10 Groom Wedding Speech Tips

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Do you want to have the best groom wedding speech?

Do you know what are the secrets behind the perfect speeches?

If not, do you want to find them?

If yes, are you sure you know them all?

Are you sick of long, boring and less informative texts?

Do you need a concise, well-formatted and easy-to-read document

about the best tips of the perfect speeches?

Do you want to become a professional public speaker in no time?

If you answered YES to at least one of these questions, then this document is perfect for you !

I have covered in this document the BEST 10 SECRETS of the most successful groom wedding speeches, secrets that I want to share with you. The great quality of this paper consists in the fact that it offers you not only the best tips, but also easy-to-follow ways of utilizing these secrets. This document also convinces you of the importance of each tip, by presenting you the great things you achieve if you use every secret (i.e. the advantages of each tip).




CONTENT

Another amazing feature of this paper is that the tips it contains refer not only to the content of the speech, but also to the preparation and presentation of the speech. So, these tips can be divided into:

Preparation tips – 1, 2, 6, 10.

Writing tips – 3, 4, 5.

Presentation tips – 1, 7, 8, 9.

This paper also reveals you 3 extremely powerful tools for achieving great levels of self-confidence, which is the mandatory ingredient of any successful speech.

Here is what you will find in this paper:

Tip 1: Be CONFIDENT that you will have SUCCESS ! .......................... 4 Tip 2: PLAN and PREPARE ahead ! ...................................................... 5 Tip 3: SHORT, SIMPLE and SINCERE ! ............................................... 6 Tip 4: FOLLOW the STANDARD STRUCTURE ! ................................. 7 Tip 5: ADD A TOUCH OF HUMOR ! ...................................................... 9 Tip 6: COORDINATE the SPEECHES ! ............................................... 11 Tip 7: INTERACT with your AUDIENCE ! ............................................ 12 Tip 8: ACT AS IF ! ................................................................................ 14




Tip 9: REMEMBER YOUR IMAGE ! .................................................... 15 Tip 10: PRACTICE your SPEECH ! ..................................................... 16

Tip 1: Be CONFIDENT that you will have SUCCESS !

If you want to have success in any action, the first necessary requirement that you must accomplish is to be self-confident.

Self-confidence is the secret ingredient of any great accomplishment in the human history, and this is true for groom wedding speeches, too.

So, first of all, if you want to have the perfect speech, you must:

Be CONFIDENT and trust in yourself that you are able to and will write, prepare and deliver a good speech and that all the people present at the wedding will enjoy it and will applaud you at the end.

Be SURE that YOU WILL HAVE SUCCESS!

Keep your mind away from failure!

Focus only on success!

Think POSITIVE! Instead of being negative or too emotive, be positive and

believe that everything will be fine. BELIEVE that YOU are THE BEST! Don’t underestimate your own capacities

and do not think that only others are capable of preparing, composing and delivering a perfect speech. You can do that, too - if you follow the next tips.

In order to achieve a strong confidence in yourself, you must

Practice VISUALIZATION !

This powerful tool called “VISUALIZATION” can be used this way: in the remaining days until the wedding, you should:

Imagine yourself as preparing, writing and delivering a perfect groom wedding speech.




Visualize in detail every activity that you must accomplish, and see yourself doing these tasks with a lot of energy and enthusiasm.

Imagine that you are doing them very well and the final result – the presentation of the speech – is perfect.

By practicing visualization as many times as possible, you will finally attract the success in your wedding speech, according to the Law of Attraction. While the self-confidence is necessary in any undertaking, it has absolutely no value if you do not follow the next tip, which says that you must ...

Tip 2: PLAN and PREPARE ahead !

The planning and the preparation are the most important things you must do, if you want to have the best groom wedding speech. Here’s the first thing you should do:

Start PLANNING right NOW !

