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INTRO AND STAGE 1&2

How to light the Honey Pot Method ON FIRE

a. The quicker you use the Honey Pot, the faster it speeds everything up.

One Key Reminder: You don’t create – You enhance!

a. If a man has a horrible character, don’t be surprised if he fights you due to the intensity.

i. He doesn’t want to take responsibility for his problem

ii. Someone in his past may have enabled


him. Therefore, you could be accused of being…mean, unloving or selfish.

iii. He may even try to sabotage your efforts.b. Most every man usually goes through 5

phases.c. Some men may never get past Phase 3


STAGE I – Getting His Interest/Stimulating His Curiosity

a. Create an aura of mystery. Your focus should be on who the best man will be for you…not on 1 specific man.

b. Focus on being curious – not that you are a spectacular person.

i. When you are curious, you are focused on him which puts him in the limelight.

ii. Acting curious is very appealing to a man.c. Allow time for when moments of silence

become awkward.i. Practice will make you better at this but it

brings out your femininity.ii. It shows you are okay with his taking the lead.d. Listen to him and ask questions about what

he is saying.e. The talker is not the one who is in control;

the listener has control.


STAGE 2 – An Emotional Arousal…..The emotional keys to accelerate the

process.

a. This phase is all about keeping the flame from getting too hot or too cold.

b. Bonding is almost identical to cooking in an oven. When he’s hot, he’s hot!

c. Do not let things overheat in Phase 2.d. Women can (and often do) bond through

intensity.e. HE DOES NOT! He runs on adrenaline.f. There is a lot of discovery in this phase…and

he loves discovering new things about YOU.g. The discovery part is fun, but after a while

the discovery of new things is not as numerous…Phase 2 cannot continue forever.

h. Game playing is a MUST.i. Bonding is an unconscious process – not

logical.j. You cannot control it – you need to guide it.


i. Like driving a car at 80 miles an hour (128 kilometers an hour) because inevitably there will be a CRASH.

ii. Do not set him up for failure!iii. This will magnify the disillusion of things.iv. You are ice cream. He will get full.k. You need to pace him. Why? It makes him

feel like he wants to be closer to you.l. This is where we begin the TENSION part.m. Practice the Levels of disclosuren. He must not see you as often as he would like.o. He must feel the NEED to move forward, not

become FULL.p. He must always feel excited.q. We want him to go through Phase 3, but we

want this to be as easy and fast as possible.r. Phase 3 is the stage where you can speed

him up, probably the most of all the phases


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STAGE 3 - DISILLUSIONMENT

a. This phase is where the adrenline is wearing off

b. His body/brain is trying to switch to being Endorphine based.

c. This chemical switch from Adrenaline to Endorphin based is essential in order to go from fun to intimate.

d. This level is bumpy and is determined by his past experiences.

e. He will become grumpy, have doubts and even become impatient.

f. Past experiences dictate how he reacts.i. Troubled past = higher degree of fantasy

expectations.


g. The Endorphine Stage is the only way to make a relationship last a lifetime.

h. The emotional response is determined by how he is treating you.

i. It’s the Stage he’s in (Mostly)…NOT the details of what he says is bothering him.

j. There are 2 ways he could respond to you:i. Doubts AND Committed – Focus on tender

responsesk. Doubts AND Hostile (always talking about

ending the relationship) - Focus on boundaries or distance.


STAGE 3 Committed Phrases

“Sweetie, knock it off” - What my wife said to me-Avoid explaining – he’ll get overwhelmed and

stop listening. This one simple, short sentence actually froze me in my tracks and was the best thing she could have said.

-Plant the seed and leave him alone.

“Are you done?”- Say this when he’s obsessing.--This works because it doesn’t focus on the

content. It focuses on the problem (the obsessing).

“I’m not worried.”- Say this when he feels there must be an answer

to any question he ask. He might be scared or discouraged.

--Why this works is because you’re minimizing his fear.

--We cannot reassure here because the


main thing we’re trying to accomplish is for him to be able to realize your VALUE. He needs a demonstration of value.


STAGE 3 Uncommitted – disengaging- “That’s fine.” - Say whenever he tells you he’s not feeling as

strongly for you as he should.

“I haven’t really thought about it.”- Say whenever he asks you what you plan on

doing to fix the problem.

“OK, I understand.”- Say whenever he says he doesn’t love you

anymore.-We want him to realize that he could lose you.-His Fears and the Consequences of his actions

are different

l. The above sayings are designed to be short soundbytes. They are designed to have a feeling attached to them, and that feeling jolts him out of his current state

m. The next phase in the Intimacy Accelerator is The Testing Stage.


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The InTImacy acceleraTorSTAGE 4 – THE TESTING PHASE

STAGE 5 – THE BONDING PHASE

STAGE 4 – The Testing Phase

a. This period occurs when he can’t seem to leave you.

b. He’s frustrated and discouraged. Inside it feels like he’s settling when he’s around you too often.

c. Then when he’s apart, his fears seem to lift…which drives him crazy.

d. He still has doubts. It still doesn’t “feel” like it did in the beginning, but he doesn’t want to lose you either.

e. His past injuries make it impossible for him to


be completely free from those doubts.f. He also can’t say this to you, but the fact that

he still is with you is an excellent sign.

Therefore…..Look for opportunities to flirt.

g. KEY: Don’t flirt to get a reaction from him. Flirt freely, without expecting anything in return.

Reward him for sticking in there.

h. Women have short emotional memories; men have L O N G emotional memories.

i. Flirt because you know how to drive him crazy.

j. Flirt as though you are the one in charge.k. Flirt because you’ve looked in his secret diary

and you know his true feelings, even if you don’t see them as often as you’d like.

l. Flirt as though you KNOW this is a phase.

Specific things you can say when flirting:

“Wow”- Say whenever he does something you really


like.“Oh that’s a long conversation.”- Say whenever he wants to talk about the

relationship...again.

“I know.” (then smile)- Say whenever he compliments you.Once you have to explain your motivation,

you’ve watered it down. You’ve taken away the mystery, the playfulness.

It’s the feeling that accelerates the Bonding Code, not the words!

m. The more often you can make him feel, the faster he will accelerate through phases 3 and 4.


STAGE 5: The Bonding Phase

n. Things are effortless, they’re wonderful, and this is the point that he realizes there is no one else for you.

o. One of the paradoxes of this phase is do not expect him to stay in this 24 hours a day, 7 days a week for the next 50 years.

p. He sees your flaws at this phase. He’s not only accepted them; those are the things that make you unique to him.

q. He’s seen what you fear about yourself…and he likes them.

r. We’re not trying to make him feel GOOD…All the Time.

s. We’re trying to demonstrate your value and remind him that you could be easily lost if he’s not careful.


When you’re happy…Life is good.

Congratulations on it! You are where very few women are. You have the key to end men’s internal world, and I promise you, every man wishes they understood this.


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