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    APPAR Adlerian Congress

    Brasov October 2013

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    Understanding The Child

    An Adlerian Perspective

    Joyce Callus

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    4VIENNA NATIONAL CEMETRY JULY 2011

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    Adler in Psychologies today

    Unity of Personality- systems

    Decision maker- cognitive

    Private LogicLife style- Schemata- road map

    Teleological - drawn by the future not past

    causes

    Apperception- as if - existentialist, ( Sren

    Kierkegaard) Social embeddedness, Soc Interest-- it takes a

    village to raise a child,

    Group counselling , child guidance clinic,

    educational [email protected]

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    tasks of life

    work

    Socialrelations

    hips

    Intimate

    relationships

    self

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    SP

    SC

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    Life is not being but becoming

    A.A. No experience is a cause of success or failure.

    We do not suffer from the shock of ourexperiencesthe so-called traumabut wemake out of them just what suits our purposes.

    We are self-determined by the meaning wegive to our experiences, and there is probablyalways something of a mistake involved whenwe take particular experiences as the basis for

    our future life. Meanings are no t determ inedby si tuat ions, but we determ ine ourselvesby the meaning we give to situations. A A

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    Understanding The Child

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    Why Do Children Behave The

    Way They Do?

    Why Do They Behave

    Differently with DifferentPeople?

    Is Behaviour Inherited or

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    Behaviou r is a Cho ice

    Behaviou r is a choice w ith a

    Purpose

    Behaviour is a Message

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    Every Child Needs

    To feel loved

    To feel belonging

    To feel secure

    To move from a minus to a plus =

    To feel significant

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    TOGETHER WE LEARN

    PLAY

    AND GROW

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    Attention /contact Undue attention Sk

    Power over self Power / others,rebellion

    Self protection Revenge

    .. Avoidance ofFailure

    Positive

    Approach

    Negative

    Approach

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    GOAL ONE

    ATTENTION SEEKING

    CAN BE APPROACHED

    IN A POSITIVE

    WAY

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    Undue attention seeking is a

    negative approach

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    Undue attention seeking

    THERE IS NO END OR L IMIT TO THIS

    CREATIVITY

    THE MORE UNDUE ATTENTION A

    CHILD RECEIVES, THE MORE HIS

    FAULTY THINKING IS REINFORCED

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    GOAL TWO

    PERSONAL AB IL ITY

    OR POWER OVER SELF

    POWER OVER SELF CAN HAVE

    A POSITIVE APPROACH

    WHEN THE CHILD IS GIVEN

    SPACE

    TO MOVE FROM A MINUS TO APLUS POSITION

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    BUILDING SELF- ESTEEM AND

    SELF CONFIDENCE

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    POWER OVER SELF CAN TURN TO

    POWER OVER OTHERS

    AND REBELLION

    THERE ARE NO WINNERS IN POWER

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    GOAL THREE

    SELF PROTECTION

    HURTS CAN BE - PHYSICAL

    VERBAL

    PSYCHOLOGICAL

    NEGLECTREJECTION

    BELITTLING ETC

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    TOO MANY HURTS CAN TURN INTO

    REVENGE

    YOU HURT MEI HURT YOU

    BACK.HOPING

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    GOAL FOUR- LEAVE ME ALONE

    Very discouraged person

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    Leave me Alone

    THERE ARE NO POSITIVE

    APPROACHES TO THIS GOAL

    The adu l t feels concerned and helpless

    And

    The ch i ld gives up . Looses trus t in selfand others

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    THRILL SEEKING

    Low self esteem , lack o fassert iveness,

    giving in to peer pressure etc may lead to unnecessary r isk taking

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    Identifying Negative Goals

    How did you feel ?

    How did you correct ?

    What happened after correction?

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    Identifying Negative Goals

    Feeling Correction Result Redirecting

    1.Annoyed

    Angry

    Nag,rescue

    explain,

    Stops, beh

    is repeated

    Ignore, give

    att for pos.2. spiteful

    Threatened

    Punish,

    Push back

    Power

    struggles

    solution

    game,

    choice

    3. Hurt Focus on

    own hurt

    Neg beh

    intensifies

    Trust, love,

    prof help

    4.Helpless Give up leave mealone Trust, [email protected]

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    Don' t worry that ch i ldren never

    l is ten to you ; worry that they are

    always watching you .

    ~Robert Fulghum

    THANK YOU

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    NOAHS RULE

    PREDICTING RAIN DOES NOTCOUNT

    BUILDING ARKS DOES !

    W. BUFFETT

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    Adlers tasks of life

    work

    Socialrelations

    hipsIntimate

    relationships

    self

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    A DYNAMO OF OPTIMISM & BUBLING

    ENTHUSIASIM

    INVITED BY FREUD IN 1902,TO JOIN WEDNESDAY MEETINGS, (Adler one of the original four members,

    Kahane, Reitler & Stekel)

    PRESIDENT OF THE VIENNESE ANALYTIC SOCIETY &EDITOR OF THE FIRST PSYCHOLOGY JOURNAL TILL 1911

    STRONG DIFFERENCES BETWEEN ADLER AND FREUD

    1911 ADLER & NINE OTHERS RESIGNED AND FORMEDTHE SOCIETY FOR INDIVIDUAL PSYCHOLOGY.

    1919 ORGANISED CHILD GUIDANCE CLINIC IN VIENNA-FAMILY / TEACHER / GROUP COUNSELLING

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    ALFRED ADLERTHE MAN

    BORN IN VIENNA, FEBRUARY 7TH1870 SECOND SON, OF A WELL OFF JEWISH GRAIN MERCHANT

    AVERAGE STUDENT, PREFERED OUTDOOR ACTIVITIES

    MEDICAL DEGREE IN 1895, SERVED AS A DOCTOR IN WWI,

    VERY SUCCESSFUL GENERAL PRACTICE

    PRATER OPHTALMOLOGIST, TURNED TO PSYCHIATRY 1907

    MARRIED RAISA EPSTEIN 1897, HAD 4 CHILDREN,

    CONTEMPORARY OF FREUD & Jung COLLABORATED TILL

    1911

    KURT(92) DIED IN 1997, Alexandra (99) died 2001

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