Don’t procrastinate the planning and the preparation of your speech! The truth is that the more you postpone these tasks, the harder it will be for you to do them. So, the best time to begin the process of creating the best groom wedding speech is right now! If you do not have so much time available right now, try at least to finish reading this article and make a brief outline of what you must do next. Here are the best tips that will enable you to plan perfectly the creation and presentation of the groom wedding speech:

1. Think carefully to all the necessary tasks that you must accomplish in creating and delivering the speech! At this step you should use the groom wedding speech examples and resources available on the Internet (and especially on my site). After you have identified the main tasks, you must ...

2. Break down these big tasks into small activities - think to all the things you

must do in order to accomplish the big tasks - and, after you have gathered them all, ...




3. Analyze and prioritize all these tasks – establish which should be done first, which should be done second -, then ...

4. Organize them into a detailed PLAN! After that, ...

5. Write the plan on a paper! And ...

6. Begin working according to your plan TODAY! Also, don’t forget to be flexible and ...

7. Addapt and modify your plan whenever is necessary (e.g. as soon as you find new helpful things). While the detailed planning is absolutely indispensable for the success of any

action – especially for the creation and presentation of the speech at probably the most important event in your life (your wedding) –, it is useless if you don’t sustain it with the proper PREPARATION. To make sure that you will be able to prepare the speech and it’s presentation very well, you must:

TAKE TIME to compose your speech!

You should begin thinking of the speech with at least one week before the wedding. But even if there are only a few days until the wedding, you will find on my site valuable resources that will help you to write one of the best groom wedding speeches in no time. Next I will present you some valuable WRITING TIPS. First of all, your speech must be:

Tip 3: SHORT, SIMPLE and SINCERE !

While you are thinking to all the things that you would like to include in your groom wedding speech and while you are composing it, you must remember that

Your guests came to the wedding to have FUN, not to listen an academical oration!

This is the first and most important reason you should keep your speech SHORT. Otherwise, you risk to bore your guests and make them dislike completely your speech. So, if you want to make a good impression, don’t forget that




Your speech should last maximum 5 minutes (3 minutes is perfect)!

Another reason why you must have a short speech is that there may be other guests who would like to speak. Don’t make them wait too long!

Respect their time! The second most important quality of a groom speech is that it should be SIMPLE. When creating the speech, use your own words to express your thoughts and feelings!

Don’t use useless, boring and annoying flourishes! Don’t force yourself to include a brilliant vocabulary and sophisticated expressions, because, if you do that, you will end up having a cold and even strange speech, that will not impress anybody; moreover, your audience will notice that you wanted very much to amaze and the huge difference between your intention and the result will be ridiculous. So,

Use the beauty of simplicity to create the perfect speech!

Try to express yourself clearly, making sure that your message reaches its recipient. Don’t use double-meaning words! Instead,

Be clear, brief and to the point!

Another thing you should keep in mind while writing the speech is that it must be SINCERE. Express your true feelings. Speak from your heart – this is what really impresses others (especially your bride).

DON’T SAY what others expect you to say IF you DON’T BELIEVE it!

Say only what you really feel, not what others would like to hear from you!

If you don’t do that, your audience will figure out that you are lying and the value of your speech will decrease significantly. Besides being short, simple and sincere, your groom wedding speech should also ...




Tip 4: FOLLOW the STANDARD STRUCTURE The groom wedding speech should follow the standard format (structure) of any composition, which means that your speech should contain the 3 main parts:

1. the INTRODUCTION

2. the BODY

3. the CONCLUSION.

Here’s what you should do in the INTRODUCTION:

if someone else has spoken before you, thank to your previous speaker or the person who presented you – just say “Thank you!” -, then

make a short pause, while waiting the guests to become quiet (to stop

applauding the previous speaker and you), then

the best thing to do next is to recite an inspirational quote or a poem (about love, marriage, etc.) or even a joke, to grab the attention of your audience; after that,

if you are the first to give a speech, welcome the guests and thank them for coming to your wedding, for their gifts, etc. It’s a good idea to offer some gifts to the most important persons at the wedding, while thanking to them. At the end of your introduction, don’t forget to

give special thanks to: those who helped you organize the wedding, the best man, the maid of honor, the family of your bride, yours, and to whoever you want; make sure that, for every person or group of persons, you mention the reason for which you are grateful to them.

