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In every office (no matter the size or age of the company), there is always that one guy whose ego can’t seem to fit in the room when you or your team is in it. There are many ways to identify this guy with the big ego, he… • Overly uses the word “I” or “Me” when he should be saying “Us” or “We” • Is consistently telling everyone in the office about his great ideas, how he is the one driving the results, and how nothing gets done unless he is working on it • Feels that he must micromanage everyone around him in order to feel like he is in control of everything • Likes to delegate projects and tasks to everyone else, because he is bigger than that remedial task • Is constantly one upping everyone with his better story, nicer office, and commissions earned • Makes sure that everyone in the room knows he is there
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Battling Big Egos at Work
Key Points • Keep calm and remain selfless • Take big actions and diminish his ego • There’s strength in numbers, it’s about the efforts of the team In every office (no matter the size or age of the company), there is always that one guy whose ego can’t seem to fit in the room when you or your team is in it. There are many ways to identify this guy with the big ego, he… • Overly uses the word “I” or “Me” when he should be saying “Us” or “We” • Is consistently telling everyone in the office about his great ideas, how he is the
one driving the results, and how nothing gets done unless he is working on it • Feels that he must micromanage everyone around him in order to feel like he is
in control of everything • Likes to delegate projects and tasks to everyone else, because he is bigger than
that remedial task • Is constantly one upping everyone with his better story, nicer office, and
commissions earned • Makes sure that everyone in the room knows he is there
Art of the Wingman for Business is dedicated to the businesswomen and businessmen who seek greatness beyond their own and find their successes through helping others succeed. The Business Wingman follows the path of the selfless person.
Pretty much, you’re feeling that his ego is driving you crazy and is making you feel like screaming at the top of your lungs. There are probably times when you just want to punch him in the face. But, don’t give in to his attitude and remember the guiding principles of the Business Wingman. Remember that your selfless actions will only diminish his ego and raise the visibility of your team. Business Wingman Definition: A Wingman is anyone who selflessly supports others into and around any social or business situation, and cares more for the team’s welfare and success than his/her own. Here are 3 key points to battling that office ego: 1) Keep calm and remain selfless. Remember that as a Wingman, you have the duty of staying strong for your team and setting the example of how to battle big egos. The first thing is, don’t let his ego get to you and let it diminish you or your team’s morale. Secondly, it’s important to understand that the origin of his ego may be fear. Psychologists have made parallels to egos and fear, in that the more they fear the world around them, the more they use ego to shield themselves from reality. Maybe it could be that he has a fear of failure and is masking that fear with ego. No matter the reasoning, remember that the acts of the selfless Wingman have no fear because he relies on the power of his team, and collectively the efforts of that team will prevail. 2) There’s strength in numbers, it’s about the efforts of the team. A great reference to team is one from Malcolm Gladwell’s book, The Tipping Point. He writes about the Power of Context and that the small things that a group of
people does can influence its environment. The influence that he refers to is not solely the actions of just you, the Wingman. He is referring to the actions of a group of people or the team that can cause things to tip. "Human Behavior is sensitive to and strongly influenced by its environment. As Malcolm Gladwell says, ‘Epidemics are sensitive to the conditions and circumstances of the times and places in which they occur’" Wikipedia/The Tipping Point. Your Wingman duty is to be that team catalyst and influence the change in behavior of the team. Drive your team to success and you will see the situation tip. This in turn will drive change and force big egos out of the office place. 3) Take big actions and diminish his ego. Referring to Gladwell’s notion of the Tipping Point, he also refers to his concept, The Law of the Few. This law is similar to the 80/20 Principle, “which is the idea that in any situation roughly 80 percent of the 'work' will be done by 20 percent of the participants" Wikipedia/The Tipping Point. He furthers says that 3 different types of people enact this Law usually: Connectors, Mavens, and Salesmen. In every group, there will be one of each and your job as the Wingman is to be the catalyst for each of these 3 types of people. Enabling your team to act and continue to drive results in the workplace will create great actions that will overshadow his ego and the Wingman and his team will prevail. Remember that as a Business Wingman, patience is a virtue and acting at the appropriate time makes all the difference. Timing is everything. Amidst the chaos of the workday, you need to remember to stay true to your guiding principles and that the selfless acts of the wingman will overshadow his ego and prevail in the long term. Visit our blog at http://www.artofthewingman.com.