWLQJ�ZLWK�WKH�WHDFKHU�RU�DQRWKHU�FKLOG�HOW PARENTS CAN HELP: �� &RQWLQXH�WR�SUDLVH�\RXU�FKLOG�HYHU\�WLPH�\RX�QRWLFH�KLP�KHU�OLVWHQLQJ�DQG�

following your directions.�� 3UDLVH�\RXU�FKLOG�IUHTXHQWO\�ZKHQ�ZRUNLQJ�RQ�WKH�'LQRVDXU�+RPH� $FWLYLWLHV��´<RX�DUH�UHDOO\�ZRUNLQJ�KDUG�DQG�TXLHWO\�DQG�FRQFHQWUDWLQJ�VR�ZHOO�µ��(YHQ�LI�RQO\�IRU�WZR�PLQXWHV��

�� 'R�WKH Iguanodon Detective Home Activities at home with your child. Sign off the home activity and send it to the next session.

Read: Chapter 3, “Tangible Rewards, Incentives and Celebrations” in Incredible Years book.

Sincerely,

Dina Dinosaur and her friendsLetter #3

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Dinosaur School Notes to Parents

Triceratops Unit Wally Teaches About Understanding, Detecting, and Talking About Feelings

+L�� 5LJKW�QRZ�LQ�'LQRVDXU�6FKRRO�ZH�DUH�WDONLQJ�DERXW�IHHOLQJV���+HOSLQJ�FKLOGUHQ�WR�express their own feelings and recognize feelings in other people is the beginning of learning how to manage emotions and develop empathy for others! WHAT CHILDREN ARE PRACTICING AND LEARNING:������� %DVLF�YRFDEXODU\�IRU�PDQ\�GLIIHUHQW�IHHOLQJV��KDSS\��VDG��HPEDUUDVVHG��� �

tired, angry, excited, scared, patient, calm, curious, and loved. ������� &OXHV�FKLOGUHQ�FDQ�ORRN�IRU�WR�GHWHUPLQH�KRZ�RWKHUV�DUH�IHHOLQJ��)RU�� �

example, children are encouraged to identify feelings by looking at people’s faces, listening to their voices, or by looking at their body language.

HOW PARENTS CAN HELP: ������� 8VH�´IHHOLQJ�WDONµ�ZLWK�\RXU�FKLOG���/DEHO�\RXU�FKLOG·V�IHHOLQJV�

particularly when s/he is happy, calm, proud, sad, or excited. Focus on more positive feelings than negative feelings. “You look proud you read that whole page.”

������� Share your own positive feelings with your child. “I am pleased with how you did that project.” Or, “I am enjoying playing with you.”

�������� Do the Triceratops Home Activities with your child. Sign them off and bring them back to the next Dinosaur School session.

READ: Chapter 4, “Limit Setting”, in Incredible Years book.Don’t hesitate to call us if you have questions or want to learn more about what we are teaching in Dinosaur School. You can reach us at _________________ .

Sincerely,

Dina and her friends Letter #4

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Ideas for Parents When Doing Home Activities

Dina’s Tips to Promote Emotional Literacy

– Label happy, sad, excited, frustrated, and proud feelings.

– Focus on more positive than negative feelings. – “You look proud that you read that page.” – When you comment on an uncomfortable or negative emotion, add a coping strategy. “You look frustrated, but you are sticking with it,” or “I see you are angry. Thank you for using your words and keeping your body safe.”

– “I am pleased about how well you did that project.”

– “I am enjoying playing with you.”

– “I am frustrated, but I can calm down.”

– “I can be patient, it just takes practice to learn.”

– “I am proud of you for staying calm, even though you are disappointed you didn’t get a turn.”

– “That is really frustrating, but you are doing such a great job of being patient and working hard to try different ideas.”

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Dinosaur School Notes to Parents

Triceratops UnitWally Teaches About Understanding, Detecting, and Talking About Feelings

We are still working on understanding feelings. This is a big job since there are VR�PDQ\�GLIIHUHQW�IHHOLQJV�SHRSOH�FDQ�KDYH��+HUH�DUH�VRPH�WKLQJV�\RXU�FKLOGUHQ�are learning:WHAT CHILDREN ARE PRACTICING AND LEARNING: �� 7KH�QDPHV�RI�ORWV�RI�GLIIHUHQW�IHHOLQJV��7KLQNLQJ�RI�WLPHV�ZKHQ�WKH\�KDYH�IHOW�

different ways and learning how people can have different feelings about the same event.