In the BODY, you can take into account the following suggestions:

say what marriage means to you,

what are your hopes for the marriage,

from whom and what you have learned about the married life (e.g. from your

parents, uncles, friends, etc.)

how you and your bride met,

what were the first impressions,




tell your bride how much you appreciate her and how lucky you are that you

met her, etc.

In the CONCLUSION, you can:

finish your speech with a toast to who you want: your bride, all the guests, your

parents, etc., or

end it with a famous quote, poem or a good joke.

Here are some other very useful tips to keep in mind while creating your speech:

The speech should not take more than 5 minutes!

The purpose of the groom wedding speech is to thank everyone who helped you to prepare the wedding ceremony and especially your bride, your family and hers.

Your speech should have a main theme (be centered around a main theme), like: how important marriage is, how special your bride is, how lucky you are that you met her, etc.

These must be the KEYWORDS of any groom wedding speech - in decreasing order of importance (in the speech): bride, family, love, loyalty, devotion, commitment.

Be sure, while preparing and delivering your speech, that the attention stays on the bride! So you must not only include her in your speech, but also the whole speech should be focused on your bride.

You must NOT mention PAST RELATIONSHIPS! Telling about your ex-girlfriends would hurt your bride’s and her family’s feelings and can even destroy your whole speech!

If you use all the tips I revealed to you by now, there are still some steps you need to make in order to have a perfect groom wedding speech. One of this steps is to ...

Tip 5: ADD A TOUCH OF HUMOR !




In their attempt to create the perfect speech, many grooms end up having a cold speech, without personality. So, if you want to have an interesting and memorable speech, include a touch of humor in your speech!

Don't be too formal !

In order to make a good impression on your bride, family and guests, your speech should be a balanced mixture of emotion and good humor! Here is what you accomplish if you add a little humor to your speech (the advantages of using good jokes):

You grab immediately the attention of your audience and make them listen your speech very carefully, instead of hardly waiting it to finish.

You entertain your audience, creating a warm and friendly atmosphere!

You create yourself an interesting image – the one of a funny, positive and happy man!

You relax yourself and the whole atmosphere!

You get rid of the emotions inherent in any speech.

Good jokes keep you (and your speech) from being boring!

A little good humor will make your speech memorable, so everyone present at your wedding will remember your speech and will talk about it with a lot of pleasure.

Probably you have noticed that I used the expressions “good jokes” and “good humor” several times by now. Let me explain you what I understand by these phrases:

The jokes you use in your speech must be chosen with a lot of care, because, when you are joking, you must

Be careful not to hurt anyone’s feelings – especially your bride’s !

You must not exaggerate and create a totally funny speech! (I’m sure you don’t want to look like a buffoon.) So, don’t include too many jokes!

Don't turn yourself into a clown!




In order to achieve that, remember:

Don’t drink alcohol until after your speech!

If you want to make sure that you will not exaggerate with the jokes, use the following test - ASK yourself:

Are these jokes consistent with my ideal image?

You may wonder now where to include the funny lines in your speech. Well, you should do that:

in the body, especially: o when you say what you have learned about the married life, o what are your hopes for the marriage, o how your life changed after you met your bride, etc.

in the introduction, immediately after making the pause (for waiting the guests to calm);

in the conclusion. But even if you follow the previous tips, there may be some shortcomings that keep your speech from being the best. In order to fix that, you must ...

Tip 6: COORDINATE the SPEECHES ! Another important thing you must pay attention to while composing your speech is the coordination of your speech with the other ones. You shouldn’t say the same things (stories, quotes, jokes, etc.) with your previous speakers. In order to do that,

Try to find out what they want to include in their speeches! The most important speech you must coordinate with is your bride’s (if she will have one). That’s why, first of all, you must

Find out if your bride wants to have her own speech.

