T h e C o a c h A p p r o a c h

T r a i n i n g P r o g r a m

E v e r y t h i n g i n l i f e c a n b e d e s i g n e d

a s a w i n n a b l e g a m e w o r t h p l a y i n g

The Coach Approach Training Program teaches the use of pattern language and pattern recognition.

1. Coaches learn to use pattern language to masterfully apply basic communication and teaching skills promoting the greatness in all stakeholders.

2. Coaches learn to recognize patterns of language and behaviors in stakeholders to understand how best to inspire full engagement.

A winning season depends on the engagement of all stakeholders. Stakeholders in scholastic sports include:

Parents

Business leaders and merchants

School personnel

Town and school advisory boards

Spectators

As well as players and coaches.

A coach must be ready to effectively support and challenge all stakeholders in a unified goal.

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C o a c h i n g i s :

A collaborative partnership focused on the player

A wake-up call when a player doesn't hear his or her own

A beacon in stormy times

An intelligent and knowledgeable sounding-board

A champion when a player takes a hit

Motivation when bold action is called for

Co-designer in the creation of extraordinary things

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The fundamental theory behind coaching is that any endeavor in life can be designed as a winnable game

worth playing.

What game are you really playing?

To successfully play and win any game, the individual must first understand that for which she plays.

Winning is the score at the end of a game, prestige, popularity, financial gain, a feeling of community, etc.

How do you know you’ve won?

To successfully assess the results of the game played, one must first know where to find them.

Results are found on the scoreboard, in the faces of one’s peers, in the voice of her coach, in the newspaper, on an accountant’s balance sheet, etc.

You cannot win a game

you’re not playing.

You cannot feel successful

without proper feedback.

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T h e C o a c h A p p r o a c h

C o a c h i n g P r o f i c i e n c i e s

t o e s t a b l i s h G r e a t n e s s

Elicits Greatness Few players come to a coach and specifically ask for their greatness to be developed. Coaches just do this naturally by challenging players to continuously raise standards.

Engages in Provocative Conversations

Coaching time is generally short. By hearing what is said and not said, by questioning what is heard and pressing for clarity, and by sharing what you know and how you feel, provocative conversations can occur within minutes.

Champions the Player Championing requires an act of greatness to have occurred lest we become cheerleaders. Greatness is independent of game-play results because greatness is demonstrated by the way a player approaches his game. Frequent and genuine championing of players encourages continued greatness and the belief of success.

Reveals the Player to Herself

Greater awareness yields better choices. Part of what a coach does for players is helping uncover gifts, talents, values, dreams, and needs as well as helping to understand motivations and inspirations. The result is a well-informed player moving on the path to self-awareness.

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Expands the Player’s Best Efforts One of the reasons players need coaches is to support them to do more in a shorter period of time than they would do on their own. Coaches are both catalyst and accelerator. Significant value is added by supporting players to do more than they have done before or more than they thought they were capable of doing.

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C o a c h i n g P r o f i c i e n c i e s

t o e s t a b l i s h T r u s t

Navigates Via Curiosity The coach who is naturally curious can be well guided by that curiosity. Coaches are in the discovery business; discovering how to help a player find new and better ways to play her game. As an added bonus, both coach and player learn from the discoveries.

Enjoys the Player Immensely How is enjoying the player a coaching proficiency? Simple, enjoyment of the player in his entirety, the ups and downs, develops high levels of trust. Trust is an essential ingredient for a player to risk moving forward quickly. It is in this place of trust that coaching becomes collaborative, light and fun.

Respects the Clients Humanity We all have limits, both internal and external. Though coaching is about maximizing potential and expanding opportunities, we are all humans with limits. Coaching to obtain success without stress requires recognition of limits and acknowledgement of the different paths to achievement. A key distinction is to show respect rather than patience.

Designs Supportive Environments Success becomes sustainable only to the degree that a player’s world—the combination of all his environments of people, places, and things—are in alignment with the game. Will-power, fortitude, and a boot-strap mentality ignite the fire, and the stamina to stay the course to victory comes through consciously designed empowering environments.