�� 3RVLWLYH�VHOI�WDON�DQG�KRZ�WR�FKDQJH�XQFRPIRUWDEOH�RU�VDG�IHHOLQJV�WR�KDSSLHU�RQHV��(YHU\�FKLOG�SLFNV�D�´KDSS\µ�WKRXJKW�WR�WKLQN�RI�ZKHQ�KH�RU�VKH�LV�VDG�

�� 5HOD[DWLRQ�VNLOOV�DQG�WKRXJKWV��7KHVH�DUH�HVSHFLDOO\�JRRG�WR�XVH�ZKHQ� children are feeling angry.

HOW PARENTS CAN HELP: �� &RQWLQXH�ODEHOLQJ�SRVLWLYH�IHHOLQJV�VXFK�DV�KDSS\��FDOP��UHOD[HG��DQG�SURXG��� 6KDUH�D�WLPH�ZKHQ�\RX�IHOW�KDSS\��� Model your own positive coping thoughts. “I am frustrated, but I can calm

down.” Or, “I can be patient, it just takes practice.”

�� Praise your child when s/he successfully manages negative feelings (e.g., disappointment). “You are staying really calm, even though you didn’t get a turn.”

�� Continue doing the Triceratops Detective Home Activities with your child. A Caution:��%H�VXUH�WR�PRGHO�WDONLQJ�DERXW�SRVLWLYH�IHHOLQJV�PRUH�WKDQ�QHJDWLYH�feelings with your child. It is also important not to blame your child for your QHJDWLYH�IHHOLQJV���)RU�H[DPSOH��´<RX�PDGH�PH�IHHO�VDG�EHFDXVH�\RX�GLGQ·W�REH\�PH�µ�2ZQ�\RXU�RZQ�IHHOLQJV�E\�VD\LQJ��´,�IHHO�VDG�EHFDXVH�\RX·UH�QRW�JRLQJ�WR�EH�RQ�WLPH�IRU�VFKRRO�µREAD: Chapter 5, “Ignore”, in Incredible Years book.

Sincerely,

Dina and her friendsLetter #5

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Letter #6

Dinosaur School Notes to Parents Stegosaurus Unit Wally Teaches Steps 1 and 2:

“Identifying a Problem and Finding a Solution”

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SUREOHP�ZLWK�DSSURSULDWH�VROXWLRQV��5HVHDUFK�KDV�VKRZQ�WKDW�FKLOGUHQ�ZKR�XVH�D�YDULHW\�RI�SRVLWLYH�VROXWLRQV�ZKHQ�WKH\�SOD\��VXFK�DV�VKDULQJ��WDNLQJ�WXUQV��KDYH�PRUH�IULHQGV��DUH�OHVV�DJJUHVVLYH��DQG�DUH�EHWWHU�OLNHG�E\�RWKHU�FKLOGUHQ���

WHAT CHILDREN ARE PRACTICING AND LEARNING: ����(YHU\RQH�KDV�WKH�VDPH�NLQGV�RI�IHHOLQJV��KDSS\��VDG��PDG��DQJU\��H[FLWHG��VFDUHG���EXW�SHRSOH�GRQ¶W�DOO�IHHO�WKH�VDPH�ZD\�DW�WKH�VDPH�WLPH��6RPH�WKLQJV�PLJKW�PDNH�RQH�SHUVRQ�happy and another person sad.

����$OO�IHHOLQJV�DUH�RND\��HYHQ�PDG�DQG�DQJU\�IHHOLQJV���7KH�LPSRUWDQW�WKLQJ�LV�ZKDW�SHRSOH�GR�DERXW�WKH�PDG�DQG�DQJU\�IHHOLQJV���,W¶V�RND\�WR�VD\�WKDW�\RX�DUH�PDG��,W¶V�QRW�RND\�WR�hit someone when you are mad.

����+RZ�WR�NQRZ�ZKHQ�\RX�KDYH�D�SUREOHP��&KLOGUHQ�DUH�WDXJKW�WKDW�LI�WKH\�KDYH�XQFRPIRUW-able feelings, there is a problem.

����&KLOGUHQ�OHDUQ�WKH�¿UVW���SUREOHP�VROYLQJ�VWHSV�

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����6RPH�RI�WKH�VROXWLRQV�ZH�ZLOO�¿UVW�SUDFWLFH�DUH��6+$5,1*��$6.,1*�1,&(/<��$W�WKLV�VWDJH��ZH�IRFXV�RQ�KHOSLQJ�FKLOGUHQ�WKLQN�RI�PDQ\�VROXWLRQV�WR�SUHWHQG�SUREOHPV��%HIRUH�FKLOGUHQ�FDQ�SUREOHP�VROYH�LQ�³UHDO�OLIH´�WKH\�QHHG�ORWV�RI�SUDFWLFH�OHDUQLQJ�DQG�XVLQJ�WKH�solutions!

HOW PARENTS CAN HELP: ����+HOS�\RXU�FKLOG�UHFRJQL]H�SUREOHP�IHHOLQJV��³<RX�ORRN��IUXVWUDWHG��DQJU\��DERXW«´

����+HOS�\RXU�FKLOG�VWDWH�WKH�SUREOHP��³0\�SUREOHP�LV�,�ZDQW�WR�SOD\�ZLWK�WKH�FRPSXWHU�EXW�P\�EURWKHU�LV�XVLQJ�LW�´

����(QFRXUDJH�\RXU�FKLOG�WR�WKLQN�RI�D�VROXWLRQ��3UDLVH�\RXU�FKLOG¶V�HIIRUWV�DQG�DYRLG�EHLQJ�FULWLFDO�RI�WKH�FKLOG¶V�VXJJHVWLRQV��0DNH�\RXU�RZQ�VXJJHVWLRQV�LI�\RXU�FKLOG�LV�VWXFN��

����'R�WKH�6WHJRVDXUXV�'HWHFWLYH�+RPH�$FWLYLWLHV�ZLWK�\RXU�FKLOG���

Read: Chapter 11, “Controlling Upsetting Thoughts,” in Incredible Years book.

6LQFHUHO\�

Dina Dinosaur and her friends

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5HPHPEHU�WR�VWLPXODWH�WKH�SURFHVV�RI�WKLQNLQJ�UDWKHU�WKDQ�FRPLQJ�XS�ZLWK�FRUUHFW�solutions.

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Letter #6

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Dinosaur School Notes to Parents

Stegosaurus UnitWally Teaches Problem Solving Step #3

“What are some other solutions?”

Hi! 7RGD\�ZH�WDONHG�DERXW�3UREOHP�6ROYLQJ�6WHS�����³:KDW�DUH�VRPH�PRUH�VROXWLRQV"´�:H�DUH�KHOSLQJ�WKH�FKLOGUHQ�OHDUQ�WKHUH�DUH�PDQ\�GLIIHUHQW�VROXWLRQV�RU�FKRLFHV�WKH\�FDQ�PDNH�ZKHQ�WKHUH�LV�D�SUREOHP��'LQD��:DOO\��RU�RQH�RI�WKH�RWKHU�SXSSHWV�

FRPH�WR�'LQRVDXU�6FKRRO�WR�WDON�DERXW�D�SUREOHP�KH�RU�VKH�KDG��7KH�FKLOGUHQ�KHOS�WKH�SXSSHWV�WKLQN�RI�VROXWLRQV�WR�WKH�SUREOHPV��:H�DOVR�SUDFWLFH�WKH�VROXWLRQV�PDQ\�WLPHV�XVLQJ�UROH�SOD\�SUDFWLFH�DQG�SUREOHP�VROYLQJ�JDPHV�� WHAT SOLUTIONS CHILDREN ARE PRACTICING AND LEARNING:�� 7KLQNLQJ�RI�GLIIHUHQW�VROXWLRQV�WR�SUREOHP�VLWXDWLRQV���:KHQ�FKLOGUHQ�WKLQN�RI�RU�OHDUQ�D�QHZ�VROXWLRQ��ZH�DGG�WKDW�VROXWLRQ�WR�WKH�FKLOGUHQ¶V�'HWHFWLYH�.LW��6RPH�RI�WKH� VROXWLRQV�ZH�IRFXV�RQ�LQFOXGH��,*125,1*��6+$5,1*��:$,7,1*�)25�$�7851��$6.,1*�1,&(/<��6$<,1*�³3/($6(�'21¶7�´�$32/2*,=,1*��$1'� *(77,1*�$1�$'8/7�72�+(/3���

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pretend or hypothetical problems.

For young children it is helpful to play a game where you and your child brainstorm PDQ\�GLIIHUHQW�ZD\V�WR�VROYH�D�³SUHWHQG´�SUREOHP��7KHQ�³DFW�RXW´�WKRVH�VROXWLRQV��Before children can solve real life problems, they need lots of practice using solutions.

�� &RQWLQXH�WR�LGHQWLI\�DQG�VROYH�SUREOHPV�DV�WKH\�FRPH�XS��IRU�\RX�RU�\RXU�FKLOG�����Once you point out that there is a problem, encourage your child to come up with SRVVLEOH�VROXWLRQV��7U\�WR�JHW�\RXU�FKLOG�WR�WKLQN�RI�ORWV�RI�GLIIHUHQW�ZD\V�WR�VROYH�D�SUREOHP��,I�\RXU�FKLOG�WKLQNV�RI�D�QHJDWLYH�RU�LQDSSURSULDWH�VROXWLRQ��\RX�PLJKW�VD\��³7KDW¶V�D�VROXWLRQ��FDQ�\RX�WKLQN�RI�DQRWKHU�RQH"´�

�� 'R�WKH�6WHJRVDXUXV�+RPH�$FWLYLWLHV�ZLWK�\RXU�&KLOG��

READ: Chapter 12, “Time Out from Stress and Anger” in Incredible Years book.

5HPHPEHU� Don’t try to problem solve when you or your child are angry or XSVHW��:DLW�XQWLO�\RX�DUH�ERWK�FDOP�WR�WDON�DERXW�VROXWLRQV��

Letter #7

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Help children recognize problem feelings. “You look (frustrated, angry, sad, embarassed) about...“

Help children define the problem.

“My problem is I want to play with that boy’s car.”

Encourage children to think of as many solutions as possible. Praise their efforts and avoid being critical of children’s suggestions. Make your own suggestions if children are stuck. Stop problem solving if your child is very angry.

Pick a fair and safe solution to try. For example: wait, share, take turns, try again, trade, walk away, ignore, get help from an adult, find something else to do.

See if the solution worked. If not, try again!

Ideas for Parents When Doing Home Activities

Wally’s Problem-Solving Tips

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Dinosaur School Notes to Parents

Stegosaurus, Unit Wally Teaches Problem Solving Step #4“What happens next?” (Consequences)

+L��3UREOHP�6ROYLQJ�LV�D�FRPSOH[�SURFHVV��&KLOGUHQ�FRQWLQXH�WR�OHDUQ�DERXW�DQG�practice different solutions to common problem situations.

WHAT CHILDREN ARE PRACTICING AND LEARNING:�� &KLOGUHQ�OHDUQ�WKDW�WKHUH�DUH�JRRG�DQG�EDG�&216(48(1&(6�WR�GLIIHUHQW�VROXWLRQV��

For example, some consequences are good: if children share a toy, they both feel happy. Some consequences are bad: if someone hits, then the other person gets hurt and the child might get in trouble.

�� &KLOGUHQ�SUDFWLFH�WKLQNLQJ�DERXW�WKH�FRQVHTXHQFHV�RI�GLIIHUHQW�FKRLFHV��3UHVFKRRO�children may think of this as deciding if a solution or choice makes them feel good or bad. School age children learn to evaluate solutions according to the following three questions: 1. Is the solution safe? 2. Is the solution fair? 3. Does the solution lead to good feelings?

HOW PARENTS CAN HELP:�� 5HLQIRUFH�\RXU�FKLOG�DQ\�WLPH�\RX�VHH�KLP�RU�KHU�GRLQJ�DQ\�RI�WKH�IROORZLQJ� VROXWLRQV���ZDLWLQJ�D�WXUQ��LJQRULQJ��VKDULQJ��DVNLQJ�IRU�D�WXUQ�SROLWHO\��JHWWLQJ�DQ�adult to help, trading, taking a deep breath and staying calm, walking away and doing something else.

�� Model your own problem solving thought processes out loud for your children to hear. )RU�H[DPSOH��\RX�VD\��´,�KDYH�D�SUREOHP��,�FDQ·W�ÀQG�P\�NH\V��:KDW�DUH�VRPH�VROXWLRQV�WR�P\�SUREOHP"µ

�� Keep doing the Stegosaurus Home Activities with your child. �� 5HDG�ZLWK�\RXU�FKLOG�XVLQJ�:DOO\·V�'HWHFWLYH�%RRN�IRU�6ROYLQJ�3UREOHPV�DW�+RPH���5HDG�����SUREOHP�VLWXDWLRQV�DW�D�WLPH�DQG�SUDFWLFH�SRVVLEOH�VROXWLRQV�

READ: Chapter 7, “Natural and Logical Consequences” in Incredible Years book.Remember: It is important to decrease your child’s exposure to aggressive stimuli such as aggressive cartoons, computer games and TV. Letter #8

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EXAMPLE SCRIPT FOR PARENTS:

PROBLEM: “It’s mine! It’s mine!”

Parent: What’s the problem? What happened?

&KLOG�� +H�WRRN�P\�ELNH�DQG�LW·V�PLQH�Parent: You’re feeling pretty angry about

him taking the bike, aren’t you? [acknowledge feeling]

&KLOG�� <HV��,·P�JRLQJ�WR�JHW�KLP�DQG�push him down!

Parent: That’s one solution to the problem ��DQG�ZKDW�GR�\RX�WKLQN�ZRXOG�happen if you did that? [Encour-age thinking of consequences]

&KLOG�� +H·G�EH�PDG�Parent: Yes, so you both would end up

feeling mad and maybe even hurt. &DQ�\RX�WKLQN�RI�D�GLIIHUHQW�VROX�tion to this problem?

&KLOG�� :HOO��,�FRXOG�VKDUH�LW�IRU�WHQ� PLQXWHV��%XW�KH�ZRXOG�KDYH�WR�give it back.

Parent: Yes, that’s a fair idea. Is it safe, too?

READ: Chapter 6, “Time Out to Calm Down,” in Incredible Years book.

Additional Notes:

Letter #8

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Tyrannosaurus Rex UnitTiny Turtle Teaches Anger Management

In this session we began a new unit in Dinosaur School focused on teaching children anger management strategies. Sometimes children (and adults too) are too mad to be able to be good problem solvers. When that happens, it is important to learn how to calm down before trying to solve the problem. Today the children met a new puppet named Tiny Turtle who WROG�WKH�FKLOGUHQ�DERXW�KLV�´WXUWOH�SRZHU�µ

WHAT CHILDREN ARE PRACTICE AND LEARNING: �� 7LQ\�7XUWOH�GHPRQVWUDWHG�KRZ�WR�FDOP�GRZQ�ZKHQ�DQJU\��+H�WDXJKW�WKH�FKLOGUHQ�WKHVH�VWHSV�WR�FDOP�GRZQ��6723��7DNH�D�GHHS�EUHDWK��*R�LQWR�\RXU�WXUWOH�VKHOO��7KLQN�WR�\RXUVHOI��´,�FDQ�GR�LW��,�FDQ�FDOP�GRZQ�µ�:KHQ�\RX�DUH�FDOP��FRPH�RXW�RI�\RXU�VKHOO��and try again!

�� &KLOGUHQ�OHDUQHG�WR�SD\�DWWHQWLRQ�WR�WKH�´FOXHVµ�WKHLU�ERG\�JLYHV�WKHP�WR�VLJQDO�WKDW�they are angry (red face, hot feeling, tight muscles, rapid heart). We explained to the children that their bodies are like thermometers and sometimes when they are angry WKHLU�ERGLHV�EHFRPH�YHU\�KRW��%XW�DV�WKH\�OHDUQ�WR�WDNH�GHHS�EUHDWKV�DQG�UHOD[��WKH\�became cool again.

�� :H�SUDFWLFHG�XVLQJ�7LQ\·V�VHFUHW�PDQ\�WLPHV��)LUVW�ZLWK�D�ELJ�FDUGERDUG�WXUWOH�VKHOO��WKHQ�ÀQDOO\�ZLWK�LPDJLQDU\��LQYLVLEOH�WXUWOH�VKHOOV�WKDW�QR�RQH�HOVH�FDQ�VHH�

HOW PARENTS CAN HELP :�� Step #1: When you see your child getting angry, encourage him/her to name the upset

feeling. �� 6WHS�����3URPSW�\RXU�FKLOG�WR�VD\�´6723µ�DQG�WR�SUHWHQG�V�KH�LV�JRLQJ�LQWR�KLV�VKHOO�WR�

calm down. �� 6WHS�����(QFRXUDJH�\RXU�FKLOG�WR�WDNH�WKUHH�VORZ��GHHS�EUHDWKV�DQG�VD\ ´,�FDQ�FDOP�GRZQ�µ�7KLQN�RI�VRPHWKLQJ�KDSS\�RU�SHDFHIXO�

�� 5($'�WR�\RXU�FKLOG��Wally Learns a Lesson from Tiny Turtle book.�� 'R�7�5H[�KRPHZRUN�3URJUDP����3DUW���&RQWUROOLQJ�$QJHUREAD: Chapter 8, “Teaching Children to Problem Solve,” in Incredible Years book.Remember:�1RWLFH�WLPHV�ZKHQ�\RXU�FKLOG�VHHPV�FDOP�RU�UHOD[HG��3UDLVH�\RXU�child for his or her calm responses. Letter #9

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Caution:�'RQ·W�WU\�SUREOHP�VROYLQJ�WDON�LI�\RXU�FKLOG�LV�YHU\�DQJU\�DQG�XSVHW�RU�\RX�DUH�WRR�DQJU\�WR�WDON��,I�\RXU�FKLOG�KLW��7LPH�2XW�

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better times.

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Seth:� /HW·V�JR�WR�WKH�VWRUH�EHIRUH�LW�FORVHV�Mother: I’m sorry, we can’t go, because I forgot your sister has a swimming lesson

tonight.Seth:� %XW�,�ZDQW�WR�JR��<RX�SURPLVHG��:K\�FDQ·W�ZH�JR"Mother: Well, when the swimming lesson is over, there won’t be time before the store

closes. We need to get home to make dinner.Seth: [yelling] I won’t go with you to the pool! She can just miss her lesson! You

promised! [child very angry]Mother: [moves close and stays calm@��6HWK��\RX�DUH�JHWWLQJ�RXW�RI�FRQWURO��1RZ�LV�D�JRRG�

WLPH�WR�WKLQN�DERXW�7LQ\�7XUWOH�³�ZKDW�VKRXOG�\RX�GR"Seth: [whining@��*R�WR�WKH�VWRUH�Mother: [guides him through the steps@��5HPHPEHU��WKH�ÀUVW�WKLQJ�LV�WR�JR�LQWR�\RXU�

imaginary shell and tell yourself to stop. Take a big breath.Seth: [takes a meager breath, still pouting]Mother:� *RRG�MRE���<RX�FDQ�FRQWURO�\RXU�DQJHU³WKDW·V�JRRG���1RZ��WHOO�PH�KRZ�\RX�DUH�

feeling.Seth:� ,·P�PDG��,�ZDQWHG�WR�JHW�D�FRVWXPH�DQG�QRZ�\RX�ZRQ·W�OHW�PH³LW·V�QRW�IDLU�Mother:� 7KDW·V�WUXH³LW�GRHVQ·W�VHHP�IDLU���<RX�DUH�GRLQJ�D�JRRG�MRE�FDOPLQJ�GRZQ�DQG�

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Seth: Well, can we go tomorrow night?

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Dinosaur School Notes to Parents

Letter #9

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Tiny Turtle’s Secret for Calming Down

Encourage childrento name the upset feeling.

Prompt childrento say, “Stop.”

Ask children to take 3 deep breaths and say, “I can calm down.”

Coach children to go in their imaginary shells, and think of their happy place.

When calm, encourage children to “try again” with a solution.

Ideas for Parents When Doing Home Activities

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Tyrannosaurus Rex UnitTiny Turtle Teaches Anger Management

+L� We continued to practice Tiny’s 5 steps to calming down and controlling angry responses.

HOW PARENTS CAN HELP:�� ,I�\RXU�FKLOG�FDOPV�GRZQ�DQG�WDNHV�GHHS�EUHDWKV��SUDLVH�KLV�KHU�HIIRUWV�DW�VHOI�FRQWURO���� 'R�WKH�7�5H[�'HWHFWLYH�+RPH�$FWLYLWLHV���� 0RGHO�XVLQJ�WKLV�´WXUWOH�WHFKQLTXHµ�\RXUVHOI��Example:

Situation: Sally has been playing with her friend and having a lot of fun. Mother says it’s time to go.Mother:� ,�NQRZ�\RX·UH�KDYLQJ�D�ORW�RI�IXQ�ZLWK�$P\��EXW�LQ�� �� ÀYH�PLQXWHV�ZH�KDYH�WR�JR�Sally:� 1R�IDLU�>$P\�DQG�6DOO\�UHVXPH�SOD\LQJ�IRU�ÀYH�PLQXWHV�@Mother:� 2ND\��6DOO\��JHW�\RXU�FRDW³LW·V�WLPH�WR�JR�Sally: [angry] I don’t want to go. Please? I’m staying. � $P\�VDLG�,�FDQ�Mother: You’re getting angry. I think this is a good time to think about Tiny Turtle. What should you do?

READ: Chapter 6, “Time Out to Calm Down,” in Incredible Years ERRN.Reminder: If your child seems too angry to use the Turtle technique, s/he may need VRPH�WLPH�DORQH�RU�D�7LPH�2XW�EHIRUH�V�KH�LV�DEOH�WR�OLVWHQ�WR�\RXU�SURPSWV��/DWHU�ZKHQ�everyone is calm, you and your child can talk about the situation and practice Tiny’s VHFUHW�IRU�QH[W�WLPH��5HPHPEHU��PDLQWDLQLQJ�VHOI�FRQWURO�LV�GLIÀFXOW�IRU�PRVW�DGXOWV��EXW�LW�LV�HYHQ�PRUH�GLIÀFXOW�IRU�FKLOGUHQ��

Sincerely,

5HPHPEHU�\RX�FDQ�UHDFK�XV�DW�WKLV�QXPEHU�BBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBLetter #10

3. Take a slow breath

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Review Problem Solving Steps +L�

Today we reviewed all the problem solving steps and the anger management steps. We presented the children with problem situations and they acted out how they would solve these problems.

HOW PARENTS CAN HELP:

�� .HHS�ODEHOLQJ�\RXU�FKLOG·V�SRVLWLYH�IHHOLQJV�VXFK�DV�KDSS\��FDOP��SURXG��� excited, and loved.

�� 7U\�FXHLQJ�\RXU�FKLOG�WR�UHPHPEHU�7LQ\·V�&DOP�'RZQ�6WHSV�ZKHQ�IHHOLQJ� angry or frustrated.

�� ,JQRUH�WDQWUXPV��VXONLQJ��DQG�GHÀDQW�DWWLWXGHV�DQG�ZDLW�XQWLO�\RXU�FKLOG�LV�calm to practice alternative solutions.

�� 3UDLVH�\RXU�FKLOG�DQ\�WLPH�V�KH�XVHV�D�SRVLWLYH�VROXWLRQ�VXFK�DV�WUDGH��DVN��share, wait, take turns, and/or uses a calm down strategy such as taking a deep breath.

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READ: Chapter 9, “Helping Children Learn to Regulate their Emotions,” in Incredible Years book.

Caution: 'RQ·W�WU\�SUREOHP�VROYLQJ�WDON�LI�\RXU�FKLOG�LV�YHU\�DQJU\�DQG�XSVHW�RU�\RX�DUH�WRR�DQJU\�WR�WDON��,I�\RXU�FKLOG�KLW��7LPH�2XW�LV�D�JRRG�ÀUVW�VWUDWHJ\�DQG�then the situation can be talked about later when everyone has calmed down. 5HPHPEHU�PDLQWDLQLQJ�VHOI�FRQWURO� LV�GLIÀFXOW� IRU�PRVW�DGXOWV�DQG�HYHQ�PRUH�GLIÀFXOW�IRU�FKLOGUHQ��

Letter #11

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Allosaurus Unit Molly Teaches How to Be Friendly

“Helping”

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READ: Chapter 10, “Teaching Children Friendship Skills,” in Incredible Years book.

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Letter #12

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Ideas for Parents When Doing Home Activities

Molly’s Tips for Encouraging Friendships

Set up play dates for your children and consult with your child’s teachers about good peer matches.

Provide cooperative, unstructured play activities and use social and emotional coaching while children play.

Praise children playing together for being friendly, helping each other, sharing, accepting a suggestion, and waiting their turn.

Model friendly behaviors for your child such as asking politely to play or for a turn, waiting, asking for help and giving a compliment.

Participate in pretend and make-believe play by using puppets or dolls.

Laugh and have fun.

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Allosaurus, Unit Molly Teaches How to Be Friendly

“Sharing”

WHAT CHILDREN ARE PRACTICING AND LEARNING:7RGD\�ZH�FRQWLQXHG�WDONLQJ�DERXW�IULHQGVKLS�VNLOOV�DQG�KRZ�WR�PDNH�DQG�NHHS�IULHQGV��:H�IRFXVHG�SULPDULO\�RQ�WKH�FRQFHSW�RI�VKDULQJ�DQG�SOD\HG�FRRSHUDWLYH�DUW�DFWLYLWLHV�where children practiced helping and sharing with their friends.

HOW PARENTS CAN HELP:�� ,QYLWH�D�SOD\PDWH�RYHU�IRU�D�SOD\GDWH��3UDLVH�\RXU�FKLOG�IRU�KHOSLQJ�DQG�VKDULQJ�ZLWK�KLV�RU�KHU�IULHQG��H�J���³<RX�WZR�ORRN�OLNH�\RX¶UH�KDYLQJ�IXQ�WRJHWKHU��-DPDO�LV� VKDULQJ�ZLWK�\RX��WKDW�LV�YHU\�IULHQGO\�´��

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READ: Chapter 10, “Teaching Children Friendship Skills,” in Incredible Years book.

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Letter #13

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Allosaurus Unit Molly Teaches How to Be Friendly

“Teamwork at School”

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goal.

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�� 3OD\�ZLWK�\RXU�FKLOG�DQG�SUDLVH�\RXU�FKLOG�ZKHQHYHU�V�KH�VKDUHV��ZDLWV��WDNHV�turns, or helps you with something.

�� 5HDG�VRPH�PRUH�SUREOHPV�IURP�WKH�Wally’s Detective Book for Solving

Problems at School.

�� 'R�WKH�$OORVDXUXV�'HWHFWLYH�+RPH�$FWLYLWLHV�ZLWK�\RXU�FKLOG�

READ: Chapter 12, “Time Out from Stress and Anger,” in Incredible Years book.

Letter #14

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Allosaurus UnitMolly Teaches How to Be Friendly

“Teamwork at Home”

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WHAT CHILDREN ARE PRACTICING AND LEARNING: �� How to help out parents at home.

�� How to help a younger sibling.

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this visit.

�� 3OD\�ZLWK�\RXU�FKLOG�DQG�SUDLVH�KLP�RU�KHU�ZKHQHYHU�V�KH�VKDUHV��ZDLWV��WDNHV�turns, or helps you with something.

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READ: Chapter 13, “Effective Communication Skills,” in Incredible Years book.

Letter #15

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Brachiosaurus UnitMolly Explains How to

Talk With Friends

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READ: Chapter 14, “Problem Solving Between Adults,” in Incredible Years book.

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“That’s so friendly. You are sharing your blocks with your friend and waiting your turn.”

“You listened to your friend’s request and followed his suggestions. That is very friendly.”

“You waited and asked first to use that. Your friend listened to you and shared.”

“You are good team players. You are helping each other to make that tower.”

“That is frustrating but you are both staying calm and working hard. Together I think you can figure how this puzzle goes together.”

Ideas for Parents When Doing Home Activities

Molly’s Tips for Social Coaching

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