If she doesn't, then you should speak for both of you. But if she does, make sure that the contents of your speeches are different.




Otherwise, you risk to bore the guests. But if there is a story that both of you want to include in your speeches,

Tell it from different points of view.

Once you’ve decided together what each tells, the next thing you must do is to

Find out what persons will give speeches before you at the wedding.

According to the tradition, the groom’s speech must follow those of the parents. Talk to them and find out what they will include in their speeches. While all the 6 tips presented by now help you COMPOSE (CREATE) the best groom wedding speech, the next 4 secrets will enable you to DELIVER the speech in the best possible way, making you look like a professional public speaker. But, before detailing the next 4 tips, let me explain you briefly ...

The IMPORTANCE of PRESENTATION Unfortunately, most grooms don’t know that

The secret behind the perfect speech is a successful presentation!

When you are giving a speech (no matter what kind of speech, this is valid even for an academical oration), it is important not only the content of your speech (in this case, the content of your groom wedding speech), but also the way you present that content. Actually,

The presentation of any speech is many times even more important than the content.

That is because, no matter how interesting the content of your speech is, if you don’t know how to tell it, you will not make a good impression and the value of your speech will decrease significantly (even if it contains brilliant ideas). On the other hand, if your speech does not contain extraordinary ideas, but you tell them as if they were very smart, you will look like an interesting and important person, and the audience will remember your speech with pleasure.




ATTENTION: That doesn’t mean you should neglect the content, but to

Pay attention equally both to the content and the presentation!

The presentation is so valuable because, nowadays, the attitude is more important than the real value of any person. Or, to say it in other words, most of the people "judge the books by their covers". This is why you must pay attention equally both to the content and the presentation, because the presentation is actually the "cover" of your speech. Hoping that I made you understand why the presentation of the speech is so important, let’s begin with the first tip for a successful presentation:

Tip 7: INTERACT with your AUDIENCE ! The interesting thing that all the successful public speakers have in common is that they interact with their audience. They don’t speak as if they were at school. Instead, they

Involve the audience in their speech!

Which is something your should do too, if you want to have a perfect groom wedding speech.

Here’s how you can do that (it’s not very difficult, don’t worry): Look at each guest in the eyes, not in only one direction!

Speak as if you were conversing with an old friend, not like reciting a poem at

school!

Address directly to your audience as often as you can! Use the pronoun “you” many times.

Ask your guests questions during the speech! Tag questions are very suitable

for this. Or just say things like: “you know very well that ..”, “you all know that ...”, “don’t you think?”, “you can imagine”, etc. You can include these expressions when you say what you have learned about the married life (from your father, uncles, friends, etc.), or when you use jokes (be careful not to offend anyone !!!).

REMEMBER:




The most important person you must interact with during the speech is your BRIDE!

DON’T talk AS IF your BRIDE would NOT BE THERE !

Here are the best 3 ways of interacting with your bride during the speech:

When you speak about things that concern both of you (e.g. when you met her, what you appreciate the most at her, etc.), you should turn to her, look her into the eyes and address her directly.

Hold her hand at the time of maximum intensity of your speech (e.g. when you tell her how much you love her or that you want to spend the rest of your life with her).

If your bride doesn’t want to have her own speech, then you should speak for

both of you. In this case, it’s advisable to include in your speech, as often as possible, “my wife and I” and “we”.

By having your audience involved in your speech (through interaction), you achieve 5 things - which are the great advantages of the interaction:

keep the audience focused on your speech,

make your speech informal - which is a desirable quality of any successful groom wedding speech,

make the guests feel important (like they are a part of your family) and,

consequently,

your speech will be highly appreciated and

you will create the image of a special man. The most important advantage of interacting with your audience is the fact that, this way, you will create the image of a confident, positive and happy man.

But, besides involving your guests in your speech, there are 2 other methods that help you CREATE A PERFECT IMAGE of yourself. The first one of these is ...

Tip 8: ACT AS IF !