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Communicates Cleanly Cleaner communication means less in the way of great coaching. Most are stuck in our communication style closing down the conductive nature of the coaching process. The coach’s bias, judgments, age, buffers, vicariousness, gender, etc. become barriers to rapport, trust, and credibility. Mastery here is in the “absence of” rather than the “management of.”

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6 B e n e f i t s o f w o r k i n g w i t h

A p r o f i c i e n t c o a c h

1. Actions are better, smarter, and bolder

Winning becomes personal, free from coulda, shoulda, oughta

2. Actions create a balanced life that works well

Self-care and meeting personal needs are actions included in any game

3. Win and claim victory

Finding perfection in all situations promotes a winning spirit

4. Decisions are better for everyone

A clear focus on the entire game means one considers the needs of all stake-holders

5. Reach for more—much more

With trusted partners, risk is reduced freeing players to reach for more

6. Greater energy to play

Play with the unlimited power of the community rather than the limitations of an individual’s will-power

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t o e s t a b l i s h C r e d i b i l i t y

Shares What Is There Coaches rely on observations, intuition, inklings, and experience to help players move forward. Therefore, the more often and easily a coach can share what she sees, feels, and hears, the more value is created for the player. It's often the tiniest, most subtle inklings that can act as powerful beacons and catalysts to the player’s game and life.

Recognizes Perfection in Every Situation The ultimate proficiency for freedom, resiliency, and possibility. Done well, this proficiency becomes a choice to believe that everything in life happens for a perfectly good reason, even if the perfection isn’t obvious in the moment. Perfection is in the eye of the player, by seeking to understand and recognize the player’s perfection first—before offering tips, techniques, or solutions—we teach this empowering perspective.

Hones In On What Is Most Important Depending on the day, the hour, or even the minute, what’s most important to the player will change. Such is the nature of individuals in high growth phases of life. Successful coaches are quick to recognize this moving target and flexible enough to adjust coaching to be effective in the new terrain. The key distinction is a present moment versus recent priority.

Enters New Territories To win on every bigger playing fields, players must be willing to experiment in new territories of thought and action. Moving into new territories feels; perfect signs of progress. Coaches must be credible to provide the support and partnership needed as players venture into uncharted places.

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Relishes Truth This may sound obvious but it's deeper than that; truth is a level above, near honesty, as there is always a truth about a situation, person, or an event that when discovered and articulated can transform a player’s game and life. Coaches enjoy and orient around truth as a source of joy and guidance.

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Schedule and Deliverables

7 Week Program—Proficiencies grouped into 3 categories

Proficiencies to establish Greatness

Proficiencies to establish Trust

Proficiencies to establish Credibility

Two weeks are spent exploring, practicing, and integrating each category

Participants meet in the virtual or physical classroom up to 3 times each week:

1 Weekly Topic Call—Structured introduction of new content, activities, and group discussion.

2 Weekly Support Calls—Unstructured opportunities to give and receive support as participants practice the techniques and skills learned in the program. While attendance isn’t required, it is strongly recommended for optimal retention and skill mastery.

Written summary of call discussion highlights and access to the recorded call audio are provided within 24 hours after calls.

Weekly action through experimentation

Each week, participants are invited to participate in activities designed to challenge skill development and evaluate results.

P r o g r a m L e a d e r

Certified professional coach and nationally recognized author, Lorraine Esposito coaches parents, small business owners, and successful business women. Lorraine is a coach trainer, mentor, and seminar leader for the world’s largest coach training organization. Lorraine provides formal and ongoing education and coaching in a web-based virtual learning and collaborative environment.

Learn more about Lorraine’s coaching practice at Peacemaker-Coach.com

Learn more about Lorraine’s book, The Peacemaker Parent

Support is the key ingredient in the successful integration of ideas and principles.

Within 6 weeks you will become a better player and coach

Program Logistics Overview

What Are You Paying For?

In coaching and in this program, you are paying for infor-mation, advice, support, collaboration, strategies, continu-ous presence, energy, creativity, availability, partnership and expertise. The more you participate collaboratively the more you'll receive for your time and money.