“ACT AS IF” is an extremely powerful tool that will help you:

increase your self-confidence get rid of the emotions inherent in any speech look and behave like a professional public speaker.

Here’s what you must do in order to use this valuable tool:

While you are:

thinking to, composing and especially while you are delivering

your groom wedding speech, be careful to:

IMAGINE that:

o you are a very professional, experienced and successful public speaker;

o speaking in public – and especially in front of a large audience - is something very easy for you to do, something that you are very accustomed with;

o you are very self-confident;

o the situation is under your control.

ASK yourself:

o "How would a confident, experienced and successful public speaker

behave while giving a speech?” o “How would he speak?” o “What would be the tone of his voice?” o “What would be his gestures?” o “How and where would he look?” o “What words would he use?”

And DO the SAME !




While you are giving your speech, you must permanently "ACT AS IF" you were the best public speaker in the world, the most experienced and successful one. “Acting as if” is a technique that really works - in the psychology of self-development, it's largely known that, when you model a person's behavior and thoughts, you will eventually become and feel like that person. In addition to “acting as if”, there is another extremely powerful and valuable method for creating a perfect image of yourself, and that is ...

Tip 9: REMEMBER YOUR IMAGE ! All the time, while you are:

thinking to,

preparing and

giving your speech, you must:

Remember this very important thing:

the IMPRESSION you want to leave to your audience!

It’s highly recommended that you leave the following best impression - the one of a:

respectable tender mature sincere serious elegant confident positive funny happy

person.

Although the funny speeches are highly appreciated, you must be careful not to exaggerate with the jokes, neither be too serious. In order to make sure that the impression you leave to your guests is the one that you want – the desirable one -, all the time you:




think, prepare, create and deliver

the speech, you must ASK yourself:

“Does this action/gesture/joke/word etc.bring me closer to the image I want to create?”

“Is this action/reaction/gesture/joke/word/intention etc. consistent with my ideal image?”

o If the answer to these questions is “NO”, DON’T DO IT!

o You must use the previous 2 questions all the time, like a powerful “filter” for your (re)actions, words, jokes etc.

o These 2 questions are the best test for your next move.

“What is the proper reaction/word/expression etc. in this situation?”

“How should I behave during the speech so that the image I create of myself

is the one of a respectable, tender, mature, sincere, serious, elegant, confident, positive, funny and happy man?”

o The last two questions above are perfect to determine your next best

move. But even if you follow these 9 powerful tips for having the best grom wedding speech, your speech is still not perfect, unless you, additionally, ...

Tip 10: PRACTICE your SPEECH ! I hope I made you understand by now that, if you want to have the perfect groom wedding speech, it is important not only the content of your speech, but also the way you deliver this content – the presentation of the speech. In order to have the perfect presentation, you must

REPEAT your speech at least 7 times before the wedding!

In repeating the speech, it is of great help to:




write the whole speech on a piece of paper – from which you will read it a couple of times before the wedding

write the most important ideas of your speech (and the names of the persons you must not forget to thank) on a few cards - that you can keep discreetly in your hand and from where you can inspire (and remember the content) while delivering the speech.

ATTENTION: While delivering your speech,

Don’t read it as a literary text at school!

That is why you should not keep the whole written speech with you, but only the cards – from which you must only inspire, not read. So, in order to make sure that you will not look like a pupil who says the lesson at school, in front of the teacher - You certainly want to look like a grown man, don’t you? -, you must

PRACTICE the speech MANY TIMES !

Here are the important things that you achieve by practicing the speech:

you easily memorize it

you get used to speaking in front of a large audience

o that's why you must practice VISUALISATION while repeating the speech - you must imagine that you are at the wedding and all the guests are looking at you (review the first tip)

o by practicing visualization, you get rid of the emotions inherent in any speech

you can estimate the time needed to give your speech

o if your speech lasts longer than 5 minutes (3 minutes is perfect), you

must review the speech and eliminate the less important ideas. Finally, DON’T FORGET to:

Take a DEEP BREATH before beginning your speech